Do the Kreep!!!

  • swimmer8671

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    Jun 29, 2011 6:56 PM GMT
    So this forum topic arose after a conversation with a guy who is over 3 times my age trying to hit on me and to get me give him my email so he could send me some pictures.

    I said no, and asked him if he thought i might be a little too young for him.

    He said no young people have a lot to offer,

    Which i responded to with yes yes sex, and he goes yes that and also friendship....

    Ok wanted to ask how much of a kreeper this sounds like when a guy who is 3 times your age hits on you and assumes that it is completely normal for them to message and try to send dirty pictures or to be friends. I mean its like the kreepy older guy at the club who is still hitting on the super young guys, it is not acceptable any longer at this point in my opinion.....

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  • Timbales

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    Jun 29, 2011 6:58 PM GMT
    I think the mistake you made was engaging in conversation. Just a "no thanks" and walking away would have been better.
  • tautomer

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    Jun 29, 2011 7:06 PM GMT
    Timbales saidI think the mistake you made was engaging in conversation. Just a "no thanks" and walking away would have been better.


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    Jun 29, 2011 7:09 PM GMT
    swimmer8671 saidSo this forum topic arose after a conversation with a guy who is over 3 times my age trying to hit on me and to get me give him my email so he could send me some pictures.

    I said no, and asked him if he thought i might be a little too young for him.

    He said no young people have a lot to offer,

    Which i responded to with yes yes sex, and he goes yes that and also friendship....

    Ok wanted to ask how much of a kreeper this sounds like when a guy who is 3 times your age hits on you and assumes that it is completely normal for them to message and try to send dirty pictures or to be friends. I mean its like the kreepy older guy at the club who is still hitting on the super young guys, it is not acceptable any longer at this point in my opinion.....

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    Ignore and block the Exhibit D.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 29, 2011 7:12 PM GMT
    Sometimes being nice isn't the best plan. I agree with the other guys. If you don't want pics and it's clear the guy isn't after friendship.. I'd tell him and hit block. I'd be a little creeped out too.
  • Cdnontherun

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    Jun 29, 2011 9:56 PM GMT
    Normally, I just let these types of interventions go by and chalk them up to immaturity, but this time I think I'll answer. These types of posts make me think of the adage "it is only sexual harassment if he isn't good looking". I'm not sure why you are so offended. In my opinion, this should be handled the same way you would handle any advance by any person who didn't interest you. A polite but firm "no thank you". I agree with the person who said, "don't engage conversation". These labels of "creep", "troll", etc. when speaking of older people are offensive and need to be done away with. As much as you may find this hard to believe, you're going to be in this man's place much sooner than you think.
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    Jun 29, 2011 10:53 PM GMT
    Timbales saidI think the mistake you made was engaging in conversation. Just a "no thanks" and walking away would have been better.


    Agree here!

    ...but there is no hard set in stone golden rule separating dating by a age standard. There are plenty of loving couples out there with age disparities. Both in the straight and gay communities. Don't let your youth make you sound ignorant & immature. As a gay person you will confront many ignorant people in your life span. Don't contribute arogant ignorance to a group you belong to.

    Next time just be polite and say "No Thanks" or "Don't Engage", move on.

    Maybe you want to petition the congress for an official "(Homo) Hurling Day (euthanize day)"

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    Jun 30, 2011 12:48 AM GMT
    Guys half my age and more hit on me more than any other age group. So why make the world a little colder by being rude to them. Share your life and love to whom ever you can while you have a breath of life in you.
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    Jun 30, 2011 1:12 AM GMT
    Well when I was your age there was no such thing as the WWW, no personal computers. So they went out of their way to touch and force themselves on you. I was to learn to say from a cop I dated. You touch me one more bloody time, and I will break every bloody bone in your hand; it worked were a simple no did not.

    It was not appropriate then, as it is not now.
  • matt13226

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    Jun 30, 2011 1:14 AM GMT
    trust me i know how you feel i get late 40s to 70yos hitting on me all the time on websites and stuff and it pretty creepy if i were you just walk away say no thanks like the other guys said
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    Well, its because you're so awesome, as your headline states.
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    Jun 30, 2011 1:36 AM GMT
    Young people seem to really like calling older gay men "creeps" on these forums. I'm starting to wonder if its gay lingo for the over-40-male I may not be familiar with.
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    Jun 30, 2011 1:40 AM GMT
    Cdnontherun said As much as you may find this hard to believe, you're going to be in this man's place much sooner than you think.

    You'll get to that place only if you cultivate a habit of aggressively pursuing people when they're clearly not interested.


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    Jun 30, 2011 1:44 AM GMT
    It's okay. We've all been there. My experience was with a 35-year-old guy who kept grabbing my ass at a bar in Mankato.

    I learned the hard way that you say no and move on. It takes balls, especially when you're trying to be nice, but don't be a doormat.
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    Jun 30, 2011 1:48 AM GMT
    Oy, to be young and naive again!
  • LJay

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    Jun 30, 2011 1:53 AM GMT
    Are all pictures salacious? Was it completely clear that is what he wanted to send you?

    You did tell him no. You could also have told him that you do not share your email address with people you have just met.

    Too pushy is too pushy, but I would not have automatically assumed that the fellow was a lecher. Maybe he did just want a friend.

    On the other hand, if he were of an age he should have known he was freaking you out and backed off.

    The lesson here is that whether someone behaves like a gentleman or not, you should. It takes a lot of effort and tact at times but mastering the behavior will do you well as you get older yourself.

    And perhaps you will also be able to evaluate with critical fairness the name callers and smart alecks who advocate rudeness instead of maturity at any age.
  • BttmStud4Stud

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    Jun 30, 2011 1:57 AM GMT
    I've been approached by my share of older guys. Some of them have been interesting and attractive, some not so much, and in most cases a thanks but no thanks has been enough. The problem arises when the guy (of any age 18-103) is so convinced of his desirability that he can't imagine why you would say no. So of course no just means try a little harder in their world. I may be wrong here but I think its at that point that the guy crosses the line into creeperdom regardless of age or appearance.
    So I guess my point if I have one is, don't assume he's a creeper cuz he's old and don't assume he's not a creeper cuz he's young. It's all about the reality not the preconception
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    Jun 30, 2011 2:01 AM GMT
    Am I the only guy who hasn't had a way older guy hit on me?

    I guess I'm lucky.
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    Jun 30, 2011 2:04 AM GMT
    Chainers saidAm I the only guy who hasn't had a way older guy hit on me?

    I guess I'm lucky.


    I've never had anyone hit on me.
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    Jun 30, 2011 2:09 AM GMT
    Creepy happens at any age.icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 30, 2011 2:12 AM GMT
    kreep -> creep

    Moving on.
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    Jun 30, 2011 2:15 AM GMT
    What exactly are you asking here? If you were right to feel uncomfortable? Only you can answer that, and it doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks. I realize you are young, but yer not a little boy either. Legally speaking, yer a grown man. And in the grown man world, there is all kinds of attention. Some unwanted. Very unwanted. You are definitely old enough to know how to handle it. You have another 60or 70 years of it ahead - it never really stops.

    If you felt uncomfortable - just say it's not your thing and thanks and have a good night. It doesn't matter how old anyone is if one of you ain't into it - you ain't into it. NEXT!

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    Jun 30, 2011 2:18 AM GMT
    BttmStud4Stud saidI've been approached by my share of older guys. Some of them have been interesting and attractive, some not so much, and in most cases a thanks but no thanks has been enough. The problem arises when the guy (of any age 18-103) is so convinced of his desirability that he can't imagine why you would say no. So of course no just means try a little harder in their world. I may be wrong here but I think its at that point that the guy crosses the line into creeperdom regardless of age or appearance.
    So I guess my point if I have one is, don't assume he's a creeper cuz he's old and don't assume he's not a creeper cuz he's young. It's all about the reality not the preconception


    Agreed...you can be a creeper without regard to age. I've run into creepers at 20-40-60 and beyond. An insistant, pushy, lurky, overbearing 20 year old can be just as annoying as anyone else who does the same thing regardless of their age. Trolls are self made and not a product of one's age..in my opinion anyway.

    If you are not comfortable with someone who is approaching you..ignore them. If they persist..block em.
    If someone you are approaching is not responding to you...leave them alone, move on and get a clue.
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    Jun 30, 2011 2:26 AM GMT
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    BttmStud4Stud saidI've been approached by my share of older guys. Some of them have been interesting and attractive, some not so much, and in most cases a thanks but no thanks has been enough. The problem arises when the guy (of any age 18-103) is so convinced of his desirability that he can't imagine why you would say no. So of course no just means try a little harder in their world. I may be wrong here but I think its at that point that the guy crosses the line into creeperdom regardless of age or appearance.
    So I guess my point if I have one is, don't assume he's a creeper cuz he's old and don't assume he's not a creeper cuz he's young. It's all about the reality not the preconception


    Agreed...you can be a creeper without regard to age. I've run into creepers at 20-40-60 and beyond. An insistant, pushy, lurky, overbearing 20 year old can be just as annoying as anyone else who does the same thing regardless of their age. Trolls are self made and not a product of one's age..in my opinion anyway.

    If you are not comfortable with someone who is approaching you..ignore them. If they persist..block em.
    If someone you are approaching is not responding to you...leave them alone, move on and get a clue.


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  • swimmer8671

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    Jun 30, 2011 2:29 AM GMT
    I wasn't posting this out of ignorance or out immaturity, I was mostly just at the point to where i'm sick of these older guys not realizing that it IS inappropriate to be hitting on someone so much younger then you, and i'm speaking in a manner that is regardless of how attractive they are.

    If you are far older then someone being friends is most commonly not an option. I was mostly posting this question regarding the situation as well as how other guys have dealt and how they feel about way older men hitting on younger guys and whether or not they believe it is inappropriate for them to pursue such young men.

    I do not by any means label anyone who is older as a kreep, specially if they are genuinely nice and do not say disgustingly vulgar things to me haha. I mean i understand a guy sending a message with a compliment or saying nice pics and i will respond and say thanks, but there is definitely a line that shouldn't be crossed. icon_neutral.gif