How to deal with height differences.

  • biontop

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    Jun 18, 2011 3:30 AM GMT
    So here's the story, I'm 5'6" and my boyfriend is 6'1-2". Obviously thats created a inconvenient disconnect in altitude. icon_sad.gif I've never been in a relationship like this and I'm thinking this one will be going for awhile. icon_biggrin.gif

    So what I'm wondering is if anyone has any tip on how to dealing with this? When we kiss he has to sort of lift me up in a hug (I kinda love that because its cute icon_razz.gif ). But even then it really hurts my ankles and neck. Then of course when we do it, we're limited to what we can do, especially because I'm usually the top. We can do missionary, but its not very intimate. We mostly do the cowboy position, but that's getting old. Almost all other positions are awkward and that can be kind of embarrasing icon_redface.gif . I was hoping I could get some tips for foreplay and sex that would make it easier for us.

    Thanks!
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    Jun 18, 2011 3:34 AM GMT
    Workout and get strong enough to throw him around like a rag doll.
  • biontop

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    Jun 18, 2011 3:43 AM GMT
    LOL icon_biggrin.gif Well that's not the problem we're both pretty buff, so he'd just sit on me icon_eek.gif no he's gentle, I just can't reach him icon_neutral.gif
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    Jun 18, 2011 3:49 AM GMT
    biontop saidLOL icon_biggrin.gif Well that's not the problem we're both pretty buff, so he'd just sit on me icon_eek.gif no he's gentle, I just can't reach him icon_neutral.gif
    Get a sling. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 18, 2011 6:57 AM GMT
    That's funny. Usually it's the other way around. Good luck with that!
  • JP85257

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    Jun 18, 2011 7:01 AM GMT
    Get a stool.

    You can also get back in your tree and start making cookies.
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    Jun 18, 2011 7:56 AM GMT

    JEEEEZ!!! Aren't there enough things to worry about in a new relationship without bringing your height into the picture.... You'll never make it...may as well quit now. ...icon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gif

    Or, you could think of it this way...
    When you're nose to nose, your toes are in it...
    When you're toes to toes, your nose is in it.
    ..icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Jun 18, 2011 2:11 PM GMT
    Something I do with guys taller than me (I'm 5'7") is to start kissing where I face him (like the chest) and work my way to his lips (he'll have to bend down a bit) and grab the back of his head so he's locked to me then pull him around til I find something to stand on (lol) or wrap my legs around his waist and we'll end up the same height. It's a good distraction!
    Then you could bend him over the edge of a bed and fuck him whilst you're standing up.

    And where you both are on equal ground is being horizontal.
  • biontop

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    Jun 18, 2011 2:59 PM GMT
    Thanks jim_e. I'm not worried about the relationship being strained (we've been together for awhile and we've been through alot together, I'm pretty sure we're well matched), it just isn't easy to do things when you're nearly 8" apart. So all I want is some advice.
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    Jun 18, 2011 3:46 PM GMT
    For me, short top and tall bottom (me) just doesn't work, like you said it's just embarrassing and not enjoyable at all neither for me nor the top.
  • pwrbottom12

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    Aug 04, 2011 1:20 AM GMT
    I'm like you. I'm the taller one and fortunately enough for us we have a lot of furniture that works to make us equally height (with him sit/laying on it).

    Or you could just make him go down for you and then you get to be taller icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 04, 2011 1:26 AM GMT
    This is probably why I'm not attracting the guys I like (namely bottoms). So far, the only practical advice seems to be to get the right furniture.... sad.
  • biontop

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    Aug 04, 2011 2:26 AM GMT
    nerdjock76 saidThis is probably why I'm not attracting the guys I like (namely bottoms). So far, the only practical advice seems to be to get the right furniture.... sad.


    That's what I was thinking. Too much BS and criticism. I asked a question I'd prefer answers.
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    Aug 04, 2011 2:29 AM GMT
    Become more flexible.. Ive yet to date a guy not damn near a foot taller than me.
    Never had these problems. As far as the kissing goes tackle him then you won't have to worry about it icon_surprised.gif
  • LJay

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    Aug 04, 2011 2:30 AM GMT
    It's like getting to Carnegie Hall: practice, practice, practice.

    What a delightful problem!
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    Aug 04, 2011 2:49 AM GMT
    Have you tried with him laying on his side and you screwing him from behind? Height shouldn't matter in that position so much and you could chew on his neck while you're fuckin him?
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    Aug 04, 2011 2:52 AM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    mnboy saidBecome more flexible.. Ive yet to date a guy not damn near a foot taller than me.
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    It's really the bottom who has to 'be more flexible' and there are just limits. I mean, you're twisted up like a pretzel to begin with, further stretching/reaching is, umm, "awkward"....like positional asphyxia, awkward. icon_lol.gif I used to flirt "hmm, 6" difference...where oh where will we ever make up that." But beyond that...it does get a bit weird.

    It's amazing, though, how many bangin' torsos on RJ entice me to check out the profile...and I swear they're all 5'7"-5'10". Trying to find a tall top homo in this world is like looking for unicorns (but a lot more fun.) icon_lol.gif


    Hit up the marines icon_lol.gif
  • swimmer8671

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    Aug 04, 2011 3:02 AM GMT
    i feel awkward if i'm dating a guy way shorter then me, like i'm a pedophile or something.... It just makes me feel bad. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Aug 04, 2011 3:07 AM GMT
    icon_confused.gif Well what's good for the goose i guess
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    Aug 04, 2011 3:08 AM GMT
    A height difference more then 3 inches will never work in the long term and thats pushing it.

    I am speaking from experience homie so take my word
  • JP85257

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    Aug 04, 2011 3:16 AM GMT
    JP85257 saidGet a stool.

    You can also get back in your tree and start making cookies.


    RE-Stating.
  • biontop

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    Aug 04, 2011 3:36 AM GMT
    wowgamer92 saidA height difference more then 3 inches will never work in the long term and thats pushing it.

    I am speaking from experience homie so take my word


    Nah we've been together over two years, soon three. icon_biggrin.gif And its still going hot, I just wanna make sure there a minimal bumps in the road.
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    Aug 04, 2011 4:02 AM GMT
    I can say height differences make things interesting I'm 6'3 and my last bf was 5'10. But we compromised. Like meeting halfway, lifting him up, and him standing on something. Bottom line though just enjoy your relationship. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 04, 2011 4:08 AM GMT
    How to deal with height differences?

    Easy just accept the difference, I'm sure later on you'll get the hang of it icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 04, 2011 4:16 AM GMT
    I too being a short arse of only 5"8', and and attracted to taller men. It's strange I can't think of anything to add, because it always seemed to work for us. All the best.