DADT

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    Jul 02, 2011 7:58 AM GMT
    Ok so I'm currently in the "military" I actually attend one of the service academy's (probably can guess which one lo) but with the DADT going away and the new policies are underway (hint hint). Do you think it is a good idea to let it be known or to keep it hidden.


    Little background, I'm not out to anyone and I'm still on the fence about accepting whether I'm bi or not (I just love a nice muscular man).
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    Jul 02, 2011 8:37 AM GMT
    Personally, I'd let it be known.
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    Jul 02, 2011 8:56 AM GMT
    I guess you should ask yourself why. I mean, do you foresee some type of benefit to telling your peers? Do you wanna bone one of them? Do you feel some type of burden or angst by not telling anyone? There's gotta be a reason.

    You're not even sure about your sexuality. So I think you should just keep it to yourself for now. No point in creating drama over something that you're not sure about.
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    Jul 02, 2011 9:07 AM GMT
    I would wait for the change in policy to take place before I said something. Besides if it doesnt benefit you or it puts you in an awkward position why do it at this time.
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    Jul 02, 2011 12:26 PM GMT
    I agree with waiting for the full implementation.

    As for why, education. The more straight people know us, helps in ending discrimination. Like other minorities, we will never have 100%, but coming out improves our support in defeating the fundie right wing.

    Good luck stlguy.
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    Jul 02, 2011 12:36 PM GMT
    xrichx saidI guess you should ask yourself why. I mean, do you foresee some type of benefit to telling your peers? Do you wanna bone one of them? Do you feel some type of burden or angst by not telling anyone? There's gotta be a reason.

    You're not even sure about your sexuality. So I think you should just keep it to yourself for now. No point in creating drama over something that you're not sure about.


    Sounds like some sound advice xrichx
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    Jul 02, 2011 1:35 PM GMT
    Make a decision on your own time table is my advice. You should come out when you're ready, in your own way and to the people you want to. Good luck.
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    Jul 02, 2011 1:42 PM GMT
    First, you are not in the "military" - you are in the military. Or almost in. In any case, while it may benefit gay men generally - and be good for your soul and psyche - for you to come out, it will not benefit your career.

    Simple facts (from someone in the military).
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    Jul 02, 2011 1:59 PM GMT
    Keep it to yourself. Nobody cares. If you try to make it known it will become your label. That gay guy... If you're in an academy, you're not in the military, fyi.