Assume guys are together?

  • andrewVonPelt

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    Jun 27, 2011 11:28 PM GMT
    if you're at a club and see a guy you think is hot, if he's there with another gay guy do you assume they're together and would you not approach him cause of it? or take a chance anyway?
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    Jun 27, 2011 11:29 PM GMT
    I'd ask.
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    Jun 27, 2011 11:31 PM GMT
    I always waited til the morning to ask.
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    Jun 27, 2011 11:31 PM GMT
    I would show some class and assume they are in some kind of a relationship if it's just buddies. No one likes a trick stealer.
  • Tritimium

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    Jun 27, 2011 11:36 PM GMT
    I have this conflict all the time. BUT: I keep reminding myself that I usually go out with a friend - who is ONLY a friend - and we're usually not far from each other the whole night. I dunno if I'd want to go on my own! People may (and do) assume that we're together, but we're not. So it may be the same for other guys, too. I mean, how many guys go to a club on their own? Best to ask, I guess.
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    Jun 27, 2011 11:46 PM GMT
    I'd just watch em a bit to see how they interact with each other..If I still can't figure it out I'd come up and say hello and be social. Sooner or later the truth will come out and either way maybe I made some friends, some drinking buddies, or get a possible date out of it icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 27, 2011 11:49 PM GMT
    Hrm, I've taken the chance many times, there's no point in fearing the outcome, because some great things have happened from it. I would approach both and hangout with both, then during the night i would slip in and ask if they were a couple. Most of the time I got no's from them. The few times they said they were couples I ended up being really great friends with them later down the road. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 27, 2011 11:51 PM GMT
    It's not that hard to tell if they are with someone (without asking). Just watch their behavior. Sometimes when creepy people hit on me I take advantage of this and have my friend put his arm around me or something to ward the guy off icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 28, 2011 12:18 AM GMT
    deltalimen saidI always waited til the morning to ask.
    I never said "when" I'd ask. icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 28, 2011 12:22 AM GMT
    i assume theyre together and go about my way..
  • andrewVonPelt

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    Jun 28, 2011 12:24 AM GMT
    Tritimium saidI have this conflict all the time. BUT: I keep reminding myself that I usually go out with a friend - who is ONLY a friend - and we're usually not far from each other the whole night. I dunno if I'd want to go on my own! People may (and do) assume that we're together, but we're not. So it may be the same for other guys, too. I mean, how many guys go to a club on their own? Best to ask, I guess.


    lol yeah i always go with my best friend, he's gay and cute so everyone always thinks we're married. I noticed when i wander off alone and venture off to the bathroom or to the bar or something people seem to come up to me but not when i'm hanging with him
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    Jun 28, 2011 12:28 AM GMT
    i don't approach people with a purely sexual aim. i approach in a friendly manner and it usually clarifies itself. if not, and i still want to know...i ask.
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    Jun 28, 2011 12:35 AM GMT
    jwwtaker said


    lol yeah i always go with my best friend, he's gay and cute so everyone always thinks we're married. I noticed when i wander off alone and venture off to the bathroom or to the bar or something people seem to come up to me but not when i'm hanging with him



    I get in the same situation when i go out for drinks with one of my buds. we have a great time hangin out and drinking, and i guess people assume that we're together because we're engaged in the conversation and laugh a lot. weird!
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    Jun 28, 2011 12:42 AM GMT
    DavePhx1007 saidI'd just watch em a bit to see how they interact with each other..If I still can't figure it out I'd come up and say hello and be social. Sooner or later the truth will come out and either way maybe I made some friends, some drinking buddies, or get a possible date out of it icon_biggrin.gif


    As hot as you are, there's a damn good chance you'd be able to pull off a hot three-some at the very least!
  • barriehomeboy

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    Jun 28, 2011 1:46 AM GMT
    I'd ask the other guy if his hot friend was dating anyone.
  • andrewVonPelt

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    Jun 28, 2011 2:21 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidI'd ask the other guy if his hot friend was dating anyone.


    lol love it!
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    Jun 28, 2011 2:21 AM GMT
    Usually the way people interact is telling
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    Jun 28, 2011 1:57 PM GMT
    Pay careful attention to the interaction between the two guys and approach nicely. If you pay attention, it's not that difficult to figure out if the guys are lovers/boyfriends. Even then, they might be open to a 3 some (that's assuming you're into both of them).
  • LJay

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    Jun 28, 2011 2:05 PM GMT
    Nothing wrong with saying hi is there? You could always say " And is this your partner?" I'm Sam. Glad to meet you both.
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    Jun 28, 2011 8:20 PM GMT
    If I can't figure it out...I go ask the guy to dance, if he looks to his buddy for the eye of approval, you kind know the answer.
    On a couple of occasions a month or two later the same guy at the same club came up to me saying "Hi do you remember me?" wah hoo icon_biggrin.gif