Who are you?

  • Profire

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    Jul 02, 2011 12:09 PM GMT
    You're not your job.  You're not how much money you have in the bank.  You're not the car you drive.  You're not the contents of your wallet.  You're not your fucking khakis ~ Fight Club movie, screenplay by Jim Uhls, directed by David Fincher, novel by Chuck Palahniuk.

    ...so who are you?

    How do you define yourself?
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    Jul 02, 2011 12:47 PM GMT
    I usually start with Chris and go from there ;)
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    Jul 02, 2011 12:50 PM GMT
    Profire, don't you think it might be fair to tell us who you are?
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    Jul 02, 2011 1:18 PM GMT
    Profire saidYou're not your job.  You're not how much money you have in the bank.  You're not the car you drive.  You're not the contents of your wallet.  You're not your fucking khakis ~ Fight Club movie, screenplay by Jim Uhls, directed by David Fincher, novel by Chuck Palahniuk.

    ...so who are you?

    How do you define yourself?


    I define myself how I live my life with meaning and how I treat others. What you have listed OP are materialistic qualities, sure that is part of the makup of who one is, but I look at it as "who are you, intrinsically and innately", what are you made of before one attains the material things in life. Did I get your post right OP? icon_biggrin.gif
  • Profire

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    Jul 02, 2011 1:25 PM GMT
    vincent7 saidProfire, don't you think it might be fair to tell us who you are?


    There a lot of days when I don't know how I define myself.
    Am I a triathlete that I train so hard for a few hours racing but knowing I will never win the race, am I my "fucking khakis" as I work too much and work my ass off to get more promotions, am I all the material possessions that I have accumulated, am I the scared soul thinking "fake till you make it" knowing any minute someone is going to find out that I have been faking it (my good work performance, my athleticism, me being "cool", my intellect) all along and expose me ???

    Does having iPods, iPhones and iPads make me someone a hipster?
    Does someone who drives a Mercedes make them a snob, yet some who spends the same amount of money on a BMW make them cool?

    I guess I would define myself (today) as a "cool, professional, hipster"
    Can someone even be "professional" and a "hipster" in the same being???
    Are those two things mutually exclusive?

    However I am sure this is not what the rest of the world sees me.
    I would guess the world sees me as a middle age workaholic trying to be one of the cool kids.
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    Jul 02, 2011 1:26 PM GMT
    At my core? I'm fluff, I'm love.
  • Profire

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    Jul 02, 2011 1:28 PM GMT
    floridajockguy said
    Profire saidYou're not your job.  You're not how much money you have in the bank.  You're not the car you drive.  You're not the contents of your wallet.  You're not your fucking khakis ~ Fight Club movie, screenplay by Jim Uhls, directed by David Fincher, novel by Chuck Palahniuk.

    ...so who are you?

    How do you define yourself?


    I define myself how I live my life with meaning and how I treat others. What you have listed OP are materialistic qualities, sure that is part of the makup of who one is, but I look at it as "who are you, intrinsically and innately", what are you made of before one attains the material things in life. Did I get your post right OP? icon_biggrin.gif


    I don't know if there is a right way to view this post.
    It's your definition of yourself, so how you interpret it is part of who you are and makes up part of your definition.
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    Jul 02, 2011 1:32 PM GMT
    Respect for all and a dose of good, clean fun! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 02, 2011 1:36 PM GMT
    Profire, I appreciate your candor. It's looks like you are seeking a more fulfilling life and want to know how others do it.

    I am in a different stage in life. I'm 66 and very happy. I like to think of myself as understanding, helpful, sincere, spiritual, real, love humanity, and unemcumbered by too much materialism.

    Have I always been this way? No. I think the road of life is a journey where our negative traits, and materialistic thinking vanishes as we grow in our souls. I like to think we are all works of art, in progress.
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    Jul 02, 2011 1:45 PM GMT
    I define myself as the one person you'll regret never meeting haha I'm very honest, diligent, strong willed and fiery. I always go after I want and usually get it one way or the other. I'm pretty mature for my age and I tend to be more understanding and logical because of this. I'm very softhearted and genuinely care about the well being of others. I usually go out of my way to help just about anyone in need.
  • masculumpedes

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    Jul 02, 2011 1:49 PM GMT
    I am a pot roast.

    I try and offer comfort when comfort is needed. My friends are mostly old ones with a few new ones who quickly become familiar and the time spent with them seems to be well worth the effort. I realize I will never achieve perfection and I'm okay with that. I seem to be getting more tender with age. icon_wink.gif
  • Profire

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    Jul 02, 2011 1:53 PM GMT
    vincent7 saidProfire, I appreciate your candor. It's looks like you are seeking a more fulfilling life and want to know how others do it.


    I have a very fulfilling life and not looking for direction from anybody or how others do it.

    I read the quote a few days ago on this site and it got me thinking about who we are, how we define ourselves and thought it was interesting question to pose to everybody on here and see how people see themselves.




    Btw - what does being "in a different stage of life" have to do with how you define yourself?
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    Jul 02, 2011 2:02 PM GMT

    I am the sum of my principles... and behavior.
    I am how I treat others.
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    Jul 02, 2011 2:12 PM GMT
    Profire said
    vincent7 saidProfire, I appreciate your candor. It's looks like you are seeking a more fulfilling life and want to know how others do it.


    I have a very fulfilling life and not looking for direction from anybody or how others do it.

    I read the quote a few days ago on this site and it got me thinking about who we are, how we define ourselves and thought it was interesting question to pose to everybody on here and see how people see themselves.




    Btw - what does being "in a different stage of life" have to do with how you define yourself?


    Sorry for making an assumption about you.

    A different stage of life means that I don't see myself as the same person as when I was 20, 30, 40, or even 50.
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    Jul 02, 2011 2:49 PM GMT
    I don't know who I am , but I used to think I did. I lived in New York and had a hot job where I worked myself to burnout. - screw that.
    Defining it by how you treat others sounds good though. I need to remind myself that being single is not who I am either - but I definitely believe that sometimes.
  • Profire

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    Jul 02, 2011 2:59 PM GMT
    Total coincidence, but walking home from a coffee shop and I started to listen to Idina Menzel's song "I Stand" and the song lyrics tied into this thread perfectly....

    When you asked me, who I am
    What is my vision? Do I have a plan?
    Where is my strength? Have I nothing to say?
    I hear the words in my head but I push them away

    I stand for the power to change
    I live for the perfect day
    I love till it hurts like crazy
    I hope for a hero to save me


    I read this as some who...
    - is trying to be a better person and grow
    - optimist
    - exposed and vulnerable in love (which seems like this is what love should be about)
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    Jul 02, 2011 6:21 PM GMT
    For me, this year was to the Year of Me, getting back to the stronger me, the more confident me. It hasn't happened and I could say that the outside forces have a lot to do with that, but I suppose people made of stronger stuff could have overcome a lot of this while still trying to make landfall. It is a daily struggle to figure out and believe in my self worth and how I see myself.
  • disasterpiece

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    Jul 02, 2011 6:25 PM GMT
    I just wanna be myself,
    And I want you to love me for who I am
    I just wanna be myself,
    And I want you to know, I am my Hair





    ... No, juuuzzz kiddin' ! I had this song stuck in my head this whole morning.
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    Jul 02, 2011 6:27 PM GMT
    a painful mistake
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    Jul 02, 2011 6:43 PM GMT
    I'm glad you said I'm not my job... Cause I'm not happy with it right now!
    I can't be money, cause I don't have any
    I can't be my house cause I don't have one
    I'm not my khakis cause I don't wear khakis, I hate them!


    Maybe I'm food
    Maybe I'm the bodybuilding I love so much
    Maybe I'm modern art
    Maybe I'm architecture
    Maybe I'm Sufjan Stevens or Arcade Fire or The National
    Maybe I'm Chicago maybe I'm NYC
    Maybe I'm just a little neuron in my head gasping to escape the monotony of its existence
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    Jul 02, 2011 6:47 PM GMT
    I don't really know who I am. Thought I knew but lately I am questioning some of the fundamentals.

    Hard to do in your late 40s, but that's where I am.

    Guess that's an adventure. At least I'm trying to look at it that way.
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    Jul 02, 2011 6:50 PM GMT
    Disasterpiece saidI just wanna be myself,
    And I want you to love me for who I am
    I just wanna be myself,
    And I want you to know, I am my Hair





    ... No, juuuzzz kiddin' ! I had this song stuck in my head this whole morning.


    You are Lady Gaga lol!

    I prefer to be your Heavy Metal Lover!
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    Jul 02, 2011 6:53 PM GMT
    I am....a post positivist who dabbles in pragmatism...next question!
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    Jul 02, 2011 6:53 PM GMT
    I know that I'm a unique individual and I enjoy my life, and everything that makes it up.. I don't need to define myself for anybody. However my general positive outlook and outgoing personality allow for most people to draw their own good conclusions.
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    Jul 03, 2011 4:32 PM GMT
    I am selfishness and I am selflessness.
    I am ephemeral and I am eternal.
    I am carnal and I am cerebral.
    I am activism and I am apathy.
    I am strength and I am shortcoming.
    I am aggression and I am pacifism.
    I am tenderness and I am steel.
    I am courage and I am fear.
    I am armor and I am vulnerability.
    I am presence and I am vacancy.
    I am authenticity and I am pretense.
    I am love and I am alone.

    I want it all. I want not to want.

    I have always been here.