Let Them Down Gently

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    Jun 27, 2011 9:29 PM GMT
    I am actually a real nice person despite what others think of me as being not so nice and apparently whenever you tell someone that your not interested in them or dating of that matter they continue to be persistent. Has anyone ever experienced this are knew how to let them down with kindness rather than being rude to them about it. As for me I am brutally honest and tell someone directly if i don't want them than i don't i just wish that they could get the hint rather than being empty headed icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 27, 2011 10:04 PM GMT

    I act very very CRAZY, so they just leave me and I don't have to say nothing.
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    Jun 27, 2011 10:19 PM GMT
    Some guys think they still have a chance when you let them down easy, sometimes not always it's best to be a little mean :-S sad to say.
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    Jun 27, 2011 10:23 PM GMT
    vain_nayias saidSome guys think they still have a chance when you let them down easy, sometimes not always it's best to be a little mean :-S sad to say.
    I know right i guess being mean is a trend now icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 27, 2011 10:24 PM GMT
    I'm know that feeling... at one of my gyms I have a constant member who always asked me to go with him to a nearby bar and I have politely turn him down several times. The last time I rejected him, it did not went well.

    My friend who work the front desk (at the gym) has already told him to give up because he's not my type and that's not my scene but he doesn't get it. When you encounter guys like this be persistent until your patience runs out.

    In my case, Mr. gym crush took it one step further and started poisoning every possible guy that showed any interest for me. You don't want that to happen to you.
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    Jun 27, 2011 10:26 PM GMT
    ESCESV saidI'm know that feeling... at one of my gyms I have a constant member who always asked me to go with him to a nearby bar and I have politely turn him down several times. The last time I rejected him, it did not went well.

    My friend who work the front desk (at the gym) has already told him to give up because he's not my type and that's not my scene but he doesn't get it. When you encounter guys like this be persistent until your patience runs out.

    In my case, Mr. gym crush took it one step further and started poisoning every possible guy that showed any interest for me. You don't want that to happen to you.
    I agree
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    Jun 28, 2011 12:43 AM GMT
    I just say that I'm not really looking to date right now....
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    Jun 28, 2011 12:59 AM GMT
    I think its important to be direct and still be kind. Sometimes letting them down easy is confused as a mixed signal. Just be clear whatever you do.
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    Jun 28, 2011 1:00 AM GMT
    Edward22 saidI am actually a real nice person despite what others think of me as being not so nice and apparently whenever you tell someone that your not interested in them or dating of that matter they continue to be persistent. Has anyone ever experienced this are knew how to let them down with kindness rather than being rude to them about it. As for me I am brutally honest and tell someone directly if i don't want them than i don't i just wish that they could get the hint rather than being empty headed icon_wink.gif


    Edward, I once got involved with a guy that was sweet and handsome too. It was a thrill to have someone everyone thought so cool and good-looking giving me such strong attention. After about three rather intense weeks though I called it off as I could tell my feelings, once I got used to this, weren't going to last. We had a LOT of personal differences as well. Infatuation after all. He was very very devastated. He couldn't believe that I, me, Doug was calling it off as I was so wonderful etc.

    Know what I did?

    I persisted in seeing him every day for the next 5 weeks, and every day reasserted that it was over but here I was, to keep him company til he was over me, and I told him that. Over and over in conversations, pleasantly I spoke about how it would have been great if I had romantic feelings, but that I didn't. No sirreee Bob.

    One day he laughed and told me to go away. I grinned and said I'd be back in an hour. He said maybe in a couple of days.

    So why not tell us what your situation is? Did you date? How long? Was it just a suggestion of a date and you said no and this stranger is still in pursuit?



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    Jun 28, 2011 1:04 AM GMT
    As I had no chance or real prospectives to hang out with a guy that was interested me, I wasn't quite sure how to word it, so in the end I just told him I'm not worth it.
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    Jun 28, 2011 1:07 AM GMT
    They must be really fucking desperate.
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    Jun 28, 2011 3:31 AM GMT
    Just give it to me straight, I don't have time for your hypocricies. We're both grown men.
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    Jun 28, 2011 3:38 AM GMT
    CHIdude saidJust give it to me straight, I don't have time for your hypocricies. We're both grown men.



    i couldn't agree more - but this is very rarely done!! I would prefer to bypass all of the bullshit "omg he hasnt texted me in 2 days, does that mean he doesnt like me?!" bullshit and just know whether the feeling is mutual or not