are you an introvert or extravert?

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    Jul 06, 2011 5:00 AM GMT

    I came across this article
    http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052702304314404576411640141999396.html

    it says
    The population is split pretty much evenly between introverts and extraverts

    But why I found most people like to identify themselves as outgoing and extravert. Liars??!!
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    Jul 06, 2011 5:03 AM GMT
    Related:
    http://www.carlkingcreative.com/10-myths-about-introverts

    10 Myths About Introverts

    Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
    This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

    Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
    Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

    Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
    Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

    Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
    On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

    Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
    Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

    Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
    Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

    Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
    Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

    Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
    Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

    Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
    Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

    Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
    A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.
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    Jul 06, 2011 5:08 AM GMT
    What about haricot verts? Why can't they get any respect??? icon_cry.gif
  • Springer70

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    Jul 06, 2011 6:57 AM GMT
    I'm definitely introverted. However, I really consider myself a situational extrovert, in that given the right topic or environment I can be really extroverted (and won't shut up, for that matter).

    I actually think this situational extroversion is quite common, which might explain why it's hard for some to answer your question, or to claim to be extroverted, and yet get called a liar. Perhaps your not giving your companions a comfortable environment in which to be extroverted.
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    Jul 06, 2011 7:31 AM GMT
    I consider myself an introvert.
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    Jul 06, 2011 7:44 AM GMT
    I'm an introvert, but at times I can be an extravert based on who I am around or not around. My friends make me extravert cause I love them all especially when I'm around them and other people. I am sometimes (not too often) an extravert without them so i can meet new people. Although that makes me wish I talked to that one guy I had for my summer class since I was being an introvert, Ricardo.
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    Jul 06, 2011 11:17 AM GMT
    I've always tested as a strong introvert (INTJ, actually) and I think this will always be the case. I can hold my own in most social situations, but I NEED alone time (that's why I live alone)

    In ways, I'm way less introverted than I used to be, but I don't ever see myself as an extrovert. It's why I have a hard time talking to people I'm attracted to - I usually only do if I see a connection (or if there's something to talk about). Sometimes that's too deep for some girls or guys (then I have to say they're not the right one anyway).

    That article is very true to form. I'm probably an outgoing introvert...whereas I can play the role of an extrovert well but only for a limited time. I've literally gotten mad when I didn't get my alone time. Also, I listen to my headphones all the time when on the move - it helps me block out my surroundings and have time to my thoughts.
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    Jul 06, 2011 11:19 AM GMT
    introvert
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    Jul 06, 2011 11:23 AM GMT
    Total introvert
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    Jul 06, 2011 12:18 PM GMT
    INTROVERT WHO HAS DECIDED TO TYPE THIS ALL IN CAPS!
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    Jul 06, 2011 12:28 PM GMT
    xrichx saidRelated:
    http://www.carlkingcreative.com/10-myths-about-introverts

    10 Myths About Introverts

    Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
    This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

    Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
    Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

    Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
    Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

    Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
    On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

    Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
    Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

    Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
    Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

    Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
    Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

    Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
    Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

    Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
    Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

    Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
    A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.



    Quoted for fucking truth.

    I'm an awesome introvert (INTP/J on the Myers Briggs scale), and damn proud of it ;].

    I can be very social, interactive and just generally 'switch it on' when I want/need to, it is just that my natural default and equilibrium is (a return to) introversion and replenish my electrolytes.

    http://www.purdue.edu/usp/pdfs/mbtiresources/INTP.pdf

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    Jul 06, 2011 12:36 PM GMT
    Pretty much an Introvert.
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    Jul 06, 2011 12:39 PM GMT
    There's no middle area here? I guess mostly extrovert, but I know some extroverted people who are obnoxiuos. They get in your face whether you want them to or not.
    I like sitting with introverts on a plane - they let you take a nap.
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    Jul 06, 2011 12:40 PM GMT
    I'm an INTP too. And much of this is spot-on! In meetings, I may be quiet most of the time, but when I speak up, it is for a reason.
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    Jul 06, 2011 12:47 PM GMT
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    _SAGE_ saidI'm an awesome introvert (INTP/J on the Myers Briggs scale), and damn proud ;].

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    Me, too!

    Well, I'm actually E/INTP, but close enough.

    I'm a total introvert at heart, but try to be an extrovert. It's definitely obvious that I won't say anything unless something has to be said. It's why people always get super surprised when they figure out I'm gay.




    We should totes start an elite INTP club, and have extreme and somewhat degrading initiation rituals for new-comers. Just a thought... ;p
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    Jul 06, 2011 12:52 PM GMT
    jawrhed saidThere's no middle area here? I guess mostly extrovert, but I know some extroverted people who are obnoxiuos. They get in your face whether you want them to or not.
    I like sitting with introverts on a plane - they let you take a nap.


    I'm glad I usually fly wiith my husband, I can't stand sitting next to an extrovert during a long flight.icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jul 06, 2011 12:55 PM GMT
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    But need to be more introvert in professional meetings (aka stfu)

    I think RJ has a greater number of introverts than extraverts - or maybe just that posts on the forums.

    And you have to think about whether there was sampling bias in the studies that came up with ~half intro, half extra. I think it's more likely that an introvert would sit down with a researcher and do the tests.

    PS the bit about "Extraverts often believe introverts are awkward, withholding or cold." is dead on. Apparently people get that impression all the time despite me smiling like a madman when I go out. Oh well.
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    Jul 06, 2011 12:55 PM GMT
    Who else but an introvert actually reads and responds to these forums?!! It's interaction without the hassle of interaction. icon_eek.gif
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    Jul 06, 2011 1:05 PM GMT
    iLikeDC said
    I came across this article
    http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052702304314404576411640141999396.html

    it says
    The population is split pretty much evenly between introverts and extraverts

    But why I found most people like to identify themselves as outgoing and extravert. Liars??!!


    That could be because Corporate America is biased towards extroverts. I'm an introvert but lots of people see me as extrovert.
    After so many years in the corporate world I learned how to act. You have to be out there all the time, promoting yourself at work. The right people need to know your face and name. Work results by themselves are not enough.
    I always make small chat at the coffee machines at the office, make jokes, compliment ladies on outfits, etc.

    Introvert, extrovert is about how you get your energy, how you recharge your batteries.

    An introvert needs time by himself/herself to recharge.
    An extrovert draws his energy from others.

    It is not really related with shyness. I know many extroverts that are shy.

    I'm much better at social interactions than my best INTJ friend for example. I being an INTP. That is because I moved from IT into Marketing. I put myself out there. He's never moved from his IT corner and doesn't have much social stamina.

    Thus, in conclusion, I believe you can't change how you recharge yourself but definitely you can change how you act in social situations.
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    Jul 06, 2011 1:22 PM GMT
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    Trollileo said
    _SAGE_ saidI'm an awesome introvert (INTP/J on the Myers Briggs scale), and damn proud ;].

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    Me, too!

    Well, I'm actually E/INTP, but close enough.

    I'm a total introvert at heart, but try to be an extrovert. It's definitely obvious that I won't say anything unless something has to be said. It's why people always get super surprised when they figure out I'm gay.




    We should totes start an elite INTP club, and have extreme and somewhat degrading initiation rituals for new-comers. Just a thought... ;p
    So down. It'll be the first RJ frat. Erotic hazing is so fun.


    INTPs by themselves belong already to an elite club. Though we like lots of Internet activity. There are a few INTP forums out there.

    INTPs are the architects (ideas, concepts, things) of the World. INTJ follow closely as they are so practical focused.

    The world owes INTPs and INTJs big time. Almost all breakthroughs(99%) in
    any field that brought the human race where it is right now where accomplished by and INTP/INTJ.

    On a bigger scale xNTx types dominate everything on the World.
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    Jul 06, 2011 1:24 PM GMT
    Introvert!!!
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    Jul 06, 2011 1:26 PM GMT
    I'm a speculative chameleonic introvert. I literally just coined this term myself icon_biggrin.gif

    In brief, it means my basal personality tends towards introversion, however, I have the capacity to switch between being lightly extroverted to being deeply introverted. My state highly depends on my mood and the situation, and I can willfully change my state convincingly.

    Introversion to me means that energy is being created from within i.e. from being alone, and not being drawn from your current surroundings i.e. from other people, but I am slightly different in that I love being alone within a crowd of people. This is because I like to speculate and analyse other people and things, thus there is a slight paradox that I like being alone but also at the same time alone amidst lots of people.
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    Jul 06, 2011 1:30 PM GMT
    I'm introverted but pretty good at faking extraversion when necessary icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 06, 2011 9:31 PM GMT
    Introvert, but there is an element of extrovertism in me too. Some scholars of Temperament believe that up to 50% of the population have a combination of both extrovert and introvert traits, one greater than the other.
    For example:
    One man can be 80% Extrovert, 20% Introvert.
    Another can be 60% Extrovert, 40% Introvert.
    A third can be 60% Introvert, 40% Extrovert.
    A fourth can be 80% Introvert, 20% Extrovert.
    The other 50% of the population is either 100% Extrovert or 100% Introvert.
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    Jul 06, 2011 9:33 PM GMT
    I find that there are times I want to be outgoing and meet people, there are other times when I just want to be holed up in my room with sour patch kids and scary movies.

    It depends on my moods.