Does this make me a horrible person?

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    Jun 21, 2011 8:05 PM GMT
    So there is this guy Im talking too, and totally gushing over, and he is doing things that I have ruled other guys out in the past for doing. Things like calling me baby right away (we havent had date one yet, but it is because he lives in LA and I in SF) and saying crap like "I want to watch a love movie on our first date."

    Normally, guys pull this crap on me and I split, but for some reason this guy is making me totally gush. I think its because he is yoked as all fuck (plus Latino, and lets face it they fall fast anyways) Does this mean Im going to hell?
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    Jun 21, 2011 8:08 PM GMT
    defined yoked as fuck, please?
  • rnch

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    Jun 21, 2011 8:10 PM GMT
    honestly, i don't see the problem here.........




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    Jun 21, 2011 8:13 PM GMT
    BambinoRex saiddefined yoked as fuck, please?


    well, he is a 36 y/o latino standing at 6' tall weighing 195lbs with a perfect 8 pack and big ass fucking arms.

    Thats yoked as fuck.

    plus he has a great smile too.
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    Jun 21, 2011 8:14 PM GMT
    You're being a douche bottle...FYI, lots of Latino men call guys they are with "baby".

    that's for calling me out on my other thread.
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    Jun 21, 2011 8:17 PM GMT
    Fit4FitnDenver saidYou're being a douche bottle...FYI, lots of Latino men call guys they are with "baby".

    that's for calling me out on my other thread.


    Meow! Kitty's got claws!

    Anyhow we technically arent together, cause we havent even met in person, we've just messaged back and forth through Grindr. He has been in Mexico visiting his mother, we plan to talk on the phone today after he gets back (and its affordable).
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    Jun 21, 2011 8:24 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    BambinoRex saiddefined yoked as fuck, please?


    well, he is a 36 y/o latino standing at 6' tall weighing 195lbs with a perfect 8 pack and big ass fucking arms.

    Thats yoked as fuck.

    plus he has a great smile too.





    again....i don't see the problem here......


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    Jun 21, 2011 8:24 PM GMT
    Fit4FitnDenver saidYou're being a douche bottle...FYI, lots of Latino men call guys they are with "baby".

    that's for calling me out on my other thread.


    And didnt I apologize for that?
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    Jun 21, 2011 8:26 PM GMT
    rnch said
    Chainers said
    BambinoRex saiddefined yoked as fuck, please?


    well, he is a 36 y/o latino standing at 6' tall weighing 195lbs with a perfect 8 pack and big ass fucking arms.

    Thats yoked as fuck.

    plus he has a great smile too.





    again....i don't see the problem here......


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    Yea I know its just weird having someone talk about serious stuff so fast. I mean he is cute and nice and all, and the fact that he is looking to settle is a plus.

    Lets just hope he is a top, bwahahaha!
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    Jun 21, 2011 8:28 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    rnch said
    Chainers said
    BambinoRex saiddefined yoked as fuck, please?


    well, he is a 36 y/o latino standing at 6' tall weighing 195lbs with a perfect 8 pack and big ass fucking arms.

    Thats yoked as fuck.

    plus he has a great smile too.





    again....i don't see the problem here......


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    Yea I know its just weird having someone talk about serious stuff so fast. I mean he is cute and nice and all, and the fact that he is looking to settle is a plus.

    Lets just hope he is a top, bwahahaha!






    so, IS there a problem here? i just can't see a problem here.
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    Jun 21, 2011 8:31 PM GMT
    rnch said
    Chainers said
    rnch said
    Chainers said
    BambinoRex saiddefined yoked as fuck, please?


    well, he is a 36 y/o latino standing at 6' tall weighing 195lbs with a perfect 8 pack and big ass fucking arms.

    Thats yoked as fuck.

    plus he has a great smile too.





    again....i don't see the problem here......


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    Yea I know its just weird having someone talk about serious stuff so fast. I mean he is cute and nice and all, and the fact that he is looking to settle is a plus.

    Lets just hope he is a top, bwahahaha!






    so, IS there a problem here? i just can't see a problem here.


    Easy come easy go? I donnu, I guess Im just being a bitch, really.
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    Jun 21, 2011 8:50 PM GMT
    rnch saidhonestly, i don't see the problem here.........




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    you mean besides his willingness to put up with crap he wouldn't normally brook, just because the guy is nice to look at?

    No, no problem there at all. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 21, 2011 9:02 PM GMT
    Chainers saidSo there is this guy Im talking too, and totally gushing over, and he is doing things that I have ruled other guys out in the past for doing. Things like calling me baby right away (we havent had date one yet, but it is because he lives in LA and I in SF) and saying crap like "I want to watch a love movie on our first date."

    Normally, guys pull this crap on me and I split, but for some reason this guy is making me totally gush. I think its because he is yoked as all fuck (plus Latino, and lets face it they fall fast anyways) Does this mean Im going to hell?


    OK, I just noticed you guys haven't met yet. If he's saying all these things and you guys haven't even met yet I'd be a bit concerned.

    This guy could be full of crap. I'm curious to see who's going to make the 1st visit to see each other...He doesn't seem to be taking this very seriously.
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    Jun 21, 2011 9:14 PM GMT
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    Chainers saidSo there is this guy Im talking too, and totally gushing over, and he is doing things that I have ruled other guys out in the past for doing. Things like calling me baby right away (we havent had date one yet, but it is because he lives in LA and I in SF) and saying crap like "I want to watch a love movie on our first date."

    Normally, guys pull this crap on me and I split, but for some reason this guy is making me totally gush. I think its because he is yoked as all fuck (plus Latino, and lets face it they fall fast anyways) Does this mean Im going to hell?


    OK, I just noticed you guys haven't met yet. If he's saying all these things and you guys haven't even met yet I'd be a bit concerned.

    This guy could be full of crap. I'm curious to see who's going to make the 1st visit to see each other...He doesn't seem to be taking this very seriously.


    Well, he wanted to come visit me this weekend (and for pride) but we decided it would be best to take things slow so we are gonna talk over the phone first.

    Who knows whats happening, but his body, oh his body.
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    Jun 21, 2011 9:21 PM GMT
    You're in total lust mode, that's why... but it's pretty normal at the same time.

    He's built and gorgeous, you're enamored... tread carefully if he's not a relationship guy.
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    Jun 21, 2011 9:24 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]Chainers sai.....
    Well, he wanted to come visit me this weekend (and for pride) but we decided it would be best to take things slow so we are gonna talk over the phone first.

    Who knows whats happening, but his body, oh his body.[/quote]

    unless you take the plunge and let him come to you...well, you just never will find out what's goin' on, will you?
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    Jun 21, 2011 9:26 PM GMT
    If a guy is toooooooooooo strong with the lovey-dovey stuff from the very get-go of talking to one another (e.g. before even meeting/dating) with all of the over familiar 'baby'/'honey' talk or grandiose romantic plans before even getting to know me properly, the alarm bells would defo start ringing in my head.

    These personality types, i've found at least, tend to be emotionally binary between the extremes- no middle ground, generally unrealistic and grandiose, irrational and prone to switching the love-switch off (and quickly moving on the the next just as strongly) just as quick and easily as they appear to have turned it on with you in the first place, if their plans with you do not go exactly as they had hoped and imagined them to, or they simply find what they consider a better alternative.

    If he can be so full-on familiar and lovey-dovey with somebody from the genesis of first contact, i'd personally wonder if this is just how he always initially conducts himself with every new guy he likes when he starts to talk to them, as a way of projecting a desired illusion he hopes the other will immediately partake in and fulfill the romantic 'role' he clearly wants cast so desperately. The person could be anybody who fits his criteria; the romantic scenario and role he wants filled is more important than the person who fills it, i'd assume, as he obviously doesn't know enough about the person in question yet to realistically have much sincerity or gravitas behind his forward words and demeanor.

    If you're hoping for something more than temporary (albeit likely emotionally intense and temporarily all consuming) with this guy, I'd tread with caution until I could rule this out as a possibility. Personally.
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    Jun 21, 2011 9:30 PM GMT
    Yes take your time.. I'll start weaving a handbasket tonight for you to go to hell in. Gimme about , oh,, 3 days, 4 if you want it with a lid.
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    Jun 21, 2011 9:44 PM GMT
    _SAGE_ saidIf a guy is toooooooooooo strong with the lovey-dovey stuff from the very get-go of talking to one another (e.g. before even meeting/dating) with all of the over familiar 'baby'/'honey' talk or grandiose romantic plans before even getting to know me properly, the alarm bells would defo start ringing in my head.

    These personality types, i've found at least, tend to be emotionally binary between the extremes- no middle ground, generally unrealistic and grandiose, irrational and prone to switching the love-switch off (and quickly moving on the the next just as strongly) just as quick and easily as they appear to have turned it on with you in the first place, if their plans with you do not go exactly as they had hoped and imagined them to.

    If he can be so full-on familiar and lovey-dovey with somebody from the genesis of first contact, i'd personally wonder if this is just how he always initially conducts himself with every new guy he likes when he starts to talk to them, as a way of projecting a desired illusion he hopes the other will immediately partake in and fulfill the romantic 'role' he clearly wants cast so desperately. The person could be anybody who fits his criteria; the romantic scenario and role he wants filled is more important than the person who fills it, i'd assume, as he obviously doesn't know enough about the person in question yet to realistically have much sincerity or gravitas behind his forward words and demeanor.

    If you're hoping for something more than temporary, albeit likely emotionally intense and otherwise all consuming, with this guy, I'd tread with caution until I could rule this out as a possibility. Personally.


    This is kind of what is going through my mind with this guy at the moment. While he seems to like me, we are taking it slow, and waiting to see how the talk on the phone goes, then a visit or two.

    I think one of the reasons why he likes me is because he wants to live in San Francisco, and Im up here.

    At least he is smart enough to find someone before moving here, lol.

    And, the other thing too, its not like he tells me he "loves" me or anything like that, he just wants to watch a romantic movie with me.
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    Jun 21, 2011 9:50 PM GMT

    I think one of the reasons why he likes me is because he wants to live in San Francisco, and Im up here.

    At least he is smart enough to find someone before moving here, lol...[/quote]


    hmmmmm, the plot thickens.......
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    Jun 21, 2011 9:56 PM GMT
    Chainers saidSo there is this guy Im talking too, and totally gushing over, and he is doing things that I have ruled other guys out in the past for doing. Things like calling me baby right away (we havent had date one yet, but it is because he lives in LA and I in SF) and saying crap like "I want to watch a love movie on our first date."

    Normally, guys pull this crap on me and I split, but for some reason this guy is making me totally gush. I think its because he is yoked as all fuck (plus Latino, and lets face it they fall fast anyways) Does this mean Im going to hell?


    I thought those are usually lameass reasons to shoot a guy down when he's not hot enough....? OK the 2nd one is a little creepy for the first date.

    edit: No this doesn't make you a bad person. I think although we don't say it, but most of time we have 2x standards when it comes to good looking guys that we find attractive. You guys might disagree with me but you know that's the truth. I am just saying it out loud

    _SAGE_ saidThese personality types, i've found at least, tend to be emotionally binary between the extremes- no middle ground, generally unrealistic and grandiose, irrational and prone to switching the love-switch off (and quickly moving on the the next just as strongly) just as quick and easily as they appear to have turned it on with you in the first place....[post continues]


    Just like Carmen, she was stabbed to death at the end by her jealous lover. icon_sad.gif
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    Chainers saidSo there is this guy Im talking too, and totally gushing over, and he is doing things that I have ruled other guys out in the past for doing. Things like calling me baby right away (we havent had date one yet, but it is because he lives in LA and I in SF) and saying crap like "I want to watch a love movie on our first date."

    Normally, guys pull this crap on me and I split, but for some reason this guy is making me totally gush. I think its because he is yoked as all fuck (plus Latino, and lets face it they fall fast anyways) Does this mean Im going to hell?


    I thought those are usually lameass reasons to shoot a guy down when he's not hot enough....? OK the 2nd one is a little creepy for the first date.

    edit: No this doesn't make you a bad person. I think although we don't say it, but most of time we have 2x standards when it comes to good looking guys that we find attractive. You guys might disagree with me but you know that's the truth. I am just saying it out loud

    _SAGE_ saidThese personality types, i've found at least, tend to be emotionally binary between the extremes- no middle ground, generally unrealistic and grandiose, irrational and prone to switching the love-switch off (and quickly moving on the the next just as strongly) just as quick and easily as they appear to have turned it on with you in the first place....[post continues]


    Just like Carmen, she was stabbed to death at the end by her jealous lover. icon_sad.gif


    I agree about the second one being creepy. I told him I would rather watch a scary movie where he can hold me when Im scared shitless, lol.

    Plus, chick flicks are for girls, we are real men!
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    Jun 21, 2011 10:22 PM GMT
    ah the fluttering heart! enjoy it!

    you won't break it it doesn't work out!
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    Jun 21, 2011 10:28 PM GMT
    there was a guy a met when i was 20, same stuff sort of, getting close way too quick and acting like he knew all about me when i had just met him and trying to have us do our laundry together which he thought would be romantic (...?)

    he, of course, ended up being intensely obsessive and stalkerish. he wasn't attractive though so it was easy to walk away from it, which made him flip out screaming on the phone like a maniac just because i said i didn't want to see him anymore when i had only met him a few times.

    i don't think it makes you a bad person, unless you're really that confident he's going to get his feelings hurt, you'd be a fool though to fall for all the nonsense conversation and feelings.
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    Jun 21, 2011 10:33 PM GMT
    rosco87 saidthere was a guy a met when i was 20, same stuff sort of, getting close way too quick and acting like he knew all about me when i had just met him and trying to have us do our laundry together which he thought would be romantic (...?)

    he, of course, ended up being intensely obsessive and stalkerish. he wasn't attractive though so it was easy to walk away from it, which made him flip out screaming on the phone like a maniac just because i said i didn't want to see him anymore when i had only met him a few times.

    i don't think it makes you a bad person, unless you're really that confident he's going to get his feelings hurt, you'd be a fool though to fall for all the nonsense conversation and feelings.


    Yea I can totally feel you there. I mean, he is acting all romantic, which I think is just the passion he has for thinking Im interesting (which is what he has said, I am interested in you.)

    He does balance it out, though, with stuff like "I hope we get along on the phone" and "I hope there is chemistry between us"

    So he does have a semi balanced head on his shoulder.