When I go to the gym by myself I take my iPod along with me and play progressive house music (i mix it myself @ http://web.mac.com/jasonvassallo ) and this hi-energy music keeps me going for a long time at the gym. I can lift, do abs and cardio all in the same session. However, I constantly notice the hot guys at the gym and I find it difficult to make conversation with guys, not only due to my self-centered fear but also to the fact that I'm wearing headphones and jamming to techno! There have been times when I noticed a really hot guy and have been scared to say anything to him to strike up a conversation, but then again there have also been times when I had the courage to ask a guy if he had a workout partner, and if he'd like to get together to workout sometime. Where I work out it's not a gay gym, although I live in Fort Lauderdale which is a gay mecca. So, especially with some of these masculine jocks (that attract me), one can never be too sure who is gay and who isn't.
Of course, my goal is to feel good about me and not to get obsessed with other guys that may be strutting their stuff at the gym. Hot guys are like my downfall--or just lust in general! I have all the willingness to stay true to my heart and be disciplined and lead a balanced life... maybe socialize with this one here or just jam out to my tunes some other time, but I have a tendency to go full force into whatever tickles my fancy at a given moment. For instance, there was this one really hot guy that I noticed at the gym and he happened to be a trainer. I started obsessing, fantasing, etc. and I decided to walk up to him and talk to him after about a month or two of my gazing at him. I asked him, "So, you're a trainer huh?" and he was like "yeah, so you looking for one?" and that's how it all began! He hooked me up and he even takes me shopping to help me get the right foods. He is "straight" but he says he's worked as a stripper before.. not at a gay club :( but in any event my purpose is, even after all this fantasizing, not to get in bed with him but to allow him to teach me how to train myself and show me how to eat right so I can have a body like him.
Just last night I actually went to the gym by myself with my iPod and ended up jamming for awhile while I walked long and hard up a steep incline on the treadmill, and then i noticed this one hot guy who has caught my eye every time he's in there, and I couldn't take it anymore! I went up to the machine he was using and asked if I could "get in there with him!" haha but he wasn't there to socialize, and I respected that a lot although I was bitching in my head all night about how I wanted him! :) The same night this guy I know was with his friend and we socialized for like 10 or 15 min.! I was in the middle of my workout while we chatted and I started thinking, "Ughh I need to keep going! I'm getting tired and my body needs protein." But it is nice for a change to get out of my head and be with other people. My goal is to live a balanced life. I don't drink or use drugs so that seems to rule out a lot of the younger gay crowd around South Florida when it comes to socializing and "going out" and stuff. Lots of people down here just wanna party. I used to be that way, but I've changed and I don't want to go back to that mode. Sometimes I feel desperate though, when my eyes prowl in the gym and I want to meet a hottie. It can be frustrating at times, but I just keep working out and feelings pass in time.
This is an interesting topic.. Of course, this is just my experience!