fromthepacific saidI just wrote a forum about the subject. If you haven't done so already
Having a great ripped, gym built body, is something that every gay man can be attracted to or dream about. However, racial preferences in the gay community has always had its standards; in which asians are never really been quite a part of. In America and what is showcased in its numerous media outlets; the typical depiction is of a white man, or at least something within that frame: that prominent nose, wide forehead, strong jaw and statuesque broad frame, is always considered beautiful.
But it is sad to say that asians throughout the course of history has been desexualized in numerous ways because they are typically never shown as being masculine, robust or assertive, and hence, has affected the gay culture's image of the asian male. To simply quote, "a low percentage of the gay community find asian men desireable." From my personal experience and the expectations laid ahead of me with blind dates, social settings: asian men are generally looked over. Take this site for example. I am a mixed breed: half australian and half thai, you can say, "your somewhat classic interracial person, white/asian." Yet somehow when I post my profile on dating sites, occasional "looking for possible.....," posts and responses to ads, the mention of the race "asian" automatically deters other men from taking an interest in me without even seeing what I look like, or even giving the chance to know me. Let's face the candid truth, " A book is judged by its cover in this community."
"Don't get me started on hookups." There's this perception about asian men; and how they're not part of the "lottery gene pool," how they are tiny, feminine, have small penises, hairless and child like. And as much as I want to say that these men are prejudice, I really can't; because, society and the media has never portrayed "the asian male" as anything less. And hence embedded the idea in the "gay culture" particularly, that asian men do not fit the profile of the masculine man.
"Why is that." There is the occassional hang ups, "not interested," " I don't go for asians," "I don't do asians," "your not my type," "It's getting late." When I am in public, I will say people can't tell I'm generally half asian, I'm 6'0 slightly bigger frame and you can say a cross between Russell wong (Vanishing Son, Dim Sum Funeral) and George Eads (CSI, Savannah) . What is sad is that from time to time I would hear gay men say, "They don't really go for asians," w/o really saying why; And when asked, "What's your nationality?" "I'm part asian." "Oh well, I would go for you because you don't really look that asian," or something within those lines. "Excuse Me!!" I am somehow an exception because I look a little more on the white side. "I gotta stick up for my asian community." It's not a compliment, it's offensive.
All I'm saying is just be a little more open and break down the stereotype, We are not a fetish, we are not a "give it a try," and not all of us are "POTATO QUEENS." And we certainly don't see it as a privelege or a prize to be with somone other than our own racial group. We are "MEN," Beautiful Men.
If you believe that there's nothing wrong with you as an Asian and you have a great, gym ripped body, using your own words, why do you not have a picture of yourself on your profile?