Anal sex, a must?

  • michbeg

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    Jul 04, 2011 10:04 PM GMT
    It's always exciting to see two men at it... but is it really fun doing it? To be honest with everyone, I've never tried and I am not in a rush. To be able to bottom, do I need preparation?

    Am I the only one thinking this way? Is there anyone who do not practice anal sex with his partner?

    I'm just being curious.
  • michbeg

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    Jul 05, 2011 1:53 AM GMT
    Cmon guys ! 50 views and no point of view? icon_neutral.gif I'm young and inexperienced and I'd die for an answer. When I came out recently to my relatives, the first question I was asked by my brother was: How does sex between dudes works? He asked it as a joke (luckily for me) so he didn't expect an answer, but I had none... and it's bothering me to the point that I come here to post my embarrassing questions.

    Maybe I can develop a little bit to break the ice (short and sweet):

    When we talk about sex referring to a heterosexual couple, we have the image of a man inserting a woman and doing all kinds of stuff super exciting for both partners. It is true that most of them have tried anal sex once in their lifetime and some of them are into it, but it's clearly a minority because women have an alternative much more comfortable for her to enjoy.

    When it comes to a homosexual relationship... we have the image of a man inserting another man's butt. Like I said, the picture or the idea of it excites me... but I've heard that it can be an uncomfortable sensation, that it's kind of unhealthy (other than STIs) for the anus and that sometimes it hurts. I would never force myself to inflict/endure pain to/for a partner.

    All this writing to get to my questions which are: 1) If someone decides to not practice anal sex for different personal reasons, what's left other than repetitive blowjobs/masturbation sessions? 2) Does it get (hope not)boring after a while because of the repetitiveness of the same action if someone decides to not engage in anal sex?

    Please! I would really enjoy an answer (not based on stereotypes). I know that what I am asking is personal and members who will answer have their personal profile linked, but I'm sure it'd really help more than just one person (me).

    Thank!

    *Sorry for my spelling/grammar, I'm bilingual but my mother tongue language is French (Canada).
  • michbeg

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    Jul 05, 2011 2:05 AM GMT
    Green_Panda saidLots of gay guys don't do anal sex. Lots of LTR gay couples don't. There is no right way to have sex.


    Thank you for your answer, but could you please answer my questions if it isn't too personal?
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    Jul 05, 2011 2:43 AM GMT
    There are other threads discussing anal sex in this forum. You'd find more information if you did a search. There are also plenty of guys on this site who don't think anal sex is necessary. Some even give the perception they are strongly against it. You have to decide what works for you in your relationship.


    michbeg said1) If someone decides to not practice anal sex for different personal reasons, what's left other than repetitive blowjobs/masturbation sessions? 2) Does it get (hope not)boring after a while because of the repetitiveness of the same action if someone decides to not engage in anal sex?


    Sex, by nature, will become repetitive. Doesn't matter if you're only relying on blowjob/masturbation sessions, or fucking each other's brains out. Even anal sex can be repetitive. Sure, anal sex will allow for many more options but it's not a gaurantee that you won't become bored in the bedroom. That's why you have to get creative. icon_twisted.gif
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    Jul 05, 2011 4:50 AM GMT
    unfounded7 saidThere are other threads discussing anal sex in this forum. You'd find more information if you did a search. There are also plenty of guys on this site who don't think anal sex is necessary. Some even give the perception they are strongly against it. You have to decide what works for you in your relationship.


    michbeg said1) If someone decides to not practice anal sex for different personal reasons, what's left other than repetitive blowjobs/masturbation sessions? 2) Does it get (hope not)boring after a while because of the repetitiveness of the same action if someone decides to not engage in anal sex?


    Sex, by nature, will become repetitive. Doesn't matter if you're only relying on blowjob/masturbation sessions, or fucking each other's brains out. Even anal sex can be repetitive. Sure, anal sex will allow for many more options but it's not a gaurantee that you won't become bored in the bedroom. That's why you have to get creative. icon_twisted.gif


    you mean like this? icon_biggrin.gif

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    Jul 05, 2011 6:55 AM GMT
    I don't do anal. Just isn't a turn-on for me.
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    Jul 05, 2011 7:16 AM GMT
    Im a top and i do love me some booty....bottomed a couple of time and not my cup of tea....to all my bottoms out there my hats off to you...and my pants(jk)...but honestly i like frotting more than anything and among other things that can get a bruh off i can dig as well.....it just doesnt have to be anal...although i'd take it if u gave it to me
  • denus

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    Jul 05, 2011 11:55 AM GMT
    Frottage and intercrural (between the thighs) sex are other options as well.

    Not that I can tell from experience. :s But those are the options that appeal to me a lot since I'm the opposite of you in such a way (the idea of anal sex repulses me rather than excites me.)
  • michbeg

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    Jul 06, 2011 4:29 AM GMT
    Thanks for all your replies. But I wonder something. If it hurts, you need to stop because you are damaging something... so how exactly do you go from pain to fun?

    I know that multiple sessions won't have an effect on bowel movements and elasticity. These are just myths... So if practice doesn't bring a change, what do I need to do in order to enjoy it?

    Anyone?

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    Jul 06, 2011 10:44 PM GMT
    I see this is not an easy subject to a lots of people...
    First if you want to play there, you have to be clean. I found a good site that can explan most of the step you have to take.
    Luckly for you it is in French.
    http://abunawas-algerie.e-monsite.com/rubrique,la-sodomie-pour-lui,1126798.html

    After you clean up, lub well and play with your self, inserting finger, and fingersss. Don't force. Playing with dildo is good too and will expand the ass. Don't go for the big one, you want to go slow. It's a muscle so like all the others, exercise is the key.
    After a few times, you should be able to get some real meat in there, But be careful and use condom with a water base lub.

    Some people use toothache pain medecine (orajel) to loose up. To be use with lots of care. No too much and not too often. But you will open-up for sure.

    I love being fuck by a hard men and I've practice safe sex all the time.
    No condom= no fuck! That's how I stay HIVneg. and have fun.

    Hope to be helpfull.icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 06, 2011 10:56 PM GMT
    here another one interesting...
    http://www.nifty.org/nifty/information/gay-anal-sex-ed.html

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