would you feel smothered if

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    Jun 24, 2011 3:55 PM GMT
    would you feel smothered if a guy told you that no one else was interesting to him and you were his perfect guy?

    I dont know but this just sounds real clingy to me.

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    Jun 24, 2011 3:56 PM GMT
    if youre into him, not at all, id be flattered, but i am an aries, and a giant flirt. Its in my nature.
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    Jun 24, 2011 3:59 PM GMT


    Nope. icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 24, 2011 4:25 PM GMT
    Early in the friendship, yes.
    After the friendship had time to develop into a relationship, no.
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    Jun 24, 2011 4:34 PM GMT
    Depends on what he meant by "perfect"

    If you are his perfect guy because he really likes you warts and all, then it's good. But if you are his perfect guy because he thinks you are perfect, then I would be suspicious.

    I would be even more suspicious if he told you this by texting.

    Anybody who sets you up and expects you to be a perfect person is being manipulative and insincere. Nobody is perfect and when he realizes you aren't, he will fault you for not living up to his expectations and try to make you feel guilty.

    Don't fall for it. I'm sure he can find another clown who is eager for that kind of empty flattery..icon_eek.gif
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    Jun 24, 2011 5:00 PM GMT
    Depends on the context.

    If it follows the sentence "Hi! My name is so and so, nice to meet you!" then yes, creepy.

    If it's someone you've been seeing for a while it could be very romantic.
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    Jun 24, 2011 5:02 PM GMT


    KissingPro, you really are quite wonderful, you know that?

    "If you are his perfect guy because he really likes you warts and all, then it's good. But if you are his perfect guy because he thinks you are perfect, then I would be suspicious."

    BIG truth to this.
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    Jun 24, 2011 6:08 PM GMT
    KissingPro is right. I've been there.

    It's kind of like promising a child they can buy a toy if they're 'good'. It's total manipulation.
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    Jun 24, 2011 6:16 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidEarly in the friendship, yes.
    After the friendship had time to develop into a relationship, no.

    This... so much.

    If you don't reciprocate the feeling... it would feel like too much. You would also know at that time you might not be meant for each other or be in it for the long run.
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    Jun 24, 2011 6:48 PM GMT
    If, I'd put the wammy on him; I'd consider such a statement conformation of my Iron Casanova status.. Still, I've felt it before and I'd NEVER utter such words, you might as well lean into it and push the guy out the door. Besides, it is a false statement, no one man is the perfect guy for you, the universe is littered with viable connections for you. It takes a little bit of a frail personality to say that there is no one else, of course there is!!

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    Jun 24, 2011 7:34 PM GMT
    Sounds kind of romantic.....and so few guys have even heard the word "romance" these days....icon_confused.gif
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    Jun 24, 2011 8:56 PM GMT
    The warning flags would go up, but I'd take the time to gently shatter his delusions..I mean illusions...I mean
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    Jun 24, 2011 8:59 PM GMT
    If the feeling is reciprocal, there's nothing better than hearing those words from someone you truly care about. Constant phone calls, endless texting, 1000 emails a day, 24x7 monitoring or surveillance, ubiquitous presence, etc.,--those are smothering. Words of love, affection, and appreciation--those are always good and are never smothering in my book.
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    Jun 25, 2011 2:04 AM GMT
    It sounds sweet.

    I'm missing the part where it sounds clingy. He didn't say he needs to be with you always, or he feels lost when you're not around.

    Maybe you just don't feel the same way about this guy.
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    Jun 25, 2011 2:09 AM GMT
    flattered but if those r the first words out of his mouth then yeah to fake to soon to tell, if after time that is said i would be like ok that is more believable.
  • aaronkei

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    Jun 25, 2011 2:11 AM GMT
    no just go with the flow and except the compliment
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    Jun 25, 2011 2:30 AM GMT
    if i loved him as well it wouldnt be
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    Jun 25, 2011 2:31 AM GMT
    If I liked him, no, I wouldn't but if he said that to me every single day, yeah I definitely would!
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    Jun 26, 2011 4:06 PM GMT
    I personally dont think a perfect boyfriend exists. It works more on a compatibility scale. More like how there isnt a carbon copy of yourself, but there might be someone who resembles you or acts similar.

    back to point: It came up in conversation, I just think those words express something that is a bit of a red flag.
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    Jun 26, 2011 4:25 PM GMT
    Yeah, I would be suspicious as well.

    Dated a guy recently that I could tell was falling for me (didn't call me perfect but close). It was flattering until I realized that he often did most of the talking and so he never learned that much about me. Got old fast.
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    Jun 26, 2011 6:15 PM GMT
    I'm God's gift...so I'm not the least put off by such comments, they are expected.
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    Jun 26, 2011 6:26 PM GMT
    Could actually not be a compliment at all. If it's because he is kinda flighty and he thinks you are perfect for him because you are dte / boring (or reversed) then I'm not sure it's a compliment. Just a statement (maybe an insult). He could simply be trying to communicate that he thinks the two of you would be a good match.

    Really hard to tell since you have given very little information but of course it's a fine line between too little info and tl:dr.
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    Jun 26, 2011 7:03 PM GMT
    i would hold three fingers in his face and ask him "how many fingers do you see?" to see if he's drunk...which he probably will be icon_cry.gif guys don't say that kinda stuff anymore u know unless they're drunk or high
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    Jun 26, 2011 7:04 PM GMT
    What if its back and forth? "Man, I see all these guys, but I just cant see a future with them? You are it for me."

    Wouldn't that entice you to say the same, especially if it is true?