I second that... thanks for sharing! For any of y'all who have talked with a psychologist/therapist, I'm curious to hear your view on this issue...
I think that letting the client set the goals for their therapy sessions is the correct approach, even if it does lead to some guys choosing to prioritize religion over sexual orientation. Seems to me that any therapist who goes into sessions with an idea what their client's priorities should be gets pushy. I've worked with two therapists myself; one who let me talk and then reflected on what I said, and one who had clearly set an agenda for my coming-out process. I feel like I learned a lot more about myself with the first therapist, who gave me time to make decisions about how to proceed rather than pushing me to do things I wasn't comfortable with.
When it comes down to it, it's about owning your identity. If someone else is pushing you towards a certain decision, then part of your reasoning is going to involve satisfying that person. In that case you can't be 100% committed, because someone else has built part of your identity for you.