Dealing with a loss

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    Jun 24, 2011 3:24 PM GMT
    Need some help here, a few days ago a great friend and a great man was killed by a drunk driver. It was a huge blow to me. He was a great man, but a better friend. How do you men deal with such matters?
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    Jun 24, 2011 3:25 PM GMT
    its very tramatic, but i think you should get off here, and mourn with other common friends, family etc, cherish the good times.
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    Jun 24, 2011 3:28 PM GMT
    I don't deal. I'm detached from my feelings and emotionally void. I just go on about my business like nothing's changed.
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    Jun 24, 2011 3:37 PM GMT
    commonman saidHow do you men deal with such matters?
    I cry.
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    Jun 24, 2011 3:39 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    commonman saidHow do you men deal with such matters?
    I cry.


    Me too.

    -Doug

    Ditto for Bill
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    Jun 24, 2011 4:15 PM GMT
    Live admirably so that your life is a testament to his.
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    Jun 24, 2011 5:11 PM GMT
    Process your feelings, talk about them, and allow yourself time. Time mends these wounds, maybe not to where they're healed 100%, but enough to go on with your life and still find happiness and fulfillment.
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    Jun 24, 2011 8:45 PM GMT
    You look to your family and friends for emotional support. Don't be ashamed or afraid to reach out to people who are able to help. Set your vanity, pride and independence aside and ask for help whenever you need it. Grieve until you no longer can. Trust that the pain will stop eventually.
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    Jun 24, 2011 8:52 PM GMT
    I've been through this.
    Only time will heal your loss.
    For now, cry as much as you need to.
    It's best to let your feelings out.
    Before long, you'll be left with less and less sadness, and more and more happy memories.
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    Jun 24, 2011 8:52 PM GMT
    My sympathy is with you and I know you will grow stronger. Please mail me if I can help in any way with anything you want to share. Blessings.
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    Jun 24, 2011 9:06 PM GMT
    I am sorry for your loss. For me it was my faith, prayer, friends, and family that got me through the loss of my Uncle two years ago, it impacted me really bad.

    Everyone process loss differently, but I know somedays I went through stages of anger, denial, resentment, acceptance, and then just contemplation that he was in a better place. I went through a year with such emotions, and I just considered it part of the healing process. Also, sometimes just crying for no apparent reason in that single moment, would plague me.

    So just pace yourself and their is not time clock for healing when it comes to such losses.

  • Lincsbear

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    Jun 25, 2011 12:24 AM GMT
    You have to feel the loss,express it,let it out some way.Don`t deny it.By feeling and showing you`ll begin to get over the trauma.Life can never go back to what it was,but time heals, makes things better.And celebrate the guy`s life and achievements;be glad you knew him as a friend.
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    Jun 25, 2011 3:22 AM GMT
    Time. Sometimes you don't and shouldn't get completely "over it" but time will help you mend. Sorry to about your loss.