AllUp saidHi Fellas - Just trying to get some feedback on this one. I've been in a relationship for over a year and not sure what to make of his latest comment of "I can't do any better" when asked why he was with me if he had all these negative impressions of me. So basically he is with me because he feels HE can't do any better than me. This was asked after he said that I'm insecure and that I will never feel secure with anyone. On top of that, he says that I don't trust him. Also, for 6 months into our relationship he constantly talked about his ex and 2 weeks ago the ex called him. He says he don't care if he calls him or not because he can't control what he does.
This situation is getting out of hand, I really do love him but with his recent statement it almost feels like he is "settling" for me if he REALLY thinks this negatively of me.
Does not sound good for you. Earlier today around noon we were sitting poolside (a community swimming pool in this condo complex), waiting for another gay couple to get ready and go out to lunch with us. And a straight guy and his wife told me, after my partner had gone off for a minute, that they had never seen Cxxxxx (some RJ members have met him) happier in all the many years they've known him. Starting when he & I got together. For which they gave me the credit.
Now wasn't that lovely to be told? And his best gay friends, going back over 20 years have told me the same thing before, as well as his own sister. And his older brother, a crotchety old homophobe I was warned about (but managed to tame), said I was the best thing that ever came into his brother's life, and we're actually quite good friends now.
The point? Unless YOU see that kind of response with your man, unless YOU are told by others that they've never seen him happier, or say YOU have never looked happier, as I do, then there's a good chance it's a bad match. And to be told by him that he can't do any better than you is fatal.
I guess this is on my mind today because of that poolside conversation I had just a few hours ago. Either you are happy together, and it's evident to everyone, or else you are not. So what do your friends say of this match?