In Gloom, Out of Shape

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    Jun 19, 2011 3:54 AM GMT
    Well… I’ve just been really depressed lately. Now I’m not so petty as to not see the obvious factors that contribute; Poor diet, horrible sleep pattern, odd weather, situational stuff and so on. However what I wish to discuss in particular is my exercise habits… Or lack thereof. I stated once before I started the P90X program yet two weeks into it I kind of began falling off the wagon. I could say it’s because I’ve not been making time for them but I don’t believe in making excuses.

    What I ask from you today, gentlemen, is any advice in how I can improve my workout discipline, recommendations for simpler routines I can do on days I’m unable to do such extreme ones and most of all words of wisdom to help me combat my feelings of self-loathing to make for both a physically and mentally healthy state of being. Any at all would be greatly welcome.
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    Jun 19, 2011 4:00 AM GMT
    a gym buddy
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    Jun 19, 2011 4:05 AM GMT
    ...to expand a little bit on my previous answer, something that holds you accountable always works, like i know every 1st of the month its time for body shots to send to my online "lets get fit" buddies....it can be fun and keeps u motivated
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    Jun 19, 2011 4:14 AM GMT

    Place a big mirror prominently in your room so when you're getting undressed you will catch yourself even if you choose to just glance. You'll see everyday what's happening and what you need to fix. On those weeks you stay on your cycle, you'll see that too; I imagine 1 week of p90x goes a long way. When you go in your room to change, you'll glimpse that as well. As the months go by and you become more familiar with your naked body, you'll began to favor seeing the worked out body and you'll do what needs to be done to satisfy that craving.


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    Jun 19, 2011 4:20 AM GMT
    if i had a huge mirror that i looked at everytime i changed i'd have to have sex with it
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    Jun 19, 2011 6:06 AM GMT
    I think that with cultivating a fitness lifestyle is like cultivating any new hobby, it takes patience, time and perseverance. Also, it is important to understand your own background and baseline. If you have always led a relatively sedentary life, then do not expect to make as much gains as someone who has been playing sports all his life.

    Dragging yourself to the gym is painful at times, especially when you are not in the mood. Getting there is winning half the battle. However, if you stick to the regime for long enough, it becomes part and parcel of your life and daily routine that you will feel as if something is missing if you do not hit the gym. I know because I often feel this way after a break from the gym due to travel or illness. I remind myself that the first few weeks will be tough, but it will get better.

    Some people like to make progress charts, but it can be a little demoralizing if you are a hard-gainer. I focus on the fact that going to the gym will produce a healthier me, and it helps. icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 20, 2011 4:04 PM GMT
    Just keep going. Decide if it's something that you really want, and if the answer to that question is a definitely "yes", then just keep going, if you fail, put it behind you and keep going.
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    Jun 20, 2011 4:41 PM GMT
    You are much the same height and weight I was at your age in fact I was probably skinnier than you and I always wished I could put on weight and get bigger and more muscular. Genetics seemed to be against me as well as my dad and my uncles, cousins etc were all skinny ectomorph types.
    The P90x program would not have worked for me. I'd have given up. I wanted to gain some weight and muscle, that was foremost on my mind and that's what I set out to do.. hit 200 pounds and be fairly muscular. Just anything but what I was.

    The p90x program I think is too intense for a skinny guy who has little to no fat or muscle to begin with (like I was) . More important in getting over that depressed hump of seeing no results is to really concentrate on basic weightlifting and eating as much food as possible so you can actually see some changes in your body faster.. Actually see that you are getting bigger and that you can do it. The fine tuning stuff like p90x comes later or not at all because you may by then be very happy with the way you look.

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    Jun 20, 2011 11:09 PM GMT
    I'm sorry to hear you are still struggling with all this. I was just about to write you an email to inquire and saw this recent post.

    As in your original post; it sounds like your emotions are sabotaging you. The power of exercise to not just lift; but to cure, some depression, is undisputed. It is physiological; not just good vibes and positive thinking.

    If you are determined to stick with an extremely intense regimen like P90X, it's admirable...I guess..finish what you start and all that. But on off days you still need to get moving. It should be something you enjoy; not dread. Break a sweat every day and the depression improves...your workouts improve...your self esteem improves..and so on.

    I would highly recommend just walking. Not shuffling around a mall, but some serious brisk walking. Find a trail, or track, or safe road, where you can listen to some music and walk without paying much attention. Earlier in the day, the better. It'll set the tone for the rest of the day...might even inspire you to tackle P90X when you get home. But it doesn't have to wear you out or kick your butt to have enormous benefits...just get moving.

    One more thing that will help. Take to heart the compliments you have received. You ARE an attractive young man that will surely turn some heads if you head over to screech beach at Madison. NO those new trunks are not TOO much. They are just right and show off ONE of your best assets. Wear 'm proud and with some confidence. The looks alone will be quite motivating; not to mention what finding a cute boyfriend would do for you.
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    Jun 20, 2011 11:16 PM GMT
    Couple of things that work for me:

    1) Go to the gym or workout at the same time everyday. I go at lunch. At that time of the day, I get really stir crazy from work and need to get out of our building. Working out at gives me a chance to decompress and come back to work feeling more motivated. Therefore, I never miss a day.

    2) Take nude pictures of yourself or have someone do it for you. After 3 months of working out, take another set of pictures to see your progress. I periodically do nude photoshoots with photographers. When I have a nude photoshoot scheduled, I push myself really hard at the gym because I know people are going to see me nude. On the flip side, when you have been working out hard and someone makes a positive remark about your body, it really validates all your hard work.

    Hope this helps.
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    Jun 27, 2011 3:44 PM GMT
    As said before, go to they gym regularly. I know from my exercise, that if I am off my routine for a while, it may take up to a month to establish it as a regular part of my day - so much so that on my days off, I simply feel something is missing. And even when, like today, when my engery level is low, I know I will have that feeling and I will feel complete after I do it, so I will go, knowing the satisfaction I will get.