F*ckbuddy stood me up. I'm still going to f*ck him 3 hrs later 'cause I'm angry. What the hell am I doing? Do you think this is self-destructive?

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    Jun 26, 2011 1:53 AM GMT
    My FB told me we'd meet up at 3 pm, texted saying he cant wait, and then went completely silent, only to resurface 3 hrs later asking if he could come over. WTF?! I mean, seriously? what the hell does this guy think of me? We've f*cked before, and I know for a fact he likes me, so I was just completely caught off guard when he stood me up..I was so angry and pissed when he never showed. But when he txted 10 mins ago asking if he could still come over, I said yes. All my attractions for him were lost the moment I figured he wasnt coming, all that's left over now is rage. I really dont know what the hell I was thinking when I said yes. Right now the only thing I know is I'm pissed, and the guy who made me pissed is coming over, and this is the only way I can transfer my rage back onto this guy. (I refuse to get physically violent in my civilian life)

    I understand all the reasons why I should say "no", ie: self-respect, not being seen as a doormat, him being an inconsiderate asshole for standing me up and still have the nerve to ask if he could still come over...

    Can anyone shed some light here?
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    Jun 26, 2011 1:54 AM GMT

    If they deliver the pizza late, you still eat it and what's more is, you get it for free, so dig in. icon_surprised.gif

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    Jun 26, 2011 1:57 AM GMT
    he was probably trying to find someone hotter in the last 3 hours since he already knew you'd say yes..

    the hotter guy probly found another hotter guy so he had no one left except you, who he knows you'd always say yes.
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    Jun 26, 2011 1:57 AM GMT
    I don't know about your FB.....but I'd be right-on-time handsome guy! icon_cool.gif
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    Jun 26, 2011 1:58 AM GMT
    Tell us how you feel after your angry sex.
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    Jun 26, 2011 2:00 AM GMT
    kolkii saidhe was probably trying to find someone hotter in the last 3 hours since he already knew you'd say yes..

    the hotter guy probly found another hotter guy so he had no one left except you, who he knows you'd always say yes.
    Sounds like you've done that before.
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    Jun 26, 2011 2:19 AM GMT
    One1313 said what the hell does this guy think of me?


    He thinks of you as an orifice/dick.
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    Jun 26, 2011 2:32 AM GMT
    "I know for a fact he likes me"

    -Isn't that the opposite of a FB?

    Self-destructive would be fucking without a condom. You could do that.

    In my experience, this idea of doormat, FB, etc... is not really an esteem-able act. When you repeat enough of them then you sound like this ac932456... guy questioning why the cashier at the grocery store didn't say 'have a good day' and they must think he's unattractive.
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    Jun 26, 2011 3:03 AM GMT
    "Can anyone shed some light here?"
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    Why, yes I can.
    You have absolutely no reason to be angry because you told him that he was still welcome to come over.
    You are the problem because you allow him to do this to you.
    Don't you deserve to be treated better ?
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    Jun 26, 2011 4:03 AM GMT
    Lo, why don't you just ask him about the three hour gap and how much it moved you, instead of being all hot and hurty now? The time, I think, to be all hot and hurty depends on what he tells you, and how much you already trust him.

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    Jun 26, 2011 6:52 AM GMT
    TrevorMark saidTell us how you feel after your angry sex.


    Amazingly, right now, calm and very relaxed. I was pissed so there was little conversation between us, just pure sex. We banged for 3 hrs (yes, I see the irony of being stood up for 3 hrs and then banging for 3 hrs quite well). I took all my frustration out on his body when we banged. It was some of the best sex I've had, and he called it "porno sex". Then afterward we talked it out. He said it was work. I really dont believe it, but I'm not going to dwell on it either. It's only sex and we both got what we wanted. Whatever the true reasoning was I'm too exhausted to care right now.



    Webster666 said"Can anyone shed some light here?"
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    Why, yes I can.
    You have absolutely no reason to be angry because you told him that he was still welcome to come over.
    You are the problem because you allow him to do this to you.
    Don't you deserve to be treated better ?


    I was angry at him for having the balls to even ask if he could still come over 3 hrs later. That's why I knew it was probably self-destructive for my esteem level to let him come over and treat me as a back up plan. I still went ahead with it anyway cause I saw him as an immediate outlet for my frustration.

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    Thx all for hearing me vent and answering. Looking back now, for me to get all butt-hurt about someone's inconsideration just seem juvenile. I guess I still got some emotional maturing to do.
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    Jun 26, 2011 6:56 AM GMT
    Hopefully his butt was hurting after all was said and done. ;)

    Though what he did (in my mind at least) was more grounds for an ass-kicking than an ass-fucking.
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    Jun 26, 2011 8:09 AM GMT
    mmm Revenge sex .

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    Listen, a FB is not a "bad" relationship, but it has a certain level of convenience to it. As with any relationships you need to let the other person know where the limits are.... And then fuck the boy til he canĀ“t walk normally.
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    Jun 26, 2011 8:19 AM GMT
    Good to know that you're calm now. Common courtesy does dictate that if you are running late, then make sure the other party is given notice.

    Its not about immaturity that you were feeling, just your testosterone revving high and you're on park position.

    As long as the sex worked out. Its all good icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 26, 2011 8:42 AM GMT
    That sounds hot. I got a lil turned on reading it.
    You were mad at him, so you gave it to him rough.
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    Jun 26, 2011 11:00 AM GMT
    kolkii saidhe was probably trying to find someone hotter in the last 3 hours since he already knew you'd say yes..

    the hotter guy probly found another hotter guy so he had no one left except you, who he knows you'd always say yes.


    Pretty much my opinion. The thing with f^^k buddies I've noticed is that they tend to search for hotter guys then the guy they are seeing. When they find said hot guy, they'll stand up their current guy and eventually leave you out to dry, at least until the said hot guy finds another hotter guy and leaves your old f**k buddy, thus making your ex-f**k buddy come crawling back to you if he can't find another hot guy.

    The real question when that moment comes is do you want him back? Kind of like a relationship sort of speak. lol

    But I'm happy you're feeling better. icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 26, 2011 12:00 PM GMT
    been there done that... dump him
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    Jun 26, 2011 12:46 PM GMT
    Kaicoyote said
    kolkii saidhe was probably trying to find someone hotter in the last 3 hours since he already knew you'd say yes..

    the hotter guy probly found another hotter guy so he had no one left except you, who he knows you'd always say yes.


    Pretty much my opinion. The thing with f^^k buddies I've noticed is that they tend to search for hotter guys then the guy they are seeing. When they find said hot guy, they'll stand up their current guy and eventually leave you out to dry, at least until the said hot guy finds another hotter guy and leaves your old f**k buddy, thus making your ex-f**k buddy come crawling back to you if he can't find another hot guy.

    The real question when that moment comes is do you want him back? Kind of like a relationship sort of speak. lol

    But I'm happy you're feeling better. icon_smile.gif


    This.
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    Jun 26, 2011 8:04 PM GMT
    Kaicoyote said
    kolkii saidhe was probably trying to find someone hotter in the last 3 hours since he already knew you'd say yes..

    the hotter guy probly found another hotter guy so he had no one left except you, who he knows you'd always say yes.


    Pretty much my opinion. The thing with f^^k buddies I've noticed is that they tend to search for hotter guys then the guy they are seeing. When they find said hot guy, they'll stand up their current guy and eventually leave you out to dry, at least until the said hot guy finds another hotter guy and leaves your old f**k buddy, thus making your ex-f**k buddy come crawling back to you if he can't find another hot guy.

    The real question when that moment comes is do you want him back? Kind of like a relationship sort of speak. lol

    But I'm happy you're feeling better. icon_smile.gif



    Isn't that how it is with the majority of gay men's relationships though? Always on the lookout for something better to come along.
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    Jun 26, 2011 8:09 PM GMT
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    Jun 26, 2011 8:49 PM GMT
    so you like him then?
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    Jun 26, 2011 9:16 PM GMT
    One1313 saidI was pissed so there was little conversation between us, just pure sex. We banged for 3 hrs (yes, I see the irony of being stood up for 3 hrs and then banging for 3 hrs quite well). I took all my frustration out on his body when we banged. It was some of the best sex I've had, and he called it "porno sex".


    I'd love to piss you off sometime! icon_twisted.gif
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    Jun 26, 2011 9:38 PM GMT
    Just fuck the shit out of him, make him beg for more, don't let him cum, and then throw him out without his underwear. Angry revenge fuck is hot.
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    Jun 26, 2011 10:34 PM GMT
    Kaicoyote saidThe thing with f^^k buddies I've noticed is that they tend to search for hotter guys then the guy they are seeing. When they find said hot guy, they'll stand up their current guy and eventually leave you out to dry, at least until the said hot guy finds another hotter guy and leaves your old f**k buddy, thus making your ex-f**k buddy come crawling back to you if he can't find another hot guy.

    You describe the life cycle of the fuck-buddy in the most perfect detail. If it weren't for your relatively young age I'd ask if you were a behavioral scientist. Perhaps you have a career calling ahead of you? icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 26, 2011 11:04 PM GMT
    Dump his sorry ass, if someone makes me wait, they'll never see me again, I don't wait for no one. Like Eva Longoria said on DH, "THIS *points to face and body* waits for no man" ROFL