Do you let your boyfriend/friends drive your car?

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    Jun 17, 2011 4:00 AM GMT
    So I was watching 1 of the court shows today about a girl who let her boyfriend drive someone else's car and banged it up.

    It got me thinking...my 1 pet peeve about being in any kind of relationship whether it be with friends or a boyfriend is that someone ALWAYS wants to drive my car. And my thing is I absolutely do not like anyone but me drive my car. It is like the most annoying thing for someone to pester me about it but I seem to always meet guys with no car and eventually once they get to know me, they wanna drive.

    I remember one guy flipped out me because I wouldn't let him drive, but I suspected he was on some drugs. I wasn't going to let him near my steering wheel. He starts yelling at me that I don't trust him, and he like jumped out my car in an instant.

    I've had other guys get into debates with me about driving my car and I will say no, no, no every time.

    My thing is, if you wanna drive...get your own car. Because if you wreck my shit you not going to be able to buy me a new one. And it's almost always someone who barely has a license and no car.

    I was hanging out with a guy who lent this guy he was on a 1st date with his keys to his Jetta. And he was the ones driving it all the while, I thought that was HIS car. He couldn't find him at the club and was his friend was like, "he has your keys too?" He was like, "yep". I thought to myself, how and why would you give someone you just met your car keys. Eventually they ended up finding each other but I was like, wow...

    Any of you guys trusty enough to let someone do it? I mean...maybe if you've been together for years that's different but these guys want to get behind the wheel after a few dates! To me the easiest way to ruin a relationship with me is to bug me about driving my car every time I pick you up...That is, unless you have a car of your own LOL
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    Jun 17, 2011 5:34 AM GMT
    maybe your friend is a bot and he likes the idea of someone taking control. I once let this guy drove my car and he was somewhat a reckless driver. I was so afraid we would gotten into a car accident but thank god we didn't. Anyway he was hot so it paid off. However lesson learned
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    Jun 17, 2011 5:40 AM GMT
    alastiar saidmaybe your friend is a bot and he likes the idea of someone taking control. I once let this guy drove my car and he was somewhat a reckless driver. I was so afraid we would gotten into a car accident but thank god we didn't. Anyway he was hot so it paid off. However lesson learned


    LOL, well if someone wants to take control they can do so in the bedroom. Or at the mall in the food court...

    I've noticed lately lots of women in my neighborhood are behind the wheel and their boyfriend/husband sits in the passenger side. So driving a car shouldn't make anyone feel more or less masculine.

    That said...I do a heck of a lot of driving so I do appreciate being in the passenger side occasionally. But not when it's my own car! I gotta date guys with vehicles. I've dated enough who didn't already...

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    Jun 17, 2011 5:54 AM GMT
    Fit4FitnDenver said
    alastiar saidmaybe your friend is a bot and he likes the idea of someone taking control. I once let this guy drove my car and he was somewhat a reckless driver. I was so afraid we would gotten into a car accident but thank god we didn't. Anyway he was hot so it paid off. However lesson learned


    LOL, well if someone wants to take control they can do so in the bedroom. Or at the mall in the food court...

    I've noticed lately lots of women in my neighborhood are behind the wheel and their boyfriend/husband sits in the passenger side. So driving a car shouldn't make anyone feel more or less masculine.

    That said...I do a heck of a lot of driving so I do appreciate being in the passenger side occasionally. But not when it's my own car! I gotta date guys with vehicles. I've dated enough who didn't already...



    maybe the idea of giving the other person a bj while driving turn them on, you know. I seen that kind of stuff on xtube before.

    anyway either that or drive a less expensive car that way nobody would take your own wheel. Do you drive a R8? or 5series or Porsche Cayenne.
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    Jun 17, 2011 2:58 PM GMT
    If he's on the insurance, the only sober person, or it's an emergency, sure.
    Otherwise, no.
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    Jun 17, 2011 3:04 PM GMT
    I don't mind my bf driving my car but I make sure he treats it well, and I usually only let him if I'm in the car too - he's got his own car if he wants to drive somewhere!

    I don't much like driving when he's in the car though, he criticises too much icon_mad.gif So if we're going somewhere together he'll usually drive, whether my car or his.

    No one else drives my car though. Not that I'm that precious about it, it just never comes up.
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    Jun 17, 2011 3:07 PM GMT
    N O ! ! ! icon_eek.gif
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    Jun 17, 2011 3:08 PM GMT
    I have a few car enthusiast friends that I have let drive it because they are like me. But regular folk, not a chance.
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    Jun 17, 2011 3:09 PM GMT
    I have never dated anyone (on purpose) who needed to borrow my car to get around.
    When my partner and I are in my car - i drive. When my partner and I are in his car - i drive. Needless to say, i like being in control and so does he icon_biggrin.gif
    Would i let him borrow my car? NP
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    Jun 17, 2011 3:14 PM GMT
    I wish my bf would drive my car.

    I hate driving everywhere.
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    Jun 17, 2011 3:16 PM GMT
    no, because I don't have a car, lol. Honestly, living in nyc, you really don't need one when public transit is everywhere you need to go. There are exceptions, for instance when I need to get somewhere out of state or into the deeper/further parts of NYC, but that's rare, and I just go back to my parent's place and borrow one of their cars, even renting one which isn't that expensive. I drive maybe a total of 20-30 days a year.

    As to the question, if i had a car, I probably would be the one driving it, mainly because it's a huge expense, you don't want it to go to waste at the hands of anyone else. That sounds selfish, but it's true.
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    Jun 17, 2011 3:22 PM GMT
    Nope. However careful they say they will be, they are unlikely to treat it as well as you do. My only exception is that I have allowed trusted friends or relatives to drive mine (insured) while I have been deployed overseas for several months. Leaving a car standing for weeks on end does it no good at all.

    Btw, was it Judge Judy? "You let him drive da cwaa, so you gotta pay!"
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    Jun 17, 2011 3:27 PM GMT
    My spouse and I live together and each have our own vehicles but when we had one car we shared. (yes I know it's a bit different when you live with someone).

    HOWEVER, when we go out I normally let him drive my car because I drive around quite a bit for work (real estate) and I like to be a passenger and relax sometimes. I also loan my car to our neighbours every so often. I find it easier to do that then take time out to drive them somewhere if they need a vehicle. (usually to pick something up etc and normally only about twice a year). When we go away they look after our house and have free use of both vehicles. It's a perk that comes with house sitting.

    That's what insurance is for in the event that something does happen when they're driving. That being said I won't loan my vehicle out to just anyone. It has to be someone I trust.
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    Jun 17, 2011 3:29 PM GMT
    Pure saidI don't mind my bf driving my car but I make sure he treats it well, and I usually only let him if I'm in the car too - he's got his own car if he wants to drive somewhere!

    I don't much like driving when he's in the car though, he criticises too much icon_mad.gif So if we're going somewhere together he'll usually drive, whether my car or his.

    No one else drives my car though. Not that I'm that precious about it, it just never comes up.

    My boyfriend and I made a deal not to criticize each others driving when travelling together. It's made our drives so much better and less annoying. LOL
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    Jun 17, 2011 3:48 PM GMT
    Xelorate saidMy spouse and I live together and each have our own vehicles but when we had one car we shared. (yes I know it's a bit different when you live with someone).

    HOWEVER, when we go out I normally let him drive my car because I drive around quite a bit for work (real estate) and I like to be a passenger and relax sometimes. I also loan my car to our neighbours every so often. I find it easier to do that then take time out to drive them somewhere if they need a vehicle. (usually to pick something up etc and normally only about twice a year). When we go away they look after our house and have free use of both vehicles. It's a perk that comes with house sitting.

    That's what insurance is for in the event that something does happen when they're driving. That being said I won't loan my vehicle out to just anyone. It has to be someone I trust.


    Might want to double check your insurance policy. Most companies only cover the authorized drivers on the policy.
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    Jun 17, 2011 4:29 PM GMT
    I couldn't care less about people driving my car/driving other people's cars, but nobody knows how to drive a 5 speed, so nobody's driving my car.

    It actually kind of sucks. I can't take my car on road trips, I can't get drunk and have someone drive me home, and I can't be chauffeured around when I'm too lazy to drive.

    I do always enjoy driving my friends' cars, though, even more so when the car is stick. Something about figuring out where on the clutch the engine engages the transmission and noticing all the small differences in the way the car behaves under certain conditions... simply awesome. Most of my friends don't care and I usually wind up driving someone's car at some point any time I go out. I can't get enough of it.

    Now I want a new car to play with. icon_sad.gif

    I should've been a driver for NASCAR. Fuck college.
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    Jun 17, 2011 7:47 PM GMT
    LOL, no that's the funny part I don't even drive a fancy sports car. I also hate the part about people criticizing me for driving. I used to do the same though but my brother hated it!

    I go 5-10 miles over the speed limit and people are saying I drive too slow! Like, are you going to pay for my ticket mother fucker?

    1 of my friends used to really annoy me. We were driving from Tampa to Orlando one day in my car and he's going 100 mph with 1 hand on the wheel smoking a cigarette. He's reaching for his lighter and the car swerves into the right lane. I almost had a heart attack. He would really make me upset about that.

    Zettabyte saidI couldn't care less about people driving my car/driving other people's cars, but nobody knows how to drive a 5 speed, so nobody's driving my car.

    It actually kind of sucks. I can't take my car on road trips,


    Why not? If you look at the map on my profile I did all of that alone...Driving road trips alone is something that can be acquired. It just takes practice.

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    That's what insurance is for in the event that something does happen when they're driving. That being said I won't loan my vehicle out to just anyone. It has to be someone I trust.


    Not really. Depending what company you have, If they aren't on the insurance as a driver the insurance company doesn't have to pay it.

    Last year someone hit my car, took off...and then told his insurance company that some 'phantom driver' name unknown was driving his car. And for that, the insurance company didn't pay me.

    So after that, I REALLY don't let anyone touch my car LOL.
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    Jun 17, 2011 7:50 PM GMT
    My boyfriend was always afraid to drive my SUV and I didn't like driving his car. But we both had our own and really had no reason to drive each others.

    I don't know how comfortable I would feel about my boyfriend driving my car all the time (except that I don't have one now, nyc ftw). I used to drive a lot and not having my car available would annoy me icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 17, 2011 8:03 PM GMT
    We switch sometimes just to drive something different. I wouldn't let other people drive my car or some dude I just started banging but we've been together long enough that we both trust each other. If you can't trust them to drive your car you may have more problems with that. Gotta be able to trust the person you're dating icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 17, 2011 8:46 PM GMT
    Fit4FitnDenver saidAny of you guys trusty enough to let someone do it?

    Sure, and my friends, too. It's only a car. The only thing I never loan is a motorcycle, because of the special skills required to handle it.

    My future partner always gave me his car keys if I needed them when we were first dating. Then when he wrecked that car himself, I bought him a new one. A car is merely a commodity, not an irreplaceable family heirloom. In a few years you get a new one anyway. What's the fucking big deal?

    Naturally I wouldn't give a car to a stranger I barely know, but a BF? Hell, we've lent this current car to friends visiting us from Europe. It's all a question of judgment, but no car means that much to us, and why we refuse to spend a lot on them. They're just an appliance you replace every few years.
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    Jun 17, 2011 8:47 PM GMT
    I don't have a car but if i did no i wouldn't
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    Jun 17, 2011 8:50 PM GMT
    No, I can barely stand it in when I'm in their car. I know too many unsafe drivers. It seems like women especially like to look around while driving. Keep your eyes on the road!
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    Jun 17, 2011 9:12 PM GMT
    It's only a car. Big deal. It's replaceable.
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    Jun 18, 2011 12:29 PM GMT
    Yes but only because I absolutely hate driving. if I could, I'd pay someone to drive me around.
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    Jun 18, 2011 12:38 PM GMT
    Not at all... of course all my vehicles are stick shift, so that is an impairment to certain family members who never learned....icon_biggrin.gif

    As far as my partner, I probably would have no issue with him driving one of my cars.... he actually drove me home when I was released from the hospital last fall.