As shallow as it sounds..

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    Jun 24, 2011 5:36 PM GMT
    Perhaps it'd be beneficial if there was a portion of the profile where you fill out the type of guy you're not interested in talking to at all (in a politically correct manner) so guys know not to bother you. Just throwing it out there. Not even sure if that's possible...haha

    I haven't contacted anybody on this site in a romantic context, just a few who had interesting profiles and said that they love meeting new people and to not hesitate to say "Hello"

    Haven't even got a smiley face back, so feeling a little silly. I guess saying something along the lines of "You sound cool and your profile made me laugh" sounds like a love letter?

    Anyway, I'm going by the hotlist for now. Anybody else agree with me or think I'm silly? Any comments/thoughts welcome. I didn't think making online buddies would be so pointless and I feel silly for reaching out at all.
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    Jun 24, 2011 5:47 PM GMT

    There is an "About You"..."Guys You're Looking To Meet" section. I'm afraid it doesn't get any more straight forward than that. In hopes to attract like individuals, I put exactly what I was about in my About Me section and exactly what I wanted in The Guys Looking To Meet Section. Then there is your banner; it may not be pc, but you can spell out who's barred: no midgets, ballerinas, long shore men, etc.

    If you feel that strong about your exclusions let it be known, but I think you should concentrate on being inclusive and politely welcome all and only entertain your preferences. I was pretty specific, but I've had to get used to hostess-logo.jpg. It's kinda the site you're on that plays a part also. icon_wink.gif

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    Jun 24, 2011 6:16 PM GMT
    My profile is so obtuse. But that's the point, and the guys who know how to proceed accordingly are exactly the ones I'm interested in talking to.
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    Jun 24, 2011 6:32 PM GMT
    I think most of the guys who say they love meeting new people and for anyone to just say "Hi" are liars. They rarely ever respond.
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    Jun 25, 2011 2:44 AM GMT
    They only respond to guys they are attracted to. icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 25, 2011 3:06 AM GMT
    unfounded7 saidI think most of the guys who say they love meeting new people and for anyone to just say "Hi" are liars. They rarely ever respond.


    So at first I disagreed and wanted to argue with you about this because I respond to anyone that messages me with something. But then I realized how many times I have messaged someone with a profile as described and then got no response. Touche my friend.
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    Jun 25, 2011 3:09 AM GMT
    redheadnc said
    unfounded7 saidI think most of the guys who say they love meeting new people and for anyone to just say "Hi" are liars. They rarely ever respond.


    So at first I disagreed and wanted to argue with you about this because I respond to anyone that messages me with something. But then I realized how many times I have messaged someone with a profile as described and then got no response. Touche my friend.

    You're messaging the wrong guys. icon_wink.gif
  • matt13226

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    Jun 25, 2011 3:15 AM GMT
    im just lucky i even get mail on this site lol i do message quite a bit of guys and only 2-4 of them respond
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    Jun 25, 2011 3:17 AM GMT
    redheadnc said
    unfounded7 saidI think most of the guys who say they love meeting new people and for anyone to just say "Hi" are liars. They rarely ever respond.


    So at first I disagreed and wanted to argue with you about this because I respond to anyone that messages me with something. But then I realized how many times I have messaged someone with a profile as described and then got no response. Touche my friend.


    I'm glad we could agree on this. icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 25, 2011 3:24 AM GMT
    I use to hate rejection, but I'm starting to not care anymore. In some cases it doesn't even bother me that they don't respond. It doesn't mean you aren't good enough. It just means you aren't their type. You could be the best looking guy/girl in the world and there would still be people out there who find you hideously unattractive. Megan Fox for example. I think she's beautiful, but I know so many guys who think she's fugly as hell and largely overrated.

    The only time I get pissed off is if I compliment someone on their looks and they don't respond with a thank you. I actually found a guy on this website incredibly hot. I knew I wasn't his type, but I complimented him in a message regardless and added him to my hot list. I never got a thanks back and lost any and all attractiveness I found in him beforehand. HOT LIST DELETION! icon_twisted.gif
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    Jun 25, 2011 6:40 AM GMT
    Gaydar saidI use to hate rejection, but I'm starting to not care anymore. In some cases it doesn't even bother me that they don't respond. It doesn't mean you aren't good enough. It just means you aren't their type. You could be the best looking guy/girl in the world and there would still be people out there who find you hideously unattractive. Megan Fox for example. I think she's beautiful, but I know so many guys who think she's fugly as hell and largely overrated.

    The only time I get pissed off is if I compliment someone on their looks and they don't respond with a thank you. I actually found a guy on this website incredibly hot. I knew I wasn't his type, but I complimented him in a message regardless and added him to my hot list. I never got a thanks back and lost any and all attractiveness I found in him beforehand. HOT LIST DELETION! icon_twisted.gif


    You're just all types of awesome for no reason icon_smile.gif

    I think it comes down to common courtesy. At least a thanks or "hey, thanks for interest in being buds" ugh
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    Jun 25, 2011 6:54 AM GMT
    Allyigator: I'm not being horrible but.... (you know there's always going to be a but)... your pictures are a bit creepy. I think you need some ones that make you look like a real person that someone would want to contact. Also, get rid of that comment about the camera adding 10lbs, it doesn't do you any favours.

    To your main point, yeah, guys just reply to men their interested in. That's life.
  • swimmer8671

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    Jun 25, 2011 6:58 AM GMT
    You can write anything you want in your about me section and seriously guys will message you all the time and ask you stuff that you have clearly stated in it. I mean guys don't take the time to read your profile because god forbid taking more then 5 minutes to read something that would easily give you insight into what kind of person they are. Just like when people post TLicon_biggrin.gifR (too long, don't read) Reading is too much of a burden now a days apparently. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 25, 2011 6:59 AM GMT
    It takes all kinds. I always respond (as I have with the OP and others in this thread) assuming they are not death threats. I even address it in my Profile. Some guys are too busy. Some guys honestly forget. Others only want to be friendly with guys whose pants they wanna get into. And then there are some that are just plain dicks.

    Go by what their profile says and follow your instincts. The worthwhile ones ALWAYS do the right thing.

    Except for Ariodante who is just too obtuse. NO ONE understands anything about him and never will.

    He drops his pants for bacon.icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif

    I have a HUUUUGE crush on Ariodante. Don't tell.
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    Jun 25, 2011 5:04 PM GMT
    Cash saidIt takes all kinds. I always respond (as I have with the OP and others in this thread) assuming they are not death threats. I even address it in my Profile. Some guys are too busy. Some guys honestly forget. Others only want to be friendly with guys whose pants they wanna get into. And then there are some that are just plain dicks.

    Go by what their profile says and follow your instincts. The worthwhile ones ALWAYS do the right thing.

    Except for Ariodante who is just too obtuse. NO ONE understands anything about him and never will.

    He drops his pants for bacon.icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif

    I have a HUUUUGE crush on Ariodante. Don't tell.

    Cash is supreme awesomness. I must search Ariodante...


    redheadguy saidAllyigator: I'm not being horrible but.... (you know there's always going to be a but)... your pictures are a bit creepy. I think you need some ones that make you look like a real person that someone would want to contact. Also, get rid of that comment about the camera adding 10lbs, it doesn't do you any favours.

    To your main point, yeah, guys just reply to men their interested in. That's life.


    Haha, sorry you think they look creepy. They're just pics of my body. My main pic was my idea of being different. Maybe it comes off as trying too hard, but if you saw my facebook, that's just my style. I've been told by a few that they're cool, but didn't need the validation. They're staying.

    I just wanted to make friends and don't see a point in saying "I love making friends and meeting new people" on here and not responding. obviously not everybody will, but out of 6 or 7 people over the span since I've joined the site, not one response? Sheesh haha I'm cool though, just thinking outloud.
  • DrewT

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    Jun 25, 2011 5:12 PM GMT
    I almost always respond. And yet no one ever says hi! icon_sad.gif Of course the ones that do live in the Philippines, or India... and I can't understand their English, but I respond anyway.
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    Jun 25, 2011 5:16 PM GMT
    Cash said
    Except for Ariodante who is just too obtuse. NO ONE understands anything about him and never will.

    He drops his pants for bacon.icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif

    I have a HUUUUGE crush on Ariodante. Don't tell.


    The man doth speak the truth. My pantaloons drop straight to the ground for a bite of that sweet, salty pork icon_redface.gif
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    Jun 25, 2011 5:20 PM GMT
    I bet Ari's pork tastes really good!
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    Jun 25, 2011 5:22 PM GMT
    allyigator said
    Gaydar saidI use to hate rejection, but I'm starting to not care anymore. In some cases it doesn't even bother me that they don't respond. It doesn't mean you aren't good enough. It just means you aren't their type. You could be the best looking guy/girl in the world and there would still be people out there who find you hideously unattractive. Megan Fox for example. I think she's beautiful, but I know so many guys who think she's fugly as hell and largely overrated.

    The only time I get pissed off is if I compliment someone on their looks and they don't respond with a thank you. I actually found a guy on this website incredibly hot. I knew I wasn't his type, but I complimented him in a message regardless and added him to my hot list. I never got a thanks back and lost any and all attractiveness I found in him beforehand. HOT LIST DELETION! icon_twisted.gif


    You're just all types of awesome for no reason icon_smile.gif

    I think it comes down to common courtesy. At least a thanks or "hey, thanks for interest in being buds" ugh


    I believe in being courteous and when someone contacts me, in any shape or form I send some kind of a thank you or similar message. So many of the guys here don't do that and I think it's a shame. Don't really know why that is but I know that I will continue to acknowledge anyone that tries to reach out to me!

    Good luck! icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 25, 2011 5:27 PM GMT
    Why the fuck do you think I just don't view anyone's profile?
    Cause it pisses me off so bad when you click it and it's some shallow racist asshole's profile, or they say they only want to talk to those 21yrs old, or that they're "straight acting." Fuck off!
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    Jun 25, 2011 6:08 PM GMT
    Why are people so touchy about guys not talking to them? Say hi, and that's it, if they don't respond oh wtf well move on.

    People are so touchy these days and everyone's looking for an apology
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    Jun 25, 2011 7:06 PM GMT

    Lol, there is one guy on this whole board who should and will never need to worry about not being responded to because he's a jewel and not because he was born that way, but because he's put himself together that way. I've never seen him be indifferent, nasty, or out right mean toward anyone, a little obtuse maybe, which it takes a lot of skill to make expressive. To the rest of you, I say (BURP).


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    Jun 25, 2011 8:16 PM GMT
    Iron_Casanova said
    Lol, there is one guy on this whole board who should and will never need to worry about not being responded to because he's a jewel and not because he was born that way, but because he's put himself together that way. I've never seen him be indifferent, nasty, or out right mean toward anyone, a little obtuse maybe, which it takes a lot of skill to make expressive. To the rest of you, I say (BURP).




    Sounds like you have a crush haha

    I think I'm a pretty nice guy, so not sure what you were implying if anything or you just wanted to broadcast your love for someone icon_smile.gif Who is it?
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    Jun 25, 2011 8:22 PM GMT
    Yeah they won't read it.

    I still get 45-year-old married men hitting on me, even though I'm dating around.

    Not complaining, I'm just saying. Thar some lookers that wear those labels. icon_redface.gif
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    Jun 25, 2011 8:33 PM GMT
    Bullwinklemoos saidYeah they won't read it.

    I still get 45-year-old married men hitting on me, even though I'm dating around.

    Not complaining, I'm just saying. Thar some lookers that wear those labels. icon_redface.gif


    haha, haven't "thar" in a while