Manhunt

  • ccrr85

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    Jun 21, 2011 2:27 AM GMT
    Hello all,

    I have a question and I would like to know your opinion and you can be as sincere as you want as active gay men. I'm dating someone the relationship is agreed monogamous. A friend of mine told me he saw that my bf had a Manhunt profile, I joined the site and look at his profile, it says that he is just looking for friends, but he has shirtless pictures. He just moved to a new town 4 hous away for work, he has no friends in there. I dont have much experience dating and would like to know if its possible that he is just looking for friends, because from what I understand Manhunt is primarely a place to look for sex, and even if people looks for friendship in there wtf the shirtless pictures. I checked that he's connected daily so he's using the profile,because you can see that. I would like your perspective from some with experience in this site before confronting him.

    Thanks in advance
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    Jun 21, 2011 2:29 AM GMT
    sometimes people say friends and mean something else...


    maybe have your friend say hi to him and see what he says back? that would be pretty honest too as it wouldn't be you using a fake profile.
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    Jun 21, 2011 2:54 AM GMT

    You're an idiot... move on. How naive can you be?????
  • ccrr85

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    Jun 21, 2011 3:02 AM GMT
    If you found it that obvious just dont reply. I'm aware that he is probably cheating just want to confirm if anyone uses manhunt to look for friends before confronting him about it.
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    Jun 21, 2011 5:49 AM GMT
    Manhunt has crazy and unattractive people on it.
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    Jun 21, 2011 5:51 AM GMT
    No one uses manhunt, grindr, or A4A for friends.

    The only "friends" I have made on that site tried to fuck me on the second get together.

    So yes he is cheating on your ass.

    Break up with him and get an STD test (not offensive, just true.)
  • ccrr85

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    Jun 21, 2011 6:26 AM GMT
    Thank for your answer, I'm just going to confront him about it, and ask for an explanation before breaking up, but the more I explore the site the more I think he is cheating or planning on doing it. Its funny he and many other users of MH put in theirs profile not looking for hook ups or just friendship, then add shirtless pictures in his case of pictures of their dicks and assholes in others users. If you are looking for a friend you dont need to know if he has killer abs or a great dick.
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    Jun 21, 2011 6:51 AM GMT
    just call him and be like "so y u on manhunt for? I NOT GOOD ENUF???"
  • ccrr85

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    Jun 23, 2011 3:30 PM GMT
    Hi all,

    I confronted him with the issue and although we didn't say it directly, we're pretty much over, before confronting I logged for several days in MH and found out that he was online every day for around 2hours. We lived in the same city but around two months ago he is traveling back and forward to work in a city that is a 4 hour drive away. He told me he was just looking for friends there, in his profile it said that he , that he was looking for friend in there,, no hookups, however I found it hard to believe that somebody who posts shirtless pictures of himself in a hookup site such a MH, is online everyday for several hours is not looking for sex. I it was pretty hard to admit something that's obvious, someone who's happy in his relationship just doesn't have an active MH account, I only realized that when I saw my post and saw how naive I sound .

    Thanks all
  • rf_dal

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    Jun 23, 2011 3:33 PM GMT
    Thank you for taking the adult, communicative approach to this. Why can't more people just talk about things? I'm sorry that happened to you though. icon_sad.gif
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    Jun 23, 2011 3:38 PM GMT
    ccrr85 saidHi all,

    I confronted him with the issue and although we didn't say it directly, we're pretty much over, before confronting I logged for several days in MH and found out that he was online every day for around 2hours. We lived in the same city but around two months ago he is traveling back and forward to work in a city that is a 4 hour drive away. He told me he was just looking for friends there, in his profile it said that he , that he was looking for friend in there,, no hookups, however I found it hard to believe that somebody who posts shirtless pictures of himself in a hookup site such a MH, is online everyday for several hours is not looking for sex. I it was pretty hard to admit something that's obvious, someone who's happy in his relationship just doesn't have an active MH account, I only realized that when I saw my post and saw how naive I sound .

    Thanks all


    Sounds like you spend as much time spying on and stalking your boyfriend as he does looking for friends. I think the two of you are perfect for each other.
  • humblejock

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    Jun 23, 2011 3:39 PM GMT
    Well, he is clearly not looking for friends. But even if he hooks up, I think it is ok, it is not like cheating on you. If he was out dating he would be cheating on you. Since he will be having a little casual sex, it is totally ok. Leave him alone, trust him, and pay him a visit often and so he should too.
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    Jun 23, 2011 3:40 PM GMT
    Chainers saidNo one uses manhunt, grindr, or A4A for friends.
    ^truth
    I can count the [platonic] friends I've made from a4a on one hand...and that's after 6+ years on it.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jun 23, 2011 3:56 PM GMT
    ccrr85 saidIf you found it that obvious just dont reply. I'm aware that he is probably cheating just want to confirm if anyone uses manhunt to look for friends before confronting him about it.
    ok easyfight, is being a douche. listen, the only way to be sure is to ask him about it. he may just really be looking for friends. however, you will not know anything until you ask.
    do not get friends to hit on him. just ask him yourself. my question to you is has he ever given you any reason to think that he has or will cheat prior to this?
  • ccrr85

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    Jun 23, 2011 4:10 PM GMT
    I've suspected him of cheating since a while ago. To the person who called me a stalker I found out about his profile trough a friend who saw him and only joined MH to see if he was using the account and getting online I didn't not violate his privacy, tried to break into his account or set up a trap, just. I needed the confirmation that he was using the site before confronting him, because it was the possibility that it was an old profile he didn't use, I only confirmed that he logged in evereyday, maybe it wasn't the most correct approach but sometimes you just need to know. We had agreed on a monogamous relationship and ironically he was a very jealous boyfriend, so yes I think I'm entitled to be pissed and dumping him if he has an active profile on MH, I did not and never felt the desire to use such a site during our relationship, so I expected the same. Its not so much about any explanation he could give, if you are happy in you relationship you dont use sites such as MH, of course you can make friends there ocasionally, but the main goal of logging in there is hooking up, sometimes incidentally make friends ,but MH is a site where 90 percent of the profile pictures are cocks and assholes.
  • rf_dal

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    Jun 23, 2011 4:16 PM GMT
    Relevant:
  • str8hardbody9

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    Jun 23, 2011 4:58 PM GMT
    MANHUNT IS ALL ABOUT SEX.. LOOK AT THE GUYS THERE.. GET IT!!
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    Jun 23, 2011 5:03 PM GMT
    rosco87 saidsometimes people say friends and mean something else...


    maybe have your friend say hi to him and see what he says back? that would be pretty honest too as it wouldn't be you using a fake profile.



    Don't do this it is entrapment. And as my ex said to me
    "No one on Manhunt uses it to make friends, they go on to fuck and anyone who says otherwise is just lying."

    And that is why I dumped him because of his Manhunt account that he pays for monthly. So drop it cause lets face it he is probably sleeping around his new town (CandyStore) trying to see all the new flavors.
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    Jun 23, 2011 5:08 PM GMT
    Congrats on being a man and admitting to yourself something that was hard to accept. It takes balls, and although it sucks, you'll move on. And communication is key for any relationship to work, but the fact that you talked to him about instead of freaking out and dumping him for no reason say something about how mature and respectful you are.

  • ccrr85

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    Jun 23, 2011 5:11 PM GMT
    I already confronted him about it, he just said that he was looking for friends in the other city, I dind't believe it, we broke up, the idea of someone saying hi or creating a fake profile could be just painful and even pointless. If he's not sleeping with someone he was looking to do it, for me the fact of him having the MH profile and logging in every day is reason enough to end the relation, besides the fact that now I don't really trust him and would be paranoid if we carried on
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    Jun 23, 2011 5:21 PM GMT
    Instead of sneaking around for days I would have just hit on him on Manhunt , as yourself, commented on his sexy pics and asked for a fuck. You would be way ahead emotionally and on higher moral ground this way and had fun with this typical gay situation.
  • ccrr85

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    Jun 23, 2011 7:04 PM GMT
    Maybe i could have, but love and jealousy sometimes make you do things without thinking, I'm not proud of spying him but I don't regret it either, sometimes we judge when someone does something like this, but is not always easy to be that dignified. At the end I confronted him and told him the truth, I dont think that besides checking if he logged in I didn't do anything that can be consdider questionable. And there is not way of making "fun" finding out that the person you love is cheating on you, or taking the decision of leaving him.
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    Jun 23, 2011 7:36 PM GMT
    Reading this thread made me jot down a poem:

    On the hunt for a man
    Be him an Adam or an Al for all.
    He can be racially ambiguous or tall, just don't fall
    In lust/like/love with me because I'll never accept that
    As anything more than a stop en route from here to a where
    I have no idea. I have no compass. I have only criteria
    Like a test to be failed no matter how it's scaled.

    On the hunt for a man
    With a penis positioned as a barbed spear for the excited heart
    Shot through the back, blown out.
    Hair raising. Pec praising. Possibly tasing
    If he gets too close or sees fit to boast
    About the cut of his tri or how he's totally bi.
    Curious that his jacket is ill-fitted in the dining room light.
  • tautomer

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    Jun 23, 2011 10:21 PM GMT
    Believe it or not, I have met guys on manhunt a few times that have really only been on there to meet friends. After getting to know them, they were completely honest in this statement. Claiming it really did lead to friendships. One in particular was in a relationship. The difference was though, that his partner had full access to his account and they were totally open to it.

    The fact that this guy did not let you know about him making the account in the first place, is quite shady. While this a legit thing for people to do, as I have seen it. Doing it in secrecy while in a relationship... that's suspect. I hope things work out for you in the future icon_sad.gif.
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    Jun 23, 2011 10:37 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]ccrr85 said[/cite]Maybe i could have, but love and jealousy sometimes make you do things without thinking, I'm not proud of spying him but I don't regret it either, sometimes we judge when someone does something like this, but is not always easy to be that dignified. At the end I confronted him and told him the truth, I dont think that besides checking if he logged in I didn't do anything that can be consdider questionable. And there is not way of making "fun" finding out that the person you love is cheating on you, or taking the decision of leaving him. [/qu

    You can't ever know what happened or not and don't make the mistake of thinking you know what he is thinking or feeling or that he feels/ thinks like you do. I wonder if he ever said he was monogamous or is this something that you projected into the relationship because that is what you want?

    It is also a mistake to believe that gay behavior should be patterned after str8 norms or that long distance should have no affect on monogamy . Some guys don't jack off twice a day.