Any other young guys fearing the real world?

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    Jun 27, 2011 1:15 AM GMT
    I'm in college and I'm fearing the real world when I graduate and am afraid of becoming homeless or whatever... is this normal to feel that way?
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    Jun 27, 2011 1:31 AM GMT
    FunCollegeDude saidI'm in college and I'm fearing the real world when I graduate and am afraid of becoming homeless or whatever... is this normal to feel that way?


    Sure! I was scared as hell. Intern, Get a job related to your industry. Life is like swimming. The only thing to fear is remaining afraid.
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    Jun 27, 2011 1:34 AM GMT
    I'm afraid of moving on with my life in general. I don't admit it, but I guess this is a way of starting to accept it.

    It's funny... I start off things with this endless array of no fear attitude and then that fades away with time and I'm just scared.
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    Jun 27, 2011 1:38 AM GMT
    I think about this every night. I only have 17 credit hours left, and my biggest fear of all is being stuck here in Iowa after I graduate. Hang in there, I'm sure it's normal.
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    Jun 27, 2011 1:43 AM GMT
    I guess I was lucky...I found a job only 2 weeks after I graduated. icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 27, 2011 2:13 AM GMT
    cold saidI am scared of trying to carve out a piece of the 'real' world for myself.


    I feel pretty similar, but I'm at the crossroads where I know if I don't do something about it, I'll never be something I'd be proud of. I've done everything I wanted to do but always dabbled and never was serious, lacked focus and attention, wasted the last 5 years but I am slapping myself and getting shit done now.
    The fear of something new/the unknown is always going to be there, it's how you react to it which will make it easier to deal with and the more you engage it the more you realize that it wasn't such a big deal after all.
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    Jun 27, 2011 2:20 AM GMT
    Fears of homelessness are worst than homelessness...well, temporary homelessness. As long as you're truly trying your best to make it, someone will inevitably take you in and make you his bitch for a month or so while you get back on your feet.
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    Jun 27, 2011 3:37 AM GMT
    If anything, I'm the opposite. I can't wait to finish to finish school and go through the trials of real life apart from the confines of institutionalized education. It's time for another REAL challenge...
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    Jun 27, 2011 3:39 AM GMT
    I'm afraid of dying before I see the world..
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    Jun 27, 2011 3:43 AM GMT
    This is normal... I just graduated. I miss college... a lot. haha especially cause i keep expecting summer break to start here pretty soon. I wouldn't worry too much about it though things will work out! There's tons of pros to being out of school and it's exciting the unknown....
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    Jun 27, 2011 3:52 AM GMT
    FunCollegeDude saidI'm in college and I'm fearing the real world when I graduate and am afraid of becoming homeless or whatever... is this normal to feel that way?


    Yes. I just finished freshman year and I'm scared already.
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    Jun 27, 2011 3:52 AM GMT
    I've been there, it sucked so I went back to school.

    Hopefully I'm more prepared the second time.
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    Jun 27, 2011 3:54 AM GMT
    There is a street I drive by often where "homeless" dudes in their 20s-30s hang out and panhandle with their dogs. I always am compelled to give them money and/or bags of dog food for the dog since it seems so tragic AND I always see myself there just a few months from now with my dog regardless of how swell my professional life is going at the time. The one constant is that homeless girls and dudes without dogs get absolutely nothing from me. But something about my age range + dog + hard times completely and wholly scares me into being unbelievably grateful for every single little thing I have in my life from a cold Dr. Pepper in the refrigerator to a big bag of dog food in the pantry for my dog. Coming from a background that was rags to riches to rags and then riches again, the most enduring part of your life should be the things you wake up with every morning regardless of your station in your life - your health, your smile, being fit enough to help an old person across the street or pull something down off of the top shelf for a very pregnant woman at the supermarket. Untold miracles in every small little gesture.

    I think you can do most things "right" in your life and still face hard times inexplicably and unforeseen, the model of course being John Steinbeck's East of Eden regardless of which character you most identify with. The qualities that will prevent you from being on the street versus a much less "satisfying" existence are a much thinner line than you will ever believe, but if you do it correctly, you will only come *close* to the street and not quite be forced out on it.

    Yes it is entirely normal to fear the real world - it eats some people alive, and makes others citizens of the world like Christopher Hitchens. Choose your destiny young Padawan icon_biggrin.gif

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    Jun 27, 2011 4:11 AM GMT
    QUOTEI'm in college and I'm fearing the real world when I graduate and am afraid of becoming homeless or whatever... is this normal to feel that way?


    Making ends meet is not THAT tough if it's just yourself (e.g. no dependents). If you're willing to do menial or physical labor jobs until something better comes along and don't buy stuff on credit it's really tough to be homeless. Though I guess that might depend a bit on where you live. Connecticut can be somewhat expensive in many parts.
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    Jun 27, 2011 4:14 AM GMT
    FunCollegeDude saidI'm in college and I'm fearing the real world when I graduate and am afraid of becoming homeless or whatever... is this normal to feel that way?


    Completely normal. But the fact that you care tells us that you have some drive in you.

    It feels scary and overwhelming but you really get to learn who you are and what you're made of when you head out to the "big world" out there.

    Biggest thing I think is to surround yourself with quality people you can lean on when you need it the most. Friends/family, what have you.
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    Jun 27, 2011 4:20 AM GMT
    FunCollegeDude saidI'm in college and I'm fearing the real world when I graduate and am afraid of becoming homeless or whatever... is this normal to feel that way?


    Yeah that's normal. When I graduated college I started to get a sense of "adult responsibility", if that makes any sense. This scary part is when you say something and then realize that you sound like your parents.
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    Jun 27, 2011 4:24 AM GMT
    Absolutely normal. I worked full-time through college in the business I'm still in so my experience was perhaps a bit different but I was still nervous about the adjustment. It was like dress rehearsal was over and it was showtime.

    The best overall experience in my years at Ohio State was starting something and following it through and I think that is often what hiring managers look for. I know I do.

    There will be adjustment but you will do well if you stay focused on your goals.
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    Jun 27, 2011 4:30 AM GMT
    Omg hellllll yeah. So many things are either given or done for you while in school. Especially with all these doomsday stories about the economy/etc., IDK wtf I'm going to do after I graduate!
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    Jun 27, 2011 4:32 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidFears of homelessness are worst than homelessness...well, temporary homelessness. As long as you're truly trying your best to make it, someone will inevitably take you in and make you his bitch for a month or so while you get back on your feet.

    Pretty much this. I'm state certified homeless. It's... definitely a different life.
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    Jun 27, 2011 4:33 AM GMT
    I can't say this strongly enough..... look NOW for a job in your field. Find anything (i.e. internship, fellowship, part-time job, full-time job, etc.) where you can to establish yourself in your field or college major. Seriously, don't wait until the last minute icon_neutral.gif
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    Jun 27, 2011 4:40 AM GMT
    Am I the only one who isn't worried at all? I worry about everything.....I think finding a job after college is the only thing I'm NOT worried about. If I worried about that I think I would kill myself from the compounded anxiety.
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    Jun 27, 2011 4:46 AM GMT
    fearing the real world? psht...the real world needs to fear me hahaha I'm soo ready to get out of college, I know exactly where I wanna go in life and if anything gets in the way of that I have plan B...I'm set. My goal is to become a millionaire by 35...icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 27, 2011 4:47 AM GMT
    Dear God, I'm TERRIFIED. One more year left i school, tens of thousands in debt, and job prospects not looking too great (with a crappy economy, people don't tend to need as many lawyers).

    Applying for jobs for next year right now - hopefully something turns up.

    Good luck to ya!
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    Jun 27, 2011 5:04 AM GMT
    Feel the fear, and live life anyway.

    Besides, fear starts here...
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    Jun 27, 2011 7:08 AM GMT
    FunCollegeDude saidI'm in college and I'm fearing the real world when I graduate and am afraid of becoming homeless or whatever... is this normal to feel that way?


    Yeah, the thought of post-college life crosses my mind every now and then. And I do find it daunting sometimes. I'm a music major too, going for a degree in vocal performance. Almost sounds like I wanna feed myself to the wolves. icon_lol.gif I was originally going to go for a music ed degree, but my voice instructor insisted I go into performance. She knows me better than anyone. And she believes I really do have potential to go places in that field. So I'm trusting her judgment.

    I still have two years left of college to go, so I'll just focus on finishing and getting my degree.