Attraction

  • Joeyphx444

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    Jun 17, 2011 4:45 PM GMT
    How do you know exactly who you attract and how can you change it?? (if it's not what you want of course)
  • Vaughn

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    Jun 17, 2011 6:19 PM GMT
    I attract mostly older men and obese people. I think that is representative of the mean of the population.In terms of the population...
    n = eh
    n = not realistic

    ... I would say to change it, increase the sample size then make a selection.
  • Vaughn

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    Jun 17, 2011 7:24 PM GMT
    Look at who they come on to then be more like those people. You'd be surprised though...
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    Jun 17, 2011 7:26 PM GMT
    Vaughn saidI attract mostly older men and obese people.

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  • Vaughn

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    Jun 17, 2011 7:33 PM GMT
    TrevorMark said
    Vaughn saidI attract mostly older men and obese people.

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    There is nothing wrong with it, I just don't want to have sex with it. Which isn't even what I was saying, rather that at the age of 25, most of the population is older and in America most of the population is Obese. In terms of Statistics, that is your mean. No matter what you do, most people who are going to be into you are going to fall somewhere there on the bell curve. Have realistic expectations and increase your search population. Go to different bars and not just the same ones. Consider clubs or teams. Or just GO HOME and wank it by yourself.
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    Jun 17, 2011 7:37 PM GMT
    Change your thinking, change your life. Can you elaborate on what men you are attracting and what you would like to attract?
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    Jun 17, 2011 7:38 PM GMT
    Vaughn said
    TrevorMark said
    Vaughn saidI attract mostly older men and obese people.

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    There is nothing wrong with it, I just don't want to have sex with it. Which isn't even what I was saying, rather that at the age of 25, most of the population is older and in America most of the population is Obese. In terms of Statistics, that is your mean. No matter what you do, most people who are going to be into you are going to fall somewhere there on the bell curve. Have realistic expectations and increase your search population. Go to different bars and not just the same ones. Consider clubs or teams. Or just GO HOME and wank it by yourself.

    I was just saying I'm not obese or older. ;) Hahahaha.

    But no, I completely agree with you. Although I tend to attract all types...
  • mybud

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    Jun 17, 2011 9:32 PM GMT
    You change your environment......if you like muscle guys....be at the gym....If you like the outdoors hook up with gay organizations who have weekend camping trips...You need to center yourself around like individuals who respect the love the same activities as yourself.....BUD
  • Joeyphx444

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    Jun 18, 2011 1:49 AM GMT
    Well I guess the problem is not the personality I attract, but the looks part of it. I seem to attract a lot of Latinos, older men, and other ethnic groups like Indian and Asian lol

    I am OK with Latinos and older men as long as they aren't nasty like the ones that msg me lol

    I workout and actually do stuff to take care of my body and I think that's very important to have in another guy, which I don't see in the people messaging me

    Over the years I have tried to be more open, but as I met more people and exp life, I am finding I am more attracted to white men my age (+5 years) who are in shape. I don't wanna model but I don't want a dumpster

    I know some other guys are more open and don't necessarily care too much about looks, but I have just found that it is pretty high up there for me




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    Jun 18, 2011 12:18 PM GMT
    I don't know who or what I attract, but it's a good question. I wish I was little more extroverted so I could bring the attention to me, but that's not how I'm wired.

    I think people are drawn to the fact that I'm not a typical 25 year old - I'm already fairly established, financially independent, type A personality - and I have been since 21. Other people will find those characteristics intimidating, so to each their own.

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    Jun 18, 2011 12:20 PM GMT
    I'm independent, I speak my mind, i have a thick curvacious body, men are thirsty these days and that is what they want and attracted to icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 18, 2011 12:27 PM GMT
    Joeyphx444 saidHow do you know exactly who you attract and how can you change it?? (if it's not what you want of course)
    That's the whole point of getting in good physical shape...to attract those who want someone in good physical shape. Some will say it's vain. I say it's natural. People like pretty things.

    You won't stop attracting people you're not interested in, but you'll certainly attract more people you are interested in.
  • MrNomis

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    Jun 18, 2011 12:27 PM GMT
    Joeyphx444 saidWell I guess the problem is not the personality I attract, but the looks part of it. I seem to attract a lot of Latinos, older men, and other ethnic groups like Indian and Asian lol

    I am OK with Latinos and older men as long as they aren't nasty like the ones that msg me lol

    I workout and actually do stuff to take care of my body and I think that's very important to have in another guy, which I don't see in the people messaging me

    Over the years I have tried to be more open, but as I met more people and exp life, I am finding I am more attracted to white men my age (+5 years) who are in shape. I don't wanna model but I don't want a dumpster

    I know some other guys are more open and don't necessarily care too much about looks, but I have just found that it is pretty high up there for me


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    I've gotten to the point don't care anymore.. most guys just want to have sex, drink, do drugs, have some type of STD, and or are in the worst financial situations possible. I figure i stop looking because i am also tired of the LIARS!!!
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    Jun 18, 2011 2:13 PM GMT
    Joeyphx444 saidHow do you know exactly who you attract and how can you change it?? (if it's not what you want of course)


    People always want the best possible, so it's common to be hit by people you consider unattractive (and to hit people considered more attractive than you). We then settle with people who are on the same attractiveness level, not because it's what we ultimately want, but because it's what we manage to attract.

    If you are unsatisfied with what you're getting (and assuming there's no demographic problem with regard to your preferences), what is left for you is to become as attractive as the ones you want to attract. It's not very difficult to know what it means considering how much our tastes converge.

    PS: you must be very picky or live in a very unlucky place, you're so damn handsome!
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    Jun 18, 2011 2:25 PM GMT
    Well Joey, I can see why people would be attracted to you -- you are quite handsome and there is nothing wrong in wanting someone who is handsome, but also a beautiful inside as well.

    As far as the types, I attract (I'm speaking of the past), I wondered for years why the shorter guys always seemed to gravitate to me. I'm 6'2". Someone pointed out that that the shorter guys love a big guy, so I finally embraced the shorter guys and it has worked out throughout the years. So I think the important point of attraction is: consider it a compliment when someone is attracted to you, but you can't sleep with everyone, just because they are attracted to you.

  • austex85

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    Jun 18, 2011 6:52 PM GMT
    You can always be celibate. I pretty much am! lol. I almost always only get hit on by those that are much older, grossly overweight, and/or creepy.
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    Jun 18, 2011 7:12 PM GMT
    get involved in sports, pick up games or whatever that attract younger fitter guys?