I'm a vanilla prude?

  • patmos9990

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    Jun 28, 2011 1:47 PM GMT
    Twice in the past month I have been called vanilla, uptight, and prudish. I don't mind going out during the week, but usually I will only have one or two drinks and want to leave by 12:30. Sometimes, I don't want to drink but am happy to be out drinking water. I call it being responsible since I have to be at work at 8:30am. Another time, it was upsetting me that friends who are in a long relationship were making out on the dance floor with a couple strangers and starting kissing on me also. I respect friends relationships and never want to cause issues by making out with them. Am I not the norm in the way I perceive life?
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    Jun 28, 2011 1:54 PM GMT
    Uncomfortable with tipsy friends kissing people? Yep, sounds rather vanilla, uptight, and prudish to me. It also make me think you'd be extreeeeeeemly jealous if you had a bf, which will drive a guy away faster than cheating (or drive him TO cheat).
  • Timbales

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    Jun 28, 2011 1:55 PM GMT
    What they do is their business, but I can understand you not wanting to be involved.
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    Jun 28, 2011 4:27 PM GMT
    You need to hang out with better people.
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    Jun 28, 2011 4:48 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidYou need to hang out with better people.


    this. You are who you are. They need to stop expecting you to validate who they are by expecting conformity
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    Jun 28, 2011 4:55 PM GMT
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  • tautomer

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    Jun 28, 2011 6:36 PM GMT
    Nothing wrong with that at all. Sounds like the way I act mostly to be honest. If you have something you are going to need a clear head and body for the next day, then don't do anything that would cause that to fall out of alignment. Friendships are not completely impervious, so don't do anything that could in anyway put it at serious risk of faltering. Simple as that. You just have a lot of respect for yourself and others, and you follow your own rules; it's a value called propriety.
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    Jun 28, 2011 8:04 PM GMT

    If people told you you were wrong for being tactful, responsible, and cognoscente of others relationships, would you really change and become...less of those things? If the answer is no, why did you create the thread, why did you ask the question? if you just wanted an e-hug, all you had to do was ask for one.

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    Jun 28, 2011 8:17 PM GMT
    Dude, be happy with your own set of morals and dont bother letting other people who dont have morals tell you that you re being uptight... they are just like teenagers who try to exert peer pressure to get you to smoke cigarettes with them and then call you names, its totally immature of them to do that
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    Jun 28, 2011 8:19 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidUncomfortable with tipsy friends kissing people? Yep, sounds rather vanilla, uptight, and prudish to me. It also make me think you'd be extreeeeeeemly jealous if you had a bf, which will drive a guy away faster than cheating (or drive him TO cheat).


    No, he didnt say tipsy friends.. he said friends in a relationship.. its different... but I agree you cant go tell your friends whats right or wrong for tehm either.. its simply that it works both ways

    Btw, Latino's are ALWAYS jealous lol
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    Jun 28, 2011 8:42 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidYou need to hang out with better people.
    +1

    The OP is who he is, they are who they are. He should stay in his own comfort zone -- I see nothing wrong with it.

    Personally, though, I suspect a few of these friends are gonna crash 'n burn in the not-too-distant future. No need for the OP to go down in flames with them. A little hell-raising can be fun, but in moderation. Does he wanna end up in one of those "World's Dumbest" TV videos?
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    Jun 28, 2011 8:48 PM GMT
    c'mon, just have another drink....
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    Jun 28, 2011 8:51 PM GMT
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    Iron_Casanova said
    If people told you you were wrong for being tactful, responsible, and cognoscente of others relationships, would you really change and become...less of those things? If the answer is no, why did you create the thread, why did you ask the question? if you just wanted an e-hug, all you had to do was ask for one.

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  • matt13226

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    Jun 28, 2011 8:52 PM GMT
    if i were you i would get out while you still can do what you want to do if they are making out with you or trying too just tell them that ur not into that especially if they r dating someone else
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    Jun 28, 2011 9:00 PM GMT
    You're acting a lot like I would...but then again, not too many people would define me as "normal".

    I was in a similar situation a few years ago, when I went out to a club with some friends. The two friends were dating, and I was in a relationship (albeit a long-distance one) - but about halfway through the evening, one of them was trying to kiss me while his boyfriend practically egged him on. I told him no and ended up leaving them at the club. If I'm in a relationship, then there's a clear line about what violates that relationship's intimacy, and I have no inclination to do so.

    The definition of prudish varies one person to the next, but the only one that matters is yours. That is, unless your definition happens to violate the law.
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    Jun 28, 2011 9:13 PM GMT
    There's nothing wrong being a prude. Don't ever let someone intimidate you to do things or behave in a way that's not who you are. Now if you want to change the way you are, then it's worth thinking about. Otherwise I say prude away. Be a vanilla flavored prude. icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 28, 2011 9:15 PM GMT
    TWO drinks on a weekday AND staying out till 12:30 AM ??

    Wow dude, you're a party animal...

    Notice how it's all in the eye of the beholder.
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    Jun 28, 2011 9:19 PM GMT
    Iron_Casanova said
    If people told you you were wrong for being tactful, responsible, and cognoscente of others relationships, would you really change and become...less of those things? If the answer is no, why did you create the thread, why did you ask the question? if you just wanted an e-hug, all you had to do was ask for one.


    More than likely none of the above, sometimes all we need is validation or positive reinforcement. At times it's not something new we need to hear but just something we need to be reminded of, even Ms. Morgendorffer needed that from time to time icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 28, 2011 9:29 PM GMT
    Agreed, Daria is awesome

    ConfederateGhost saidI <3 Daria hardcore.

    "Sick sad world!"

    Iron_Casanova said
    If people told you you were wrong for being tactful, responsible, and cognoscente of others relationships, would you really change and become...less of those things? If the answer is no, why did you create the thread, why did you ask the question? if you just wanted an e-hug, all you had to do was ask for one.

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    Jun 28, 2011 9:35 PM GMT
    I think more people should be like you icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 28, 2011 9:48 PM GMT
    I bet I know who is happier at 0830 the next morning.
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    Jun 29, 2011 4:26 AM GMT
    Be yourself. Do what's right for you.
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    Jun 29, 2011 4:46 AM GMT

    Hatter said
    Iron_Casanova said
    If people told you you were wrong for being tactful, responsible, and cognoscente of others relationships, would you really change and become...less of those things? If the answer is no, why did you create the thread, why did you ask the question? if you just wanted an e-hug, all you had to do was ask for one.


    More than likely none of the above, sometimes all we need is validation or positive reinforcement. At times it's not something new we need to hear but just something we need to be reminded of, even Ms. Morgendorffer needed that from time to time icon_wink.gif


    Lol, so you disagree with what I said? Because you basically agree with me in your post.