I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 14. We are happy together.

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    Jul 01, 2011 4:38 AM GMT
    I live in Spain, where the age of consent is 13. So it's perfectly legal. icon_biggrin.gif

    He's the only guy whose made me happy so far. I've dated many older guys since I was 16, but my 14yo boyfriend is more of a man than most of them were. Nobody here has any problem with us as a couple. I've met his school teachers, parents, and everything. Everyone's ok with us here in Spain. I'm just wondering how do those in other countries feel about an older guy dating a younger guy? Do you feel I'm too old to be dating a 14yo? or are you perfectly fine with this as am I? If the age of consent was 13 in your own country, do you think you would feel differently? or do you still hold bias?
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    Jul 01, 2011 5:13 AM GMT
    spain19 saidI live in Spain, where the age of consent is 13. So it's perfectly legal. icon_biggrin.gif

    He's the only guy whose made me happy so far. I've dated many older guys since I was 16, but my 14yo boyfriend is more of a man than most of them were. Nobody here has any problem with us as a couple. I've met his school teachers, parents, and everything. Everyone's ok with us here in Spain. I'm just wondering how do those in other countries feel about an older guy dating a younger guy? Do you feel I'm too old to be dating a 14yo? or are you perfectly fine with this as am I? If the age of consent was 13 in your own country, do you think you would feel differently? or do you still hold bias?


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    Jul 01, 2011 5:17 AM GMT

    The only reason people care about age here is because of the legalities. But, yeah, I might hold bias. Dude, a year ago, he was 12.

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    Jul 01, 2011 5:19 AM GMT
    I don't care whether it's legal to be a paedo Spain or not. You're a kiddy-fiddling nonce and you should be ashamed of yourself.
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    Jul 01, 2011 5:23 AM GMT
    Iron_Casanova said
    The only reason people care about age here is because of the legalities. But, yeah, I might hold bias. Dude, a year ago, he was 12.

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    Jul 01, 2011 5:48 AM GMT
    ill have to admit- i think its kind of weird. but if the two of you are genuinely happy and his closest friends/family are ok with it maybe its just me. i personally dont think i could date anyone younger than me than about a year- max two years. just because its really different being in high school and then university stages of life. things completely change after high school ends.
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    Jul 01, 2011 4:06 PM GMT
    squash4dave said
    Do you know how to spell P-E-D-O-P-H-I-L-I-A boys and girls? OOOH!


    E-P-H-E-B-O-P-H-I-L-I-A.

    Whether you find it creepy or not, there's a HUGE difference between a little boy and a teenager midway through puberty. Especially given the OP just got out of that age range himself.
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    Jul 01, 2011 5:06 PM GMT
    spain19 saidI live in Spain, where the age of consent is 13. So it's perfectly legal. icon_biggrin.gif

    He's the only guy whose made me happy so far. I've dated many older guys since I was 16, but my 14yo boyfriend is more of a man than most of them were. Nobody here has any problem with us as a couple. I've met his school teachers, parents, and everything. Everyone's ok with us here in Spain. I'm just wondering how do those in other countries feel about an older guy dating a younger guy? Do you feel I'm too old to be dating a 14yo? or are you perfectly fine with this as am I? If the age of consent was 13 in your own country, do you think you would feel differently? or do you still hold bias?


    14 is not a man.
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    Jul 01, 2011 5:47 PM GMT
    thecanadianone saidill have to admit- i think its kind of weird. but if the two of you are genuinely happy and his closest friends/family are ok with it maybe its just me. i personally dont think i could date anyone younger than me than about a year- max two years. just because its really different being in high school and then university stages of life. things completely change after high school ends.



    I would have to agree with this, you really develop untill your a little older. With being only 14 he will go though so many changes in the years to come. With that being said I would not date some one in that age range. I have kids and when they turn 14 I would not want them dating a 20 year old man.
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    Jul 04, 2011 7:57 AM GMT
    fuck no.

    My age cut off is 21

    I was a teenager not too long ago and remember vibrantly what their issues are. I refuse to date one lol.


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    Jul 04, 2011 8:23 AM GMT
    spain19 saidI live in Spain, where the age of consent is 13. So it's perfectly legal. icon_biggrin.gif

    He's the only guy whose made me happy so far. I've dated many older guys since I was 16, but my 14yo boyfriend is more of a man than most of them were. Nobody here has any problem with us as a couple. I've met his school teachers, parents, and everything. Everyone's ok with us here in Spain. I'm just wondering how do those in other countries feel about an older guy dating a younger guy? Do you feel I'm too old to be dating a 14yo? or are you perfectly fine with this as am I? If the age of consent was 13 in your own country, do you think you would feel differently? or do you still hold bias?


    Better keep it in Spain. Do that in the United States and you'll go to prison...where inmates don't look too kindly upon child molesters.
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    Jul 04, 2011 3:49 PM GMT
    If you're happy, fine, but it's not my thing. I feel that it's such a big age gap for someone who's still in his teens. I mean, when you're 30-something dating a late 30-something or early 40-something, the age gap doesn't really matter to me. But as long as it's legal and both of you are genuinely happy, then good for you.
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    Jul 04, 2011 6:11 PM GMT
    What I'd like to know is: what studies were done to allow Spain to have such a low age of consent? Before they decided to set the age of consent at 13, did they do any psychological studies to see if that age is ok to be with someone much older than themselves? I can see a 13yo being with another 13yo or 14yo... but 20??? You are such a different person than he is. What were you like when you were 13? I know I was a different person by the time I turned 20.

    Or maybe I have this all wrong. Maybe the 13yo age of consent only applies to people who are under 18 to fool around with 13yos. Maybe if you're over 18, 13yos are off limits. I don't know.

    Furthermore, who has the ability to set age of consent limits and what type of scientific and psychological studies are done to make sure they are not setting the age too low? When I was 13, I would never have dreamed of being with someone over 15.
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    Jul 05, 2011 1:37 AM GMT
    I think of myself as open minded but ew that's gross. That boy is not even fully developed yet! Even if he is advanced physically for his age, it's hard to believe he has the mental capacity to deal with a 20 year old.
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    Jul 05, 2011 1:39 AM GMT
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    Jul 15, 2011 2:28 PM GMT
    So your saying that your happy together now, assuming that when you first got together that little kid was a virgin and you are the only person he's ever been with.

    What's going to happen when he realizes that he has moved into adult territory? Whats going to happen when one day he starts acting his age? How are you going to deal with the realization that he probably acts like what you find attractive because he acts like YOU. Because thats what little kids do. They see something they like and they portray that. When he goes through puberty and starts to have different feelings, how are you going to deal with knowing that he has a full life ahead of him and you are simply keeping him from the childhood that is or may have already passed him by?

    Part of being a 14 year old is knowing that you will be able to grow into yourself as an adult. Why would we assume that someone so young has already discovered who they are when i know plenty of actual adults that have yet to do the same.
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    Jul 15, 2011 6:08 PM GMT
    spain19 saidI live in Spain, where the age of consent is 13. So it's perfectly legal. icon_biggrin.gif

    He's the only guy whose made me happy so far. I've dated many older guys since I was 16, but my 14yo boyfriend is more of a man than most of them were. Nobody here has any problem with us as a couple. I've met his school teachers, parents, and everything. Everyone's ok with us here in Spain. I'm just wondering how do those in other countries feel about an older guy dating a younger guy? Do you feel I'm too old to be dating a 14yo? or are you perfectly fine with this as am I? If the age of consent was 13 in your own country, do you think you would feel differently? or do you still hold bias?


    Gross.

    Excuse me while I just puke up the delicious dinner I just ate.

    Thanks, jerk.
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    Jul 15, 2011 6:21 PM GMT
    Childhood is for children. Adults have no business intruding there, except to facilitate their innocent happiness, and as their ethical guardians, protectors, teachers & role models. And I don't care what age Spain considers legal, 13 is wrong. And so is 14.

    Children become adults soon enough. All things in good time. But let them enjoy that special time, in the special ways that only children can do -- it only comes once, it will never happen to them again. Hands off!
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    Jul 15, 2011 6:32 PM GMT
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    Really??? That is bad, I personally do not think that's ok regardless of the law. Like, 14?? Seriously???
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    Aug 22, 2011 12:29 AM GMT
    well its kind of hard to give you my true opinion because we all have been brain wash here in America. we have all been taught what is right and wrong based on the media. I want to say that its ok as long as your not manipulating him. At that age i feel you truly dont know what u want out of life
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    Aug 22, 2011 1:28 AM GMT
    It's not my thing, sexually. I have always been attracted to my age or a little older.

    But, the worst thing about being gay was puberty. Middle school and high school would have been fantastic if I could have had sex with guys during that period of my life. It's not fair that the majority of us had to wait so long to do that, and hear about our hetero/closeted classmates enjoying their new found sexuality. So, as much as I think it's sort of wrong, put yourself in the shoes of the 13 year old. How many gay guys can say that they wouldn't have loved to have had a boyfriend at 13? I would have gone directly for the wrestling team.






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    Aug 22, 2011 4:27 PM GMT
    hey if that is what makes you guys happy, go ahead.
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    Aug 22, 2011 4:45 PM GMT
    I am not against intergenerational relationships, and am in one myself, happily. I have to say I am against this situation for the reason that your boyfriend is 14 and is learning who he wants to be still. The fact that you mention age of consent first bothers me. A 14 YEAR OLD BOY IS NOT READY TO HAVE SEX! I was not ready till I was 22 and I think no 14 year old boy has the mental maturity to have sex. I honstly think this is a mistake.
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    Aug 24, 2011 4:31 PM GMT
    IM SORRY ... .BUT NO
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    Aug 25, 2011 3:52 PM GMT
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    That's one of the hottest pics ever. As for this topic, just ew. Even though it's legal in Spain, it's so wrong. A 14-year-old is still growing up, and he'd be going through a lot of changes. A 20-year-old is an adult reaching his peak, and should have a more mature mind. Seriously, what is there to talk about between these two? Not relationship stuff I don't think.