Muscleclown saidI'm currently working in Dusseldorf. Not exactly Berlin or Munich, but great people and a nice town. My attempt at the German language is earning me lots of laughs. Haven't had a chance to visit many places around Dusseldorf. Cologne is next on my list. Any places I should visit?
Cologne... from a gay standpoint there is Rudolfplatz and the bars on the southern edge of old town, near Heumarkt. Old town is quite picturesque, despite it being bombed to smithereens some 65 years ago and the "modern" rebuilding efforts in the 50's and 60's. There is always a party going on on Friday and Saturday nights. Check out http://www.rikmagazin.de/ for infos. Oh, the CSD parade is this Sunday...
Of course the cathedral, the Roman-Germanic Museum... the inclusion of Roman ruins in the parking garage right at the cathedral...
Shopping wise, Hohe Strasse (south from Cathedral square, which, incidentally is right next to the main train station), even though the cooler shops are more towards Rudolfplatz.
Just don't order an Alt when in Cologne. Or say you're from Düsseldorf... :-)
And if you ever make it to Bonn (just 15 mi further south) a little quainter, but just as cosmopolitan. A remnant of its glory days as the capital city prior to the reunification. Beautiful university buildings and gardens (former palaces of the Prince Electors of Cologne - who fled Cologne for Bonn as the Kölner were becoming a bit of a nuisance...) The entire city center is a pedestrian shopping area. The former US embassy is now an extension of the UN, as is the former office building of German parliamentarians. On the outskirts is the noteworthy Siebengebirge (if you're the outdoorsy type) with plenty of hiking opportunities as well as some castle (Drachenfels) and abbey (Heisterbacherrott) ruins.
But, to answer the OP...
I like it, despite it being a bit crowded.
German men are alright.
Sex is just like in the States. Some like it hot, some not. Fun either way.
Food: Döner is the best! ;-)
Oh, and most German gay men are not into S&M.