Age issues

  • gooddude1583

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    Jun 28, 2011 10:07 PM GMT
    I have this hot guy in my lab and he is 19 years old. I don't think he is into men but it did make me wonder. I always had an age barrier when I was younger to consider myself being with older men. Now I'm starting to think that age barrier goes to the other way too. I mean there are young men who I do find attractive but I'm not sure that's enough for anything more than that.

    What do you think? do you have your limits when it comes to the age of a potential date/hook up/ friend?
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    Jun 28, 2011 10:21 PM GMT
    Yes and no.. it depends on the person... there is different levels of maturity for everyone.. and what we want out of a partnership
  • crls64

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    Jun 28, 2011 10:24 PM GMT
    I've never had an age barrier but now that I'm older I do seem to navigate towards guys that are in their middle 30's and up. It seems to me that I don't have that much in common with guys that are in their 20's or younger. No judgement. I'm just interested in different things.

    I will say that I have met guys who are younger and have a much higher maturity level than some guys who are older and older guys whose maturity level can be compared to a 10 yr old. lol! It's all relative! icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 28, 2011 10:25 PM GMT
    I don't really have limits when it comes to friendship. Now when we are talking about dating, I prefer to date older than myself. I have only dated guys that are in their 30s-early 50s. I have found that a lot of guys my age are not really together and just looking for a quick hookup.
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    Jun 28, 2011 10:30 PM GMT
    Yes I do, matter of fact I hesitated about dating my partner due to our age difference (10 years). Glad I decided to take a chance!

    I like talking to gay men of all ages from 18 to 70 (my Mom's helper is almost 70 and has been with his partner since 1969), but in terms of dating nothing beats interacting with someone who can relate to you in terms of station in life, life experiences, etc..
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    Jun 28, 2011 10:32 PM GMT
    I can see myself with an older guy, but I think older guys and younger guys may be looking for different things out of a relationship. As for me, I kind of want to see what's out there, where as an older guy might want to settle down. I think it's just a matter of knowing what each person is looking for.
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    Jun 28, 2011 10:41 PM GMT
    it's one of those things you can't generalize over.
    there are just too many parameters to consider.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Jun 29, 2011 12:52 AM GMT
    If you're talking about bringing home a young guy for some son/daddy action, only the laws limit his age assuming he's willing. For a relationship though, really, how can you see the world through the same eyes when you're wearing bifocals and he's wearing beergoggles?
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    Jun 29, 2011 3:35 AM GMT
    I do believe that people need to be in similar... generations.

    Im 26 now.... I wouldnt date anyone less than 23 or older and 37. I want to live with the person and be in the same general life stage. Hard to do when you are 40 and he is 55 or 60.
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    Jun 29, 2011 4:05 AM GMT
    I definitely agree that age doesn't necessarily determine maturity. I've been with a guy 10 years older than me and he was more immature than the 19 yr old I was with before. I just think it depends on the guy. As long as there's a significant connection, age doesn't matter to me.
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    Jun 29, 2011 4:07 AM GMT
    I'm 19 and hooked up with a guy 10 years my senior, so as far as I'm concerned you have three questions:

    Legal? Check. Gay? Check. Interested? Check. If all three are checked then all systems are a go, captain. Go get your pup.
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    Jun 29, 2011 4:16 AM GMT
    I won't fuck anybody under 18.
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    Jun 29, 2011 4:18 AM GMT
    Younger than me, won't consider. Older than me, the sky's the limit.
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    Jun 29, 2011 4:20 AM GMT
    for me personally, i dig guys that are in their twenties but look slightly older. i don't know what it is but those guys in their early thirties always look the hottest to me. i think that's when your body reaches its peak in muscle development and most guys are mature by then. (like i said "most")

    It's more about the look to me than actual age.
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    Jun 29, 2011 5:05 AM GMT
    I generally prefer guys closer to my own age. I look for guys 8 years, but sometimes I just click with a guy outside that range.

    If you're into this guy and he's into you, then go for it. If this guy's only after you so that you can buy him beer, get out of there.
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    Jun 29, 2011 5:20 AM GMT
    Ive read several threads on this topic
    1. Most guys dream (it's always good to dream of it the way you want it) of a LTR lasting forever but in reality, from what I've seen, and for what ever reason, most only last a few years. Very very few last in the long run. There are a few, mayyybe a fair amount.
    2. I think if you're with a guy you LOVE for 15-20 years, you won't think of the age difference.
    Just my observation.
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    Jun 29, 2011 5:52 AM GMT
    No - I didn't have any restrictions when I was 17 and I don't now. Anyway people are attracted to whoever they are attracted to and that's thier business.
    I'm one of the oldest guys on any given Gay site so I don't usually make the first move unless it's in a reasonable age range and I guess my cut-off point would be about 45.
    I do get irritated by men in my own age range who look like crap but somehow have the balls to consider only "30 or younger" .
  • mizu5

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    Jun 29, 2011 7:45 AM GMT
    Trollileo said
    Ariodante saidYounger than me, won't consider. Older than me, the sky's the limit.
    Thanks asshole. You just broke my heart.
    ;__; mine too.
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    Jun 29, 2011 5:40 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidYounger than me, won't consider. Older than me, the sky's the limit.
    But I made you bacon cornbread cupcakes for tonight. icon_sad.gif What will I do with these cupcakes?
  • nubScotty

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    Jun 29, 2011 8:42 PM GMT
    I've always been a sucker for older guys, has a lot to do with maturity for me. I've heard the "old soul" comment about myself since I was in my teens, and more often than not older guys are more mature than guys my age.

    Doesn't hurt they are usually more confident and tend to have some scruff icon_twisted.gif
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    Jun 29, 2011 9:55 PM GMT
    When it comes to dating, I sort of have an age limit (limit being 35). But sometimes, I do have exceptions though I wouldn't go for someone in his 50+ But generally, I tend to look for guys my age or in their 20s.

    For friends, I'm open to whatever. I personally feel that you're only as old as you feel. So if I met like a 45 year old guy who was still active and lively and loved to do things (that I thought were fun or enjoyable), then that's all good.

    But like someone else said, older guys are looking to settle down more then likely (I'm not saying all) so that's kind of what drives me off of older guys because I don't want to settle down yet.
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    Jun 29, 2011 10:12 PM GMT
    im the kind of person that MUST be with someone who is already very mature.. even though im really young, i always fall for guys that are at the least 26, and have even had huge crushes on guys that are almost as old as my mom icon_sad.gif which really sucks..

    the only time i ever liked someone who was around my age, it was because he was practically and adult in a teenagers body. he acted comlpetely mature in every way possible.
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    Jun 29, 2011 10:25 PM GMT
    No age restriction here. Just that the potential partner is a legal adult.

    Maturity is relative and some 19 years are very mature that said many 40 year old never matured beyond sixteen.

    The metrics here is in the persons ability to be reasonable and considerate with the decisions of a relationship and for the care in the development of the relationship with others. A little less "ME, ME, ME..." and more "US" and "YOU". Giving more of "YOU" always should get you more "ME". Does that make sense??? Anyways....