Not strange to not want sex?

  • Aus92

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    Jun 18, 2011 5:26 PM GMT
    Since coming out everyone has been saying that since Im gay im going to turn into a huge slut because 'all guys want sex all the time'. Does anyone actually believe that?

    I havent done anything with a guy yet, not even kissing or anything and I have absolutely no intent to do so anytime. Apparently I'm a complete liar when saying things like that.

    Like when I go out to clubs and stuff I go out and I don't even scout around for people. I go there solely for the sake of just having a few drinks, dancing around and just having fun, not even a thought of anything sexual comes to mind.

    Like my friend, he pretty much never has less than two people going at the one time and always ends up with relentless drama.. Is it so bad to avoid all that crap?

    Also people have been telling me to go on sites like manhunt and stuff of the like to find other guys where I live and go straight out and start whoring around, then they get genuinely angry when I say no.

    Why is that people just can't get the idea I don't give a shit about sex right now?
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    Jun 18, 2011 5:27 PM GMT
    Not weird. I'm not really into sexual intercourse either.
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    Jun 18, 2011 5:34 PM GMT
    That sounds serious. Have you thought about seeing a therapist, taking libido-enhancing drugs, going to bathhouses etc?

    Just Kiddingicon_exclaim.gificon_exclaim.gificon_exclaim.gificon_exclaim.gif

    Just keep doing what you're doing, as long as you are comfy with what you are doing or not doing. Don't let peer-pressure rush you doing stuff with guys you are not (yet?) ready for.
  • Orias

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    Jun 18, 2011 5:37 PM GMT
    Dude I'm totally with you.I prefer the romantic puppy love dating and then cuddling than trying to play STD-Pokemon - "Gotta Catch em all!".
    There's a lot of promiscuity out there and it's pretty awesome that you're standing your own ground rather than giving in because everyone else is doing it.
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    Jun 18, 2011 5:50 PM GMT

    sex < everything else
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    Jun 18, 2011 5:53 PM GMT
    SMART! Take your time.

    When you do meet someone that you want to date, don't feel rushed then either. Dates don't have to end with sex.

    Feel free to explore your attractions without getting pressured into sex.

    OTOH, you may enter a slutty period at some point. My advice is the same: Explore what feels best for you. Just pay attention to your safety when you do start having sex.
  • Webster666

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    Jun 18, 2011 7:24 PM GMT
    Different strokes for different folks.
    Do whatever makes you happy.