Why do a lot of older guys go for younger?

  • Neurons

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    Jun 28, 2011 11:03 PM GMT
    When I was 19, I always had older guys wanting to hook up and even date. I have nothing against older guys, age doesn't really matter to me, to be honest. I like to read people's personals, it gives me something to do. A lot of guys in their late 30's and even early 30's were always saying, "Not into older, sorry." or they won't date over their own age. Honestly, why? What so wrong with older guys? They themselves are older, is life pretty much dead when you hit 40? I'm not trying to bash them or anything, but I feel bad for them.. then I thought about it and wondered, is that what I'm going to become? So older guys who only go for the guys in their 20s, why do you shoot so low? icon_confused.gif
  • barriehomeboy

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    Jun 29, 2011 12:49 AM GMT
    Age is a number, but youth is beauty. Just because we're older doesn't mean we stop being turned on by hot young guys. It's just harder to find hot older guys like me. Smirk.
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    Jun 29, 2011 12:53 AM GMT
    Age is muucchhh more than a number...

    Its cause they are hot, tight, and trainable. Just like how old men like young women.

    I don't take guys who are much older seriously.
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    Jun 29, 2011 12:54 AM GMT
    I like them a bit older than myself, generally. I like the insight, integrity, experience and confidence an older guy possesses when he's around me. This is key for me...........and younger guys just aren't there yet....usually.
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    Jun 29, 2011 12:54 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidAge is a number, but youth is beauty. Just because we're older doesn't mean we stop being turned on by hot young guys. It's just harder to find hot older guys like me. Smirk.


    I'd bang ya.
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    Jun 29, 2011 12:56 AM GMT
    A few younger guys greatly appeal to me, but I'm attracted mostly to guys within 10 years of my age either way. Have to be fit, smart, and hot.
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    Jun 29, 2011 1:00 AM GMT
    Because MOST older guys tend to let themselves get out of shape, which is very unattractive.
    At age 26 I made the mistake of dating a fat guy 11 yrs older than me, and only because he "promised" to get in shape. 3.5 yrs later he was still getting fatter and fatter, while I was getting leaner and leaner. I told him when he turned 40 I was trading him in for two 20's. Shortly after he turned 40 (and about 50 lbs heavier than when we met) I dropped him and went out to the club...and 3-wayed with a couple hot 20-something guys. icon_cool.gif
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    Jun 29, 2011 1:03 AM GMT
    i dunno, most of my friends have always been younger.. but ppl sometimes think Im up to ten years younger anyway. so tahts prolly why my friends get to be of younger ages..

    lately though its been changing.. I now much more often make friends with older ppl, because by now Im much more focused on career goals and family goals and life goals... which yunger ppl tend not to be as much.... they, like I used to be, are much more focused on having direct fun
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    Jun 29, 2011 1:04 AM GMT
    b/c youth is attractive
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    Jun 29, 2011 1:11 AM GMT
    All things being equal, I probably gravitate toward guys a younger than me for NSA/FB sex. It's kind of a challenge/hunt kinda thing, especially when things click right and I manage to talk a hot 23yo muscle twink's legs into the air for me. I get the bonus of boinking the twink, and he gets the bonus of me probably being overcharged on hormones from success and getting a royal good fucking for the cost of a few drinks icon_razz.gif

    If and when I get around to dating seriously, I'd probably go for guys my age to a few years older (more grounded and *usually* stable in their own lives).
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    Jun 29, 2011 1:19 AM GMT
    canuckguy19 saidb/c youth is attractive


    Which is why I have a different relationship with age. When I was 18 I was ravaged by grade 3 acne, seriously underweight (BMI a little less than 17), with no money (to pay for a gym and supplements) and no friends, whereas everyone around my age was dating, with much better skin and bodies. I don't miss those times at all.. I have a constant feeling that things are improving year after year, as if I my golden years were yet to come, not somewhere in the past.

    So when I become old and ugly and with a bad body, it won't be a new feeling: it will be like becoming a teen again.
  • masculumpedes

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    Jun 29, 2011 1:21 AM GMT
    Because they have nice feet... icon_biggrin.gif
  • 8Always_Hard8

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    Jun 29, 2011 1:28 AM GMT
    Don_Fitandbi_de_Jersey saidA few younger guys greatly appeal to me, but I'm attracted mostly to guys within 10 years of my age either way. Have to be fit, smart, and hot.


    Thats not what you said last night... icon_twisted.gif

    lol jk but anyways I like older guys cause its easier for me to connect with them. Usually there is more maturity with them and body wise they are more my type. I like my older muscle guys icon_smile.gif

    hehe
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jun 29, 2011 1:34 AM GMT
    TheKrisPandemic saidWhen I was 19, I always had older guys wanting to hook up and even date. I have nothing against older guys, age doesn't really matter to me, to be honest. I like to read people's personals, it gives me something to do. A lot of guys in their late 30's and even early 30's were always saying, "Not into older, sorry." or they won't date over their own age. Honestly, why? What so wrong with older guys? They themselves are older, is life pretty much dead when you hit 40? I'm not trying to bash them or anything, but I feel bad for them.. then I thought about it and wondered, is that what I'm going to become? So older guys who only go for the guys in their 20s, why do you shoot so low? icon_confused.gif
    dude, i wish i knew the answer to that. i mean i see so many older guys who are only interested in guys 19 to 28 years old. i think a guy in his 40's dating someone in there 20s has issues. oh and to the guy berriehomeboy dude, i do not know where you live but i live in DC. I see tons of hot guys in there 30, 40s, and 50's that are amazing looking. Hell most of them look better and have better body's than the 20 year olds. Anyhow, I like guys closer to my age but I can definitely say I have met tons of guys my age and older that were definitely worth dating. Once I see someone who is in there 20s I run the other way.
  • charmr

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    Jun 29, 2011 1:36 AM GMT
    TheKrisPandemic saidWhen I was 19, I always had older guys wanting to hook up and even date. I have nothing against older guys, age doesn't really matter to me, to be honest. I like to read people's personals, it gives me something to do. A lot of guys in their late 30's and even early 30's were always saying, "Not into older, sorry." or they won't date over their own age. Honestly, why? What so wrong with older guys? They themselves are older, is life pretty much dead when you hit 40? I'm not trying to bash them or anything, but I feel bad for them.. then I thought about it and wondered, is that what I'm going to become? So older guys who only go for the guys in their 20s, why do you shoot so low? icon_confused.gif


    "WAY BACK ''When I was 19' "? LOL. So, how old are you now? 30? 40? 50? Your profile says you're [i][b[/i]]20[/b].

    Do I like younger guys? OF COURSE. . . THAT'S ALL THERE [b]IS[/b]. I don't know anyone as old as me out there that's "available" So yeah I do. LOL. Actually I like all ages, and lots of guyd prefer a much much older guy. In the past year I've been with guys from 19 to 72 ... not that I've been with all that many, but that's the range. And no, DON'T take me seriously. I'm way too old for anyone to seriously consider an LTR with me. It could turn out to be an STR. As the late great George Burns said when asked if he's glad to be here, "At my age I'm glad to be anywhere!"
  • crls64

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    Jun 29, 2011 1:41 AM GMT
    I do not go for older guys or younger guys. It all has to do with the maturity level of the individual. They must be fit intellectually and physically! Someone who takes care of their mind, heart and body!

    I have met many a young guy with the maturity of an older person and met many older guys who have been very immature! I always try to keep an open mind and heart! icon_wink.gif
  • Neurons

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    Jun 29, 2011 1:51 AM GMT
    charmr said
    TheKrisPandemic saidWhen I was 19, I always had older guys wanting to hook up and even date. I have nothing against older guys, age doesn't really matter to me, to be honest. I like to read people's personals, it gives me something to do. A lot of guys in their late 30's and even early 30's were always saying, "Not into older, sorry." or they won't date over their own age. Honestly, why? What so wrong with older guys? They themselves are older, is life pretty much dead when you hit 40? I'm not trying to bash them or anything, but I feel bad for them.. then I thought about it and wondered, is that what I'm going to become? So older guys who only go for the guys in their 20s, why do you shoot so low? icon_confused.gif


    "WAY BACK ''When I was 19' "? LOL. So, how old are you now? 30? 40? 50? Your profile says you're [i][b[/i]]20[/b].

    Do I like younger guys? OF COURSE. . . THAT'S ALL THERE [b]IS[/b]. I don't know anyone as old as me out there that's "available" So yeah I do. LOL. Actually I like all ages, and lots of guyd prefer a much much older guy. In the past year I've been with guys from 19 to 72 ... not that I've been with all that many, but that's the range. And no, DON'T take me seriously. I'm way too old for anyone to seriously consider an LTR with me. It could turn out to be an STR. As the late great George Burns said when asked if he's glad to be here, "At my age I'm glad to be anywhere!"


    I'm 21 this year. Who ever said anything about "way back?" I just said, "When I was 19", because that's when I did my experimenting.
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    Jun 29, 2011 2:08 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidAs to the older/younger thing: isn't it just a straight-foward "if you're a bottom you like older; if you're a top you like younger" rule?


    I topped plenty of guys 15-20 years older than me when I first started fucking guys in my 20s... so, not necessarily a hard and fast rule. ;)
  • austex85

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    Jun 29, 2011 2:11 AM GMT
    i'm into guys slightly older (like up to 10 years); not against guys younger either, but i try to keep it 22+

    then again, this is all about sex and not about dates (cause i've never really dated before). but if i were to date a guy, i think i'd probably keep this same age range, with a target of 3-5 years older.
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    Jun 29, 2011 2:20 AM GMT
    bachian said
    canuckguy19 saidb/c youth is attractive


    l.. I have a constant feeling that things are improving year after year, as if I my golden years were yet to come, not somewhere in the past.



    That, sir, I have found to be a fantastic way to view life.

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    Jun 29, 2011 5:36 AM GMT

    Because twenty year-olds have assholes like tiny rubber bands, dicks like stalagmites, and a sense of wonder/naivety that older men eat up with a spoon. The older men want to be the captain of a virgin (like) vessel, sail the seven seas, going on adventures and swashbuckling their way to the lost treasure (the booty, arrgghhh).

    The "booty" really being their "need" they can't get from a man their age or a partner. They may want to recapture their youth, want to "feel" young again, want to be desired by a young man to validate their sex appeal...you know, feel like they "still got it," maybe they want to have bragging rights around their friends because some definitely do it for "image," of course others view young men as good companions, and let's not forget that some young men seek out older.

    These young guys admire the older man's experience, his worldliness, his masculinity, and/or his swagger/ je ne sais quoi. In addition, older guys tend to be gentlemen and younger are on their best behavior too with an older. I think it helps the planet; its the closest thing to acceptance, mentor-ship, and unconditional "like" going in our community right now.

    Plus, FYI, FM2Y, nobody makes love to your mind like an older. The dirty talk alone, my god, you've never been talked to like this and that is just what he says. It starts at dinner, before he even touches you, and the whole time he's studying you, becoming cognoscente of your body language, which he'll exploit against you later. Once he touches you, it's like putting on your favorite sweater because it's like he knows you. He's been thinking about this and where he'd touch you for some time now, but you didn't know it. He could talk or not because he makes your body do things.

    At the risk of ruining my pajama bottoms, I'll stop that, but older men are good lovers, pride themselves on it. They enjoy cracking a man's code and putting the puzzle of ecstasy together. They like introducing their partner to things they've experienced before, but will experience new with their partner.

    The problem with other older guys is that they are hip to all of the older man's tricks. They've sailed the same sea and already had their own adventures. When he tries to read them at dinner, they thwart him; when he tries to touch them in places they've never been touched, they've already been touched there, and the whole time he is trying to exert his je ne sais quoi on them, they are trying to exert theirs on him. It becomes akin to two Jedi knights attempting to move each other.

    Now, it can work, especially if an older guy appreciates dinner and dancing with an equal and enjoys the added challenge of making sex as ordinary extra ordinary, but I can't blame the nautically minded.




  • masculumpedes

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    Jun 29, 2011 5:55 AM GMT
    Trollileo said
    malefeet saidBecause they have nice feet... icon_biggrin.gif
    I don't know what you're talking about. Mine look like hobbit feet with cankles, because I haven't been able to go running since I sprained my ankle.


    I'm talking about BEFORE you sprained your ankle...icon_wink.gif
  • masculumpedes

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    Jun 29, 2011 6:00 AM GMT
    Trollileo said
    malefeet said
    Trollileo said
    malefeet saidBecause they have nice feet... icon_biggrin.gif
    I don't know what you're talking about. Mine look like hobbit feet with cankles, because I haven't been able to go running since I sprained my ankle.


    I'm talking about BEFORE you sprained your ankle...icon_wink.gif
    Don't worry. I'll get back in shape within a month or two when I'm capable of getting off the damn couch... It better not take that long...


    That's fine...it's too hot for you to come to Vegas right now anyway...icon_cool.gif
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    Jun 29, 2011 6:22 AM GMT
    I would much rather date someone that is close to my age. It is difficult at times to find a man in his 40's and 50's that have taken care of themselves. For me the guy needs to be handsome and in somewhat good shape. I know I am lacking in that department, but working on it. I would have to answer your question with a question of my own. "Why do young guys hit up on older guys?" I have had more guys in their 20's hit me up more than any other age group. I don't look for it, but it happens a lot. And some want to actually date. There is just too much difference in where were are in our lives for it to work. But that is just my opinion.
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    Jun 29, 2011 6:32 AM GMT
    tuffguyndc said
    TheKrisPandemic saidWhen I was 19, I always had older guys wanting to hook up and even date. I have nothing against older guys, age doesn't really matter to me, to be honest. I like to read people's personals, it gives me something to do. A lot of guys in their late 30's and even early 30's were always saying, "Not into older, sorry." or they won't date over their own age. Honestly, why? What so wrong with older guys? They themselves are older, is life pretty much dead when you hit 40? I'm not trying to bash them or anything, but I feel bad for them.. then I thought about it and wondered, is that what I'm going to become? So older guys who only go for the guys in their 20s, why do you shoot so low? icon_confused.gif
    dude, i wish i knew the answer to that. i mean i see so many older guys who are only interested in guys 19 to 28 years old. i think a guy in his 40's dating someone in there 20s has issues. oh and to the guy berriehomeboy dude, i do not know where you live but i live in DC. I see tons of hot guys in there 30, 40s, and 50's that are amazing looking. Hell most of them look better and have better body's than the 20 year olds. Anyhow, I like guys closer to my age but I can definitely say I have met tons of guys my age and older that were definitely worth dating. Once I see someone who is in there 20s I run the other way.


    Dam tuffguyndc, if you weren't so young, I'd be all over you.