White Party This Weekend in Palm Springs, Good or Bad Event?

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    Apr 17, 2008 10:47 PM GMT
    I've heard truly mixed reaction about the White Party in Palm Springs. Of course, you have the amazing dance music, talent and big crowds. However, on the flip side - can drugs be done in moderation and safe sex practiced?

    Who's going? Who's been?

    What's the best attributes and the worst?
  • vindog

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    Apr 18, 2008 12:36 AM GMT
    allencommon saidyou have the amazing dance music, talent and big crowds. However, on the flip side - can drugs be done in moderation and safe sex practiced?

    Who's going? Who's been?

    What's the best attributes and the worst?


    I haven't been, but I think all of those things mentioned are subjective and a case by case basis. Being an event promoter and dj, some people can handle drugs, others can't. Some people are safe, some aren't.

    The music to some is amazing, to others its shite.


    Go and be your own boss.

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    But you are right, I have heard mixed things as well
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    Apr 18, 2008 1:10 AM GMT
    I've been to 4 PS White Parties. When I went (in the late 90's), party drugs were more prevalent and the sex was more rampant. I would have to say that, unless you are very strong-willed and only hang out with people of like mind, it is all too easy to over-do it with the drugs. I mean, when a hot guy on the dance floor offers you a bumper and smiles at you, it's hard to resist.

    In addition, the party is essentially non-stop Saturday night to Sunday evening/night, which is impossible to do unless you are chemically altered.

    If I were to recommend something, I'd say pic 1 or 2 parties to attend, such as the White Party itself on Sat and one of the pool parties, and spend the rest of your time enjoying the beauty of Palm Springs. There is a world outside the White Party, and PS is very nice this time of the year.

    Have fun, and be safe!
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    Apr 18, 2008 3:18 AM GMT
    I still have no clue what a "white party" is.
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    Apr 18, 2008 3:47 AM GMT
    I still have no clue what a "white party" is.

    A chance to be fabulously gay my dear.

    But I don't know, as I've never been, though, I may go the Sunday event depending how much I get done this weekend, well that and if I'm feeling flush enough for the price of entry.
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    Apr 18, 2008 3:50 AM GMT
    I used to go to the White Party in New York.

    I don't do drugs, though, so I usually left by 3 am or so.
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    Apr 18, 2008 4:36 AM GMT
    Allencommon, I went to White Party Palm Springs for the first time last year. I enjoyed the warm desert sun, dancing outdoors, and the music was great. Here is a video clip I took from the Saturday pool party -- which was kind of like a warm up event...lots of eye candy there for sure.



    It was worth it to go to the Saturday night official "White Party" in the convention center, particular to see the costumes guys come up with that are all white in theme. My favorite party was the Sunday T Dance out in the sun. Check out this clip I shot from 2007:



    I am sure there are lots of guys that do drugs, but there are plenty of guys like me who didn't, and just get into the people watching, dancing, and hanging out with friends. You can make it whatever you want it to be. I didn't find the guys to be particularly friendly or unfriendly. A lot of guys drive up from L.A. though. It was a fun carefree weekend for sure. For me, it wasn't so great to go a second time, but its worth a trip you have never been. Have fun!
  • vindog

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    Apr 18, 2008 5:55 AM GMT
    House beats are so good for white people who can't dance.


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  • metta

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    Apr 18, 2008 6:18 AM GMT
    I have been twice in the 90's and had a lot of fun. I think that being that I have always been shy, it has helped to keep me away from the drugs because I only spend time with my friends. And I'm pretty picky who I let into my life. I have never done any type of illegal drug. I don't even drink alcohol.

    I did see some crazy stuff when I did go and it was fun. Here is something from the one in 98'

    meWhite Party 98 - The Craziest experience that I had at the White Party.

    I remember walking through the Wyndam Hotel in Palm Springs and there were these guys telling us to come over to a room. We thought they were having a party, but as we got closer, we heard these grunts and groans, which at the time, I thought was someone just playing an adult video really loud. When we got into the room we found this guy was having sex with this woman on a balcony and a bunch of people were watching. I was in shock and I moved back out of the room. I was with a bunch of my old friends and a couple of new ones. Anyways, all of a sudden, the woman started yelling at all of us, telling all of us to go onto the balcony. When we got there, we saw that the guy was on his knees and she was ordering him around. She told us to all look over the balcony and we did, as she pulled her breasts up, over the rail. We looked below, and we saw this handsome man taking our picture. Well, that was really weird, I thought, so I went with my new friend Noah, who I had just met that day, back over to the elevator and down to the main lobby.

    (Well, I guess I should mention a little about Noah. Noah came to our hotel room earlier that day because one of our roomies, Brian, told him to meet him there. He ended up staying the entire weekend with us, singing Opera to us. His father is a US Senator in the midwest. He was a lot of fun. At the time, he was going to a local private art school, kind of in the area. We also had another guy stay in our room that sang to us as well. His name was Trent. Over the weekend, we ended up having around 9-12 people in our room. It's really hard to get a room during the White Party. And it was a place for people to get some rest.)

    Back to the main story. When we got off the elevator at the lobby, we noticed that we could not really move anywhere because it was so crowded so we just waited for a moment for people to move along. Then the elevator door opens behind us...and who do you think came out...the naked couple...yep. She had the guy by his penis and pulled him all around the lobby. We just stood there laughing in shock and then we took the elevator back up again to see if we could meet up with our other friends.

    We ended the last night of the White Party, meeting up with the guy that took the picture of us on the balcony. He said that the room was full of the go go dancers and that the stuff that was going on in his room was too crazy for him. He was also one of the go go dancers. Anyways, he ended up spending the last night in our room.
  • CAtoFL

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    Apr 18, 2008 3:10 PM GMT
    Here's a different perspective from a Palm Springs local.

    For us, it means that tens of thousands of gay visitors come to P.S. to spend time having fun and (hopefully) to spend money in our local hotels, restaurants, clubs, etc. For EVERY dollar they spend locally, our community is grateful. Visitors should know, though, that the money they spend on the White Party itself goes directly with Sanker back to L.A. Even though he claims that he gives a contribution back to local charities here, the record is quite spotty on the reality of that.

    Visitors should also know that Palm Springs has always historically been a gay draw over Easter. Long before Sanker brought his White Party here, we had huge Easter weekends. In fact, twenty-plus years ago, the largest gay hotel in the world was right here in the Coachella Valley (the New Lost World in Rancho Mirage). We get a bit peeved by the claim that Sanker 'created' Palm Springs as a gay destination - it's been one since the 1940s.

    And yes, there is some truth to describing this weekend as "twinks and tweakers". In the past, there have been as many as two dozen overdoses over White Party weekend - NOT something we like to see happen. So, if you're coming to town, please be responsible. While you get to go back home with good memories, we have to live with the bashers writing letters to the local paper for months about how decadent gay people are.

    As for us (the local residents), we tend to stay home this weekend. Getting into local restaurants is difficult. Our local clubs have lines (and cover charges) to get in, the drink pours are lighter and the drink prices are higher. In fact, many local folks I know actually plan their own out-of-town vacations during this event.

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    Apr 18, 2008 3:49 PM GMT
    My personal opinion, it's a great feeling to let go, dance and be surrounded by other gay men. That said, I've been to my share of similar "destination parties" and can say that I am well past the point of appeal.

    Yes, I experienced some incredible moments, met some beautiful people and fit a year's worth of party in two days. However, I also saw men in their most primal moments, doing and saying things they wouldn't normally do or say. I saw relationships end, boys overdose, mind-games played at a varsity level, bank accounts drained, credit cards max'd and shallowness prevail. I saw old taking advantage of the young, and the yound taking wild advantage of the old. I saw professionals who expressed that this one time of year was the only time they were "naughty, bad, or irresponsible." I've also seen the aftermath -- sexually transmitted infection, theft, rape, arrest and drug treatment.

    My point: I bet if we thought harder, we could come up with events near as fun and not requiring people harming themselves and others. Until then, I let the party boys do their thing and I do mine.]

    If you're going, be safe and keep those you care about safe too.
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    Apr 18, 2008 4:10 PM GMT
    pdxboxer saidMy personal opinion, it's a great feeling to let go, dance and be surrounded by other gay men. That said, I've been to my share of similar "destination parties" and can say that I am well past the point of appeal.

    Yes, I experienced some incredible moments, met some beautiful people and fit a year's worth of party in two days. However, I also saw men in their most primal moments, doing and saying things they wouldn't normally do or say. I saw relationships end, boys overdose, mind-games played at a varsity level, bank accounts drained, credit cards max'd and shallowness prevail. I saw old taking advantage of the young, and the yound taking wild advantage of the old. I saw professionals who expressed that this one time of year was the only time they were "naughty, bad, or irresponsible." I've also seen the aftermath -- sexually transmitted infection, theft, rape, arrest and drug treatment.

    My point: I bet if we thought harder, we could come up with events near as fun and not requiring people harming themselves and others. Until then, I let the party boys do their thing and I do mine.]

    If you're going, be safe and keep those you care about safe too.


    I wise man that has experienced, evaluated and made a good judgement call. Nicely put.
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    Apr 19, 2008 4:02 AM GMT


    Sadly, because it has become so pricey, attendance has decreased each year for the past five years. Sanker pockets gobs of money from this so-called "charity event."

    Funny thing, Dinah Shore Weekend (for lesbians) has grown by 50% each year because they know how to take care of their own and not worry about gouging their attendees.

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  • Muunrakur

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    Apr 19, 2008 4:07 AM GMT
    its a business.. I went to gay days at Disney in Orlando twice, each time they oversold the parties and there was much griping about the promoter getting a massive cut. I recall paying $100 for tix to one party and I got there right after the fire marshall arrived... to close it down.

    My guy and I are actually going to Gay Days Anaheim this year. I've heard that its less cruisey/druggie and more relaxed and down to earth... we'll see.
  • metta

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    Apr 19, 2008 5:03 AM GMT
    Muunrakur said

    My guy and I are actually going to Gay Days Anaheim this year. I've heard that its less cruisey/druggie and more relaxed and down to earth... we'll see.


    I live only about 30 minutes from Disneyland and have not been during gay days. I'm going this year for the first time. There is going to be a Just Us Boys meet at the same time and some of my other friends are going as well so it should be fun. icon_smile.gif

    http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=204534

    Maybe there will be a Real Jock meet as well.... icon_question.gif
  • Muunrakur

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    Apr 19, 2008 5:06 AM GMT
    We go to Anaheim every summer, meet up with one of my best friends from high school and his wife.. we stay at the resort and just play in the hotel; pool, spa, dinner.. we never went in the park, I'm not sure if we will this time either since the gay days parties aren't in the park.
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    Jun 23, 2009 5:29 AM GMT
    allencommon saidI've heard truly mixed reaction about the White Party in Palm Springs. Of course, you have the amazing dance music, talent and big crowds. However, on the flip side - can drugs be done in moderation and safe sex practiced?

    Who's going? Who's been?

    What's the best attributes and the worst?



    It's the best. I stayed at an amazing Palm Springs Hotel and the White Party was crazzzzzyyyy fun.