Mother wants me to date this girl

  • DerangedMind

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    Jun 25, 2011 7:07 PM GMT
    oh, the horror.

    she's the daughter of my mother's best friend, and it every single family event and such my mom invites her. mom constantly goes off about how the girl is such a good catch, pretty, intelligent, good-natured and religious (yes, my mother is a devout christian).

    I've had a major argument with my mother already. I try to tell her that I'm not remotely interested in girls in that way, and to stop trying to get me hooked up to this girl, but she just won't understand. She secretly hopes my gayness is just a phase, and that someday I'll be touched by God and return to the good, sinless life of heterosexuality.

    Honestly, she's driving me crazy. It's like I can't even go home without meeting the girl, so I tend to avoid it by saying that i have college/work/etc and can't visit. It kinda makes me feel guilty, but I've already tried to explain and she just won't understand. And probably won't until I present her some boyfriend or something.

    Any advice or whatever?
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    Jun 25, 2011 7:10 PM GMT
    just keep bein cute and bring home a man. Introduce her to ur mother as ur boyfriend.
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    Jun 25, 2011 8:06 PM GMT
    Tell her you hope her bad parenting is just a phase and to leave you alone.
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    Jun 25, 2011 8:11 PM GMT
    Write her a beautiful hand calligraphed letter.


    Dearest Mother,

    I liketh the cock. The cock liketh me.


    Sincerely,

    Your son who liketh the cock.
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    Jun 25, 2011 8:12 PM GMT
    Tell your mom again that you aren't attracted to women. You should also tell the girl. Maybe if she knows she can call your mom off.
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    Jun 25, 2011 8:13 PM GMT
    Easy solution. Instead of telling your mother you don't want to date this girl because you are gay, tell the girl's mother you don't want to date this girl because you are gay.
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    Jun 25, 2011 8:15 PM GMT

    Do you seriously have to be smitten with her to take the girl out? Think of your mother....she has a gay son. We want them to be so understanding of our needs. If I had it to do over, I may have been more flexible. A date won't kill you. Give mom something to hold onto instead of a grand child. icon_cry.gif

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    Jun 25, 2011 8:15 PM GMT



    Just say mom.....I LOVE COCK!
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    Jun 25, 2011 8:17 PM GMT
    Just take the girl out, marry her and have children. How hard is that?
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    Jun 25, 2011 8:20 PM GMT
    DerangedMind saidIt kinda makes me feel guilty, but I've already tried to explain and she just won't understand. And probably won't until I present her some boyfriend or something.

    Any advice or whatever?

    Many mothers thrive on assigning guilt to their sons. I got the "why don't you meet a nice girl" treatment myself. And I'm not sure if your mother "won't" understand you versus that she "can't" understand you.

    She is programmed to believe you are going through a phase, as you said, a choice and not a natural & normal orientation. In her mind, a taste of a woman will wash the taste for men out of your mouth.

    So long as you live in your mother's house or near her, and possibly remain dependent upon her, you will continue to face this. The long-term solution is to move away and become independent. I think you already know that. In the meantime, you must deal with Mother with patience, avoidance & deflection. Good luck!
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    Jun 25, 2011 8:20 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidJust take the girl out, marry her and have children. How hard is that?

    ^ You know better.
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    Jun 25, 2011 8:21 PM GMT
    Iron_Casanova said
    Do you seriously have to be smitten with her to take the girl out? Think of your mother....she has a gay son. We want them to be so understanding of our needs. If I had it to do over, I may have been more flexible. A date won't kill you. Give mom something to hold onto instead of a grand child. icon_cry.gif



    interesting...but then another date would be expected. Compromise regarding sexuality can be tricky

    I'd say that you're interested in someone at school. Or you could tell the girl yourself through Facebook, text, smoke signal, that you're not into women and it's nothing personal. This would probably make her come to your defense and not be under your mother's spell.

    Then again, she might try to "convert" you, so best of luck

    And to everyone telling him to tell his mother he's gay...he did haha
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    Jun 25, 2011 8:33 PM GMT
    Iron_Casanova said
    Ariodante saidJust take the girl out, marry her and have children. How hard is that?

    ^ You know better.


    I'm not bad icon_sad.gif I'm just drawn that way.

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    Jun 25, 2011 8:35 PM GMT
    allyigator said
    interesting...but then another date would be expected. Compromise regarding sexuality can be tricky

    I'd say that you're interested in someone at school. Or you could tell the girl yourself through Facebook, text, smoke signal, that you're not into women and it's nothing personal.

    And to everyone telling him to tell his mother he's gay...he did haha


    An initial date is expected now and not by the congregation at Faith Temple Sunrise Christian Family Outreach Parochial School and Church, but by his mother. If there ever was a time to compromise....one date? He goes out on one date and cuts it off with guys...so do you...icon_twisted.gif He can't do that here? I suspect I've had to compromise regarding sexuality more than you and I'm telling him I regret not giving my mother some hope.Why not tell the girl on the date: hey, here's the deal; I'm doing this for momma, but I'm really this. She'd understand and I suspect would take it better than a stupid text. Let's keep in mind that she probably doesn't want to date him either.

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    Jun 25, 2011 8:37 PM GMT
    Maybe you should ask your mother if she would like a date with another woman. Maybe she would get it????icon_question.gificon_question.gificon_question.gif
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    Jun 25, 2011 8:44 PM GMT
    DerangedMind saidoh, the horror.......Any advice or whatever?

    I don't have anything to say except that you are cute!icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 25, 2011 9:10 PM GMT
    Philip_ said
    I don't have anything to say except that you are cute!icon_rolleyes.gif

    This, but I would say just that well let the girl (your mom's best friends daughter) know you're not interested in her that way so maybe she might stop going over to turn you to the straight side of the force at your mother's will icon_razz.gif

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    Jun 25, 2011 11:26 PM GMT
    Dile mama por favor entiende me gusta la verga, que te entre en la cabeza.

    That should do it
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    Jun 25, 2011 11:26 PM GMT
    vain_nayias said
    Philip_ said
    I don't have anything to say except that you are cute!icon_rolleyes.gif

    This, but I would say just that well let the girl (your mom's best friends daughter) know you're not interested in her that way so maybe she might stop going over to turn you to the straight side of the force at your mother's will icon_razz.gif

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    OMG i found my halloween custom for this year!!!!!!!!!icon_lol.gif anyway...back to the OP umm well i think u should just tell your mom to get out of your business and make that girl hate you...that way she won't want to see you either
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    Jun 25, 2011 11:32 PM GMT
    vain_nayias said

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    LMFAO.
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    Jun 25, 2011 11:37 PM GMT
    Mine does too, shes convinced it will turn me straight icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 26, 2011 12:52 AM GMT
    DerangedMind said

    ...the girl is such a good catch, pretty, intelligent, good-natured and religious...


    Perhaps she's confined by her family and their values, too. Take her out. Who knows, you may just find there's an inner Grace or Karen screaming to get out!

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    Jun 26, 2011 12:53 AM GMT
    Greenhopper saidMine does too, shes convinced it will turn me straight icon_razz.gif

    Mine did.
    "How do you know you won't like it?"
    Bahahaha.
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    Jun 26, 2011 12:54 AM GMT
    TrevorMark said
    Greenhopper saidMine does too, shes convinced it will turn me straight icon_razz.gif

    Mine did.
    "How do you know you won't like it?"
    Bahahaha.


    My limp dick kept screaming "DO NOT WAAAAANT!!!" at that gaping maw.
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    Jun 26, 2011 12:54 AM GMT
    Does she have a brother?