A sexy existentialist who loves the outdoors?

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    Jun 18, 2011 7:42 PM GMT
    That would be my dream guy....I've run into a conundrum, I've realized that we represent 4% of the population, due to my picky taste for masculant, lean/in shape guys, I probably have options of 2% at best.

    On top of that I'm a sarcastic asshole who can't change, so I'm not the easiest guy to get along with. RAWR I hate relationships!!!

    I assume most gay guys find themselves in this situation...What to do...
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    Jun 19, 2011 2:22 PM GMT
    lupsided said

    I assume most gay guys find themselves in this situation...What to do...


    Be a little more open minded, give someone a chance that is mostly what you are looking for but missing out on something you used to see as a dealbreaker. Give it a little investment of time and energy, then see if the "minor flaws" end up becoming your favorite components of that person.

    The worst thing that happens is you gave someone a chance and got to know someone new, friend/long distance pen-pal/or other.

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    Jun 19, 2011 2:27 PM GMT
    If you believe you can't do something, you are probably right. If you want something, figure out how to change the only thing you can, yourself.
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    Jun 19, 2011 2:35 PM GMT
    Everyone has to deal with the issues that there are only a few potentially desirable individuals out of a whole lot of crap - crap being people in general. I think anyone can make their chances seem pretty small when they start pulling out those percentages, even straight men and women.

    The way I see it, you're 21 and in the army (or something similar). The amount of opportunity to meet like-minded people has only just started. You've got plenty of time to find desirable out people, you just need to keep your eyes on the lookout when making meeting new friends and acquaintances.
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    Jun 19, 2011 2:39 PM GMT
    While tangential to your topic, have you read The Stranger by Albert Camus? It's my favorite book ever. It's basically a written representation of what a true existentialist is like...would you want to be Monsieur Meursault?

    Basically this is a roundabout way of asking you - are you sure you're a true existentialist? Because if you are, finding a companion is likely going to not be easy.
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    Jun 20, 2011 7:56 AM GMT
    To the above posters, yes this is true I need to open my eyes, I see myself do things that I shouldn't but I do them anyways, that's my problem. that's something I need to work out, I suppose.

    I find the whole let love find you thing bullshit though, and being picky is hard for me to avoid, b.c if they don't have a nice body I won't be sexually attractive to them, and if they don't have a open, creative and intelligent mind I lose interest fast. I think that criteria is not to intricate to fill. However I know most of you are right : / sigh i'll work on it? haha.


    closer85 saidWhile tangential to your topic, have you read The Stranger by Albert Camus? It's my favorite book ever. It's basically a written representation of what a true existentialist is like...would you want to be Monsieur Meursault?

    Basically this is a roundabout way of asking you - are you sure you're a true existentialist? Because if you are, finding a companion is likely going to not be easy.


    I am a true existentialist, and I am a nihilist, I doubt everything in essence, and not because I am a pessimist, I'm a realist.

    And I suppose that's the burden of being a existentialist - being emotionless. But I'll check that book out, thanks icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 20, 2011 8:03 AM GMT
    "You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection." Buddha
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    Jun 20, 2011 11:05 AM GMT
    lupsided saidTo the above posters, yes this is true I need to open my eyes, I see myself do things that I shouldn't but I do them anyways, that's my problem. that's something I need to work out, I suppose.

    I find the whole let love find you thing bullshit though, and being picky is hard for me to avoid, b.c if they don't have a nice body I won't be sexually attractive to them, and if they don't have a open, creative and intelligent mind I lose interest fast. I think that criteria is not to intricate to fill. However I know most of you are right : / sigh i'll work on it? haha.


    closer85 saidWhile tangential to your topic, have you read The Stranger by Albert Camus? It's my favorite book ever. It's basically a written representation of what a true existentialist is like...would you want to be Monsieur Meursault?

    Basically this is a roundabout way of asking you - are you sure you're a true existentialist? Because if you are, finding a companion is likely going to not be easy.


    I am a true existentialist, and I am a nihilist, I doubt everything in essence, and not because I am a pessimist, I'm a realist.

    And I suppose that's the burden of being a existentialist - being emotionless. But I'll check that book out, thanks icon_smile.gif


    Very interesting. You and I do have that in common - the potential to be emotionless. I find existentialism something I lean towards...but I couldn't honestly say I am one.

    And yeah, you're young. More than enough time to meet the right guy.
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    Jun 20, 2011 11:27 AM GMT
    Doesn't sound like you like or love yourself very much. Are you going through a life of just quiet desperation? Try doing an analysis of yourself, stressing your wonderful qualities. That would really be a good step in trying to like/love people. Maybe a gay weekend transformational seminar could help. I don't know what's available these days but there used to be something called The Advocate Experience. Feel free to mail me anytime if you want to talk. I'm older and not looking for a hookup, only friends.
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    Jun 20, 2011 11:34 AM GMT
    find another one of those guys in that situation

    or just wait till ur older, ur fascinations with looks will decrease and itll be more based upon the time u have with sum1,

    or so my shrink told me