Men only spa for a rookie


  • Jun 24, 2011 3:38 PM GMT
    So I need some assistance/guidance.
    First time poster, so here goes:

    While I am not full-out gay, I am curious.
    I have gone to a men's only spa but got scared and ran out. However, I want to satisfy my curiousity and experience an establishment like this.

    Can someone tell me what to expect? Can I watch people engaged in sexual activity? Am I allowed to join in? Would people get mad at me if I did? How does things really work once inside? Aren't these places illegal?

    I have visions of the cops doing a raid - not really what I need.

    I am sorry - I feel like a tool for asking. icon_eek.gif
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    Jun 24, 2011 3:53 PM GMT
    you dirty. lol
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    Jun 24, 2011 3:59 PM GMT
    Usually they have a front desk where you pay your fee and collect a towel and a locker key.

    You go to the locker room, take your clothes off and put them in the locker and put the towel on.

    Then there are usually sauna rooms, steam rooms, jacuzzi, lounge rooms (for chillaxing) and porn rooms, plus private cabins and 'play areas'.

    You go explore, enjoy the facilities, see if there's anyone you want to hook up with.

    Some guys like to engage in sexual activity in the public spaces, some go to the private cabins/rooms. If they are in the public areas feel free to watch - they will probably like it!

    If you want to join in then approach and gauge the reaction, maybe reach out for a light touch and see what response you get! No means no in these places, so if you come on to someone and they don't want you to, you'll soon know about it.

    I don't think they are illegal so don't worry about a raid. Just make sure you use protection if you have sex with anyone!
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    Jun 24, 2011 4:05 PM GMT
    Check the net to see if they have a website. Some places have a page or two so you can see what the place looks like, know what they charge and opening times.

  • Jun 24, 2011 4:06 PM GMT
    Yeah I did.
    I am just scared.
    I fear that someone will get pissed if I come on to them.
    So new to this.
  • Koaa2

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    Jun 25, 2011 10:21 PM GMT
    Don't worry about it, they won't get pissed off, unless you keep bothering them, after they have indicated they are not interested. Go have fun, be safe.
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    Jun 25, 2011 10:59 PM GMT
    Burlington_guy saidCan someone tell me what to expect? Can I watch people engaged in sexual activity? Am I allowed to join in? Would people get mad at me if I did? How does things really work once inside? Aren't these places illegal?

    In the States we more commonly refer to them as bathhouses, though the owner may prefer the more upscale spa or health club terms. Most are private, for which you apply for a membership, which avoids legal issues in most jurisdictions. I can't speak for Canadian places.

    "Pure" gave you an excellent description of the typical routine in those I've used. Don't be scared, these are just other gay guys (or bi & curious) who aren't going to hurt you. As "Koaa2" said, just back off if you get rejected, that's normal. Keep your eyes open and watch what the others guys are doing. You can sit there quietly and just take it all in, learning by observing. Naturally you can't be shy about nudity, these are places where you let it all hang out.

    I remember at my first bathhouse I was sitting in a steamroom next to a guy who was giving a blowjob to another fellow. Several others came over to watch and stroke themselves as they stood there. I saw this lovely cock right in front of my eyes, so I just leaned forward and sucked it into my mouth.

    The guy could've pushed me away, and I would've accepted that. But he let me continue, and soon we went to a more private nook for some great 1/1. But I've also been rejected when I made an approach. Well, OK, guess I wasn't his type, or he wasn't in the mood just then. Not the end of the world and you move on.

    But as also posted above, play safe. I always have, and I'm still clean. If you don't know what that entails, then read up first. And again, on your first trips watch what the other guys are doing. You'll get the routine in no time.
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    Jun 25, 2011 11:11 PM GMT
    I've been to these sort of places.


    I find that the only attractive people who use them tend to be black.

    I have no preference for black or white. Inde3ed, i've tried all colours of the rainbow.

    But you only find black sexy men in gay saunas.

    The white ones are generally geriatrics.

    Fact.
  • inuman

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    Jun 25, 2011 11:15 PM GMT
    This link should help you a little icon_cool.gif


    http://www.bathhouseaddict.com/index.html
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    Jun 25, 2011 11:16 PM GMT
    inuman saidThis link should help you a little icon_cool.gif


    http://www.bathhouseaddict.com/index.html


    sorry, but you sooooo don't get men like that in those places!
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    Jun 25, 2011 11:19 PM GMT
    Brit_Bloke saidI've been to these sort of places.


    I find that the only attractive people who use them tend to be black.

    I have no preference for black or white. Inde3ed, i've tried all colours of the rainbow.

    But you only find black sexy men in gay saunas.

    The white ones are generally geriatrics.

    Fact.


    Then I have to go there, for the sexy black men, not for the "geriatrics" LOL

    In all seriousness, I don't think hot guys go to those places.
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    Jun 25, 2011 11:21 PM GMT
    SmokinHotTwink said
    Brit_Bloke saidI've been to these sort of places.


    I find that the only attractive people who use them tend to be black.

    I have no preference for black or white. Inde3ed, i've tried all colours of the rainbow.

    But you only find black sexy men in gay saunas.

    The white ones are generally geriatrics.

    Fact.


    Then I have to go there, for the sexy black men, not for the "geriatrics" LOL

    In all seriousness, I don't think hot guys go to those places.


    No, the hot blacks do because they're scareed to come out.
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    Jun 25, 2011 11:45 PM GMT
    BEWARE....there are the GIANT BUGS that come out and give you spots all over!!

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    Jun 26, 2011 5:26 AM GMT
    No they are not illegal in Canada anywhere.
  • inuman

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    Jun 27, 2011 10:02 PM GMT
    Brit_Bloke said
    inuman saidThis link should help you a little icon_cool.gif


    http://www.bathhouseaddict.com/index.html


    sorry, but you sooooo don't get men like that in those places!


    Sorry to say but the ones we've been to has had rather HOT guys, ones that look like guys on this site in fact...
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    Jun 27, 2011 10:37 PM GMT
    inuman saidSorry to say but the ones we've been to has had rather HOT guys, ones that look like guys on this site in fact...

    It varies, of course, but I've never been to a bathhouse (men's spa/health club) where most of the guys weren't good looking. For one thing you're naked for much of the experience, or at most have a towel, mainly as you go from one area to another. Really ugly trolls just won't show themselves like that in many cases, they simply stay home.

    Plus the higher the rates, the more exclusivity you get, although the age demographic may go up a bit. A good place will have a web site with gallery, so you can judge for yourself. Naturally you disregard the models they pose around, but the places I've used had good lookers for real.

    I've told this story before, but I just love it. My favorite health club has a nude outdoor pool with lounge chairs, where everyone is naked. On weekends they have an early afternoon complimentary buffet out there, which offers a full meal, not just snacks. They even have a chef in kitchen whites and cap to carve the meat. And you hear this over the PA system:

    "Gentlemen, the buffet is now open, the buffet is now open. Please wear at least a towel in the serving line." I just love that! icon_biggrin.gif
  • inuman

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    Jun 27, 2011 10:42 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    inuman saidSorry to say but the ones we've been to has had rather HOT guys, ones that look like guys on this site in fact...

    It varies, of course, but I've never been to a bathhouse (men's spa/health club) where most of the guys weren't good looking. For one thing you're naked for much of the experience, or at most have a towel, mainly as you go from one area to another. Really ugly trolls just won't show themselves like that in many cases, they simply stay home.

    Plus the higher the rates, the more exclusivity you get, although the age demographic may go up a bit. A good place will have a web site with gallery, so you can judge for yourself. Naturally you disregard the models they pose around, but the places I've used had good lookers for real.

    I've told this story before, but I just love it. My favorite health club has a nude outdoor pool with lounge chairs, where everyone is naked. On weekends they have an early afternoon complimentary buffet out there, which offers a full meal, not just snacks. They even have a chef in kitchen whites and cap to carve the meat. And you hear this over the PA system:

    "Gentlemen, the buffet is now open, the buffet is now open. Please wear at least a towel in the serving line." I just love that! icon_biggrin.gif



    That sounds like a nice place just for what you said, hell I'd go to that one, where is it anyways?
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    Jun 27, 2011 10:54 PM GMT
    wtf? I had no clue places like this existed. Seems kinda trashy to me.
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    Jun 28, 2011 6:28 AM GMT
    My bf and I enjoy going now and then. There are two in Phoenix. One has an outdoor pool and jacuzzi, which is nice.

    We went to a nice one in San Diego over Memorial Day and hooked up with a very hot guy in his mid-20's. Just some oral/jacking.

    Sometimes we'll do that in the public areas also engaged or just watching.

    Like anywhere, sometimes there are a few attractive people and many times there are not. We went to Entourage in Vegas just this weekend for the first time. Saturday night and it wasn't that busy and only a few marginals.

    We enjoyed the facilities and then just used our private room later for the two of us. It depends on what you're in the mood for, but I would say it's worth checking out.

    I would go more than once though. I don't think one experience is enough to judge a place on.