Monogamous relationships &

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    Jun 26, 2011 6:40 PM GMT
    Guys at RJ who say they are in one and have a collection of hot guys and exposing pitures of themselves makes one laugh, because in my minds eye they don't go together.

    To me guys who say they are in a monogamous relationship, there is a certain amount of morality attached; because it means you are exclusive, and promoting an attraction to another and exposing yourself is a contradiction to what you stated.

    Anyways thats my thought on the issue what yours?
  • mizu5

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    Jun 26, 2011 6:41 PM GMT
    I would agree with you except this is a fitness site, of course people are exposing their bodies.
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    Jun 26, 2011 7:00 PM GMT
    mizu5 saidI would agree with you except this is a fitness site, of course people are exposing their bodies.


    Yer but RJ is not just a fitness sight, and to learn and discuss fitness you don't need to expose yourself to learn about fitness or get advice. Yes the reasion RJ is the only gay site I go to is because it's not solely set up for sex, as thats not something I go on the net for; even after a 20+ year relationship.
  • mizu5

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    Jun 26, 2011 7:08 PM GMT
    Which is great for you, but being shirtless/nearly nude is kinda a good thing here. People can comment on musculature, where someone might want to work on something, how to do it. To show off gains and losses.
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    Jun 26, 2011 7:09 PM GMT
    True_blue_aussie said
    mizu5 saidI would agree with you except this is a fitness site, of course people are exposing their bodies.


    Yer but RJ is not just a fitness sight, and to learn and discuss fitness you don't need to expose yourself to learn about fitness or get advice. Yes the reasion RJ is the only gay site I go to is because it's not solely set up for sex, as thats not something I go on the net for; even after a 20+ year relationship.


    oh stop - you know you like looking at men. who you trying to fool.
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    Jun 26, 2011 8:33 PM GMT
    MadeNUSA said
    True_blue_aussie said
    mizu5 saidI would agree with you except this is a fitness site, of course people are exposing their bodies.


    Yer but RJ is not just a fitness sight, and to learn and discuss fitness you don't need to expose yourself to learn about fitness or get advice. Yes the reasion RJ is the only gay site I go to is because it's not solely set up for sex, as thats not something I go on the net for; even after a 20+ year relationship.


    oh stop - you know you like looking at men. who you trying to fool.


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  • Jerebear

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    Jun 26, 2011 10:12 PM GMT
    Each relationship is different and the rules are determined by the two people in the relationship. No one else's opinion is all that relevant.
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    Jun 26, 2011 10:23 PM GMT
    True_blue_aussie saidGuys at RJ who say they are in one and have a collection of hot guys and exposing pitures of themselves makes one laugh, because in my minds eye they don't go together.

    To me guys who say they are in a monogamous relationship, there is a certain amount of morality attached; because it means you are exclusive, and promoting an attraction to another and exposing yourself is a contradiction to what you stated.

    Anyways thats my thought on the issue what yours?
    At least they have the balls to show themselves. You apparently don't.
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    Jun 27, 2011 12:27 AM GMT
    Jerebear saidEach relationship is different and the rules are determined by the two people in the relationship. No one else's opinion is all that relevant.


    Amen!

    And what might work for you in your relationship might not work for the next person or couple.
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    Jun 27, 2011 12:30 AM GMT
    IMO what you mentioned and even flirting in person if you're in a relationship is okay as long as it doesn't go further.
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    Jun 27, 2011 12:46 AM GMT
    Looking at pics, being looked at, sharing compliments and some flirting is light years away from being emotionally connected and committed to someone.
  • masculumpedes

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    Jun 27, 2011 12:48 AM GMT
    Cash saidLooking at pics, being looked at, sharing compliments and some flirting is light years away from being emotionally connected and committed to someone.


    I agree...and I also think that most guys prefer being single instead of being in a relationship anyway. icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 27, 2011 12:56 AM GMT
    Jerebear saidEach relationship is different and the rules are determined by the two people in the relationship. No one else's opinion is all that relevant.

    I don't believe relationships should have rules, just agreements between the couple, as everybody is different and will react differently to different situations............ basically in any relationship there is always give and take, lines drawn that should never be crossed understandings that are understoodicon_neutral.gif
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    Jun 27, 2011 2:01 AM GMT
    My boyfriend and I both check out other guys together. How is being here any different? There are still lines we wouldn't cross. We are both very greedy icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 27, 2011 2:31 PM GMT
    I somewhat agree with the OP. It's OK to be on RJ even if you're in a committed, monogamous relationship, but there's a fine line that one must not, and cannot, cross. Posting casual pictures of your self is OK, but posting naked pictures of you or pictures of you that you know would elicit sexual advances or comments is not appropriate in my opinion. Ultimately, however, it's a choice that one must make based on his values and upbringing. Personally, if I were in a committed, monogamous relationship, I wouldn't even be on RJ or any other gay social sites (let alone sex or pseudo-sex sites).