Hurt feelings...

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    Jun 17, 2011 6:04 AM GMT
    I got a post on my Facebook wall this morning from a past coworker friend, we'll call him Joseph, who said to me "You're so weird, I'm passing the computer around and we all agree you need a life and a face change bahaha." He then unfriended me. I emailed him asking about the completely unprovoked verbal abuse, that it was very rude, and he replied

    "Ha your just a fat ugly loser that will never have a cute man and I know I'm gorgeous and your not bahaha have fun.ugly boy"

    He had a boyfriend himself, so I mentioned what anyone could ever see in him being so mean like that, and that his boyfriend deserved better. I said I thought he was my friend, but he replied "Never had a potentiAL to be friend, my friend are all 10 s if not then they can hang with.somebody else.. haha"

    I tried to not let it get to me, but when I got home from working my night shift, I had to cry...It just didn't make any sense. I didn't do or say anything to him at all that would've warranted it. Felt so middle school and not worth mulling over at all. But I just don't understand. I try to be super nice to everyone I ever meet and I just want to be friends with everyone. So I know I can be kinda quirky and quieter and slower to warm up to larger crowds of people, and I don't have to go get smashed face drunk every weekend to have fun. And I know I'm not hunky yet, I've still have a ways to go cutting body fat despite what tremendous weight I've lost this last year. He just wanted to cut me down and make me feel incompetent and unlikable... icon_cry.gif
  • JP85257

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    Jun 17, 2011 6:15 AM GMT
    You need to track him down and get all sorts of amazing revenge. What a piece of shit.

    Make him pay.
  • JP85257

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    Jun 17, 2011 6:18 AM GMT
    Send me an email for suggestions. Im the master and this mother fucker needs to PAY.
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    Jun 17, 2011 6:18 AM GMT


    "And I know I'm not hunky yet, I've still have a ways to go cutting body fat despite what tremendous weight I've lost this last year."

    This bothered me a little, because you look so thin in your pic!

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    Jun 17, 2011 6:23 AM GMT
    You should link his Facebook profile page... icon_twisted.gif

    When it comes to people like this,They fail to realize that there is always going to be someone right be hind them that can come at them twice as hard with words. Karma is a bitch...
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    Jun 17, 2011 6:24 AM GMT
    meninlove said

    "And I know I'm not hunky yet, I've still have a ways to go cutting body fat despite what tremendous weight I've lost this last year."

    This bothered me a little, because you look so thin in your pic!



    I actually do have some body fat on me. The picture is just really flattering.
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    Jun 17, 2011 6:25 AM GMT
    Does he have an RJ?
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    Jun 17, 2011 6:26 AM GMT
    I don't think so. But if you want to see his facebook profile, it's this one. https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1616253281
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    Jun 17, 2011 6:28 AM GMT
    Szchatt89 saidI don't think so. But if you want to see his facebook profile, it's this one. https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1616253281


    Eww. What a skinny ass mofo.
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    Jun 17, 2011 6:33 AM GMT
    Keep ur chin up. No matter what your intentions are, there's always some jerk that's gonna have something nasty to say about it. Fuck em. If he feels the need to tear you down for something, he really doesnt like himself.
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    Jun 17, 2011 6:33 AM GMT
    I wouldn't worry too much about it, as he'll most likely get what's coming to him...probably by his own doing.


    Quote:Ha your just a fat ugly loser that will never have a cute man and I know I'm gorgeous and your not bahaha have fun.ugly boy-Unquote


    And it definitely sounds like he's jealous of you and your weight loss.
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    Jun 17, 2011 6:35 AM GMT
    86' the homeboy ... and...maka' clean and sharp cut-out... meaning: do everything you can to wash your hands of it, and go about your life...... if someone reaches a ' new high in low ' let the gnarly fuck go, st8 up! ... Move forward... you will pull through..... trust that, please...icon_idea.gificon_wink.gificon_wink.gif
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    Jun 17, 2011 6:35 AM GMT
    He sounds like a douche bag-acting, bully-style verbal abuser... those are usually heavily self-depressed and self-hating and make everyone else feel worse just so they have company.. as Kim Kardashian said.... "people only rain on yor parade, cuz they're jealous of your sunlight and tired of their raincloud"

    Amazingly wise words from this woman, eh?
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    Jun 17, 2011 6:36 AM GMT
    FearTheFall said
    Szchatt89 saidI don't think so. But if you want to see his facebook profile, it's this one. https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1616253281


    Eww. What a skinny ass mofo.


    Dunno why, but you saying that here makes you seem like such a sweet guy lol
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    Jun 17, 2011 6:43 AM GMT
    Yeah, I should just really keep my head high and let it go. But it was just such a personal attack that you kinda replay it over your head. You think about how he said he was with a bunch of people, at some party probably, he's gossiping about you, showing the facebook profile and pics, and saying awful things about them, they're likely all laughing and agreeing.
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    Jun 17, 2011 7:12 AM GMT
    Szchatt89 saidYeah, I should just really keep my head high and let it go. But it was just such a personal attack that you kinda replay it over your head. You think about how he said he was with a bunch of people, at some party probably, he's gossiping about you, showing the facebook profile and pics, and saying awful things about them, they're likely all laughing and agreeing.


    If you ever see him in public or any of his friends that you know are on his bitch team,Just Ignore them. Mean people like to get a reaction out of people and when you ignore them,Act as if they don't exist anymore, It really gets under their skin.

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    Jun 17, 2011 7:48 AM GMT
    It's easy to say don't obsess over it but do your best not to. BTW you're hardly fat at 5'10 and 156 pounds or so.
    Actually you could even use this negative energy to your advantage by redirecting it towards working out harder and getting in great shape. The prize.. you'll end up with body beautiful and then literally throw it in his face. Sort of a sweet revenge. He's hardly the epitome of body beautiful. Nothing more than average
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    Jun 17, 2011 7:56 AM GMT
    Szchatt89 saidI got a post on my Facebook wall this morning from a past coworker friend, we'll call him Joseph, who said to me "You're so weird, I'm passing the computer around and we all agree you need a life and a face change bahaha." He then unfriended me. I emailed him asking about the completely unprovoked verbal abuse, that it was very rude, and he replied

    "Ha your just a fat ugly loser that will never have a cute man and I know I'm gorgeous and your not bahaha have fun.ugly boy"


    Dude, you need to get even and throw eggs at his face. That's totally unwarranted.
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    Jun 17, 2011 7:58 AM GMT
    Szchatt89 saidYeah, I should just really keep my head high and let it go. But it was just such a personal attack that you kinda replay it over your head. You think about how he said he was with a bunch of people, at some party probably, he's gossiping about you, showing the facebook profile and pics, and saying awful things about them, they're likely all laughing and agreeing.


    I seriously doubt that it's the party he was presenting it to be. Sounds more like a bitter party of one lashing out at someone they feel threatened by. If his friends really are like that though, then that's an entire entourage of losers you can eliminate from your life.

    I think we can all relate to the mental replay button on something or other. i went through a bit of that today myself. It really does no good so I hope we both hit the stop button by morning.
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    Jun 17, 2011 9:32 AM GMT
    That's terrible, but he was just trolling, that's why his replies got meaner as he went. DO NOT subject yourself to him any more. He's cooking up more nastiness for you so don't give him the opportunity, even if he apologizes for this. It was an attack, not just a random insult. Don't try to get revenge either, he isn't worth the planning and execution. Besides, taking bloody revenge changes people.

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  • JP85257

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    Jun 17, 2011 9:58 AM GMT
    This person needs to be punished.
  • Nayro

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    Jun 17, 2011 11:15 AM GMT
    like he is such a beauty.. what an ass!
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    Jun 17, 2011 11:44 AM GMT
    Not likely any advice I could posit that stands out from those opinions already offered. Avoid the revenge and punitive models if reacting to this guy's ignorance. Simply ignore him, and let it go. Easier said than done perhaps, but you walk away with your dignity intact.
  • Iakona

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    Jun 17, 2011 1:38 PM GMT
    This is such a defense mechanism.... He needs to put someone else down in order to make himself feel better.....I never really understood that concept, but that's what it is.... I used to have guys make fun of me all the time.... I was a bit of a nerd in high school.....Just be the best person you can be....
    The best form of revenge is being really happy in your own life.... Bullying a Bully never feels that good in the end.....
  • Webster666

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    Jun 17, 2011 8:52 PM GMT
    Come and sit by me.
    There's nothing wrong with you.
    So, keep on being the friendly guy that you are.

    The bully who's taunting you obviously has mental and emotional problems, including an inferiority complex.