New York gays have the right to marry. So.......... New York men? Now that you can......will you?

  • silverfox

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    Jun 29, 2011 3:35 AM GMT
    It is one thing to have the right to marry......but do you think you are going to tie the knot?

    Sure I would like to hear from New Yorkers...but it is kind of a universal question.


    Do you see yourself in your lifetime marrying a man?


    I am in Florida....and I will probably be here my whole life. It is hard to imagine having the right down here....but then again..... who knows?

    I just don't know....when it comes right down to it if I can make that commitment to another person. I would like to know that I would have the opportunity...but I don't think I would. Could be that I just haven't met "Mr. Rightstein" icon_smile.gif


    And single New Yorkers who are the kind of guys "to bring home to Mom" don't be bashful......step right up and state your intentions....after all your future husband may be reading this thread. icon_smile.gif


    So what are your thoughts on marriage? You think you could walk down the aisle? Would it be for love? Or for more practical reasons.... ?
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    Jun 29, 2011 2:03 PM GMT
    I attend all the marriage equality rallies here in Sydney in the hope that one day I'll have that choice... who knows if I'll have the opportunity to take it up, but the fact is this fight is for me, more about equality than it is an expectation that i will, one day marry.
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    Jun 29, 2011 2:05 PM GMT
    If I met the right person I would do it. But to date, my registry at Neiman Marcus is still not submitted icon_sad.gif
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    Jun 29, 2011 2:07 PM GMT
    We can have a civil partnership in the UK with the same legal benefits as marriage, it's just not called 'marriage'.

    I know my bf wants to but I am really not fussed about it, though I definitely support the right to do it! It would be good if in the UK it was all just called marriage without referring to it as civil partnership...it's still a little like being second class citizens in my eyes.
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    Jun 29, 2011 2:33 PM GMT
    not even going to consider marriage until i am 40
  • Timbales

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    Jun 29, 2011 2:35 PM GMT
    I'm 41 and have been with someone since 1992. Now that marriage is an option, I kind of feel obligated to exercise my right, especially since it could get taken away in the near future.
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    Jun 29, 2011 2:49 PM GMT
    Pure saidWe can have a civil partnership in the UK with the same legal benefits as marriage, it's just not called 'marriage'.

    I know my bf wants to but I am really not fussed about it, though I definitely support the right to do it! It would be good if in the UK it was all just called marriage without referring to it as civil partnership...it's still a little like being second class citizens in my eyes.


    Civil Partnership also in Ireland. This is better then nothing and covers all of the legal matters as to property rights, Income tax etc. Haven't read much on it but feel the right to adopt a child would not be in your favour. So I guess the lobying will continue for Civil Partnership to have the same rights as marriage. I shouldn't think it matters what the union is called as long as it is all equal in the end. I feel as time goes by the word marriage will become outdated if the union has full and equal rights.

    Would I get married given the opportunity. Yes but not on a whim.
  • baldone

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    Jun 29, 2011 2:55 PM GMT
    yeah, if the right guy came along, would marry, def. would marry
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    Jun 29, 2011 2:57 PM GMT
    I don't believe you can put a number on marriage. When it feels right its the right time. I believe both guys need to feel they are on the same page and go for it. In relationships progressing to marriage, it isn't dicated by straight or gay. Its a committment two people give towards one another! icon_biggrin.gif
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Jun 29, 2011 2:57 PM GMT
    If I'm not mistaken, the passing of Gay Marriage in New York makes it possible for gays across the country to go there and get married --- doesn't it? I don't think you have to be a resident of New York to get married there.


    As for if I would ever get married myself? Hell No. I just don't think it would be something that I would think is necessary for me, but who knows -- never say never.
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    Jun 29, 2011 2:58 PM GMT
    If I had a partner that felt I could spend the rest of my life with, I'd certainly propose.
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    Jun 29, 2011 2:58 PM GMT
    I'd like to get married - but not in New York. If the state wasn't as totalitarian as it seems to be most of the time, maybe then I'd want to live here with my husband.
    Regardless, I'm overjoyed about the recent legalization of marriage for gay and lesbian citizens of New York. It's the largest and most political of the states that have passed this legislation yet, and I'm sure it will act as a segue to legalization in many other states and deteriorate the somewhat taboo reputation of marriage for gay citizens that some may perceive it to have.

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  • JerseyBlues

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    Jun 29, 2011 3:07 PM GMT
    I'm a native New Yorker and should I find the right guy to bring home to mom and dad, absolutely Yes, I will get married. I didn't spend countless hours and years volunteering with the HRC (and marching on Washington), to NOT exercise my right to get married. Go New York!!
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    Jun 29, 2011 3:23 PM GMT
    My partner and I started dating in 2002. We moved in together in 2005. We live in New York. We never discussed marriage much in the past, but we talked about it now that it's an option. At this point in our relationship, I don't think we'll have a wedding. But we will probably tie the knot next year, when I come back from my walk across the country.
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    Jun 29, 2011 3:27 PM GMT
    No
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    Jun 29, 2011 3:29 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidIf I'm not mistaken, the passing of Gay Marriage in New York makes it possible for gays across the country to go there and get married --- doesn't it? I don't think you have to be a resident of New York to get married there.


    As for if I would ever get married myself? Hell No. I just don't think it would be something that I would think is necessary for me, but who knows -- never say never.


    This is true with Massachusetts and I think all the other bills. Most states do not recognize such marriages, however.
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    Jun 29, 2011 3:36 PM GMT
    Considering the amount of money I've spent on other peoples weddings in the last few years, yes I will definitely exercise my new right...just one problem: I'm single, anyone want to change that? icon_wink.gif

    PS--NY does not have a residency requirement to get married, so couples from other states can come here and get married.
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    Jun 29, 2011 5:15 PM GMT
    this is a question that can probably be answered by looking at what has happened in other places where it has become legal....mostly, people don't feel the pressure straight people do...so it's more thought out and less common.....

    within the right relationship, i'd seek whatever protections were available.

    what i wouldn't do is bother with a large wedding....less than 10 people.


    like anyone else, the market is the problem. but i'm fixing that. i've been tied to one location. now i'm not so much. i'm open to lots of options. life is short. i'm sick to death of the local men who whine about wanting a boyfriend, but won't go on actual dates when asked, yet can find time for hookups.....
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    Jun 29, 2011 5:18 PM GMT
    I've been in a LTR for 8 years. We've been talking about getting married forever. But after they passed marriage equality I suddenly thought, "Shit, let's not rush things.... " icon_redface.gif
  • superman102

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    Jun 29, 2011 5:23 PM GMT
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    I am glad that they finally passed the law.
    We are human beings have the right to be happy just like anyone else.
    If someone wanted to get married whose business is it but that individual
    I have found someone that I would love to spend the rest of my life with, and the fact that heproposed is like a dream comr true....so yes I willicon_biggrin.gif