Why All Bi Guys Are Like This

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    Apr 20, 2008 9:49 PM GMT
    Whenever i find someone who is hot and just thinks of sex i will find out that he is bi without asking him
    ... and now im fallen for a bi guy he says he loves me but the way he acts it just makes me feel that he just wants me for sex icon_sad.gif why the hell there should be bisexual people to always break my heart icon_sad.gif
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    Apr 20, 2008 11:31 PM GMT
    When I was first coming out, I had the same problem. I think that it must have been the type of guy that I was attracted to. I later figured out that I was also going for them as I knew that they wouldn't want to have a relationship so I was safe having a hot hook-up buddy or buddies I guess.

    The problem was that I too eventually fell in love with one of them. And he wasn't willing to even admit that he was gay. He said that it was just a perversion that he had, and he wanted to get married again to a woman etc. It was hard for me as I took it very personal. I finally figured out that it was his insecurities with his own sexuality that was the problem.

    I don't really think that there is anything that you can do about him buddy. He has to make that step on his own time. He may never do so. He may just not want to OUT himself yet.
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    Apr 21, 2008 3:11 AM GMT
    I think you guys have just had bad experiences because I myself am bi and I'm not looking for just sex.I've spent all of my dating time trying to find a relationship and not a fling so i guess you just haven't hit the best of the bunchicon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 21, 2008 3:20 AM GMT
    Two things come to mind. If you think guys are just using you for sex, it may be best to hold off on sex until you get to know the guy fairy well. If he genuinely likes you, you'll grow closer and you'll know the connection is genuine, and not simply someone using you.

    Secondly, many guys will say they are bi when they really are just gay. This is especially true in a society that is very hostile toward homosexuality.
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    Apr 21, 2008 3:36 AM GMT
    Yes but guys who say they are bi may not be hiding the fact that they are gay but instaed are confused and dont know which they prefer like in my case I spent a good long time (maybe 4-5 years)trying to figure out which I like better men or women.It's gotten to the point where I just gave up on trying to figure which one and I will look to either gender for some sign of future happiness. So I'm gonna have to be corny here and say the world isn't just black and white but it's got some grey in it too.
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    Apr 21, 2008 4:15 AM GMT
    One day your prince will come. Be patient.
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    Apr 21, 2008 5:52 AM GMT
    Well, remember that not ALL guys are the same. I'm bi, and as fun as sex is, it's not the only thing I look for in a person; guy or girl. When I fall for a person, it's because of how they make me feel inside; not about how they look or what parts they have. When I DO happen to go all the way with someone, I make sure we're either on the same level so no one gets hurt or we're friends so there are no mixed feelings. Yeah. I know feelings may come up later, but nothing can be done about that. Just be open and honest and don't play guessing games...But that's just me.
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    Apr 22, 2008 2:37 AM GMT
    I hear ya Awemazing thats exactly the boat I'm in but the only problem I'm having is finding guys or girls to dateicon_sad.gif
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    Apr 22, 2008 7:25 PM GMT
    well my definition for a bi guy is an asshole who just cares about his dick
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    Apr 23, 2008 2:38 AM GMT
    That is a generalization and its not a very good one but if it is your opinion then only you can change iticon_neutral.gif
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    Apr 23, 2008 10:45 PM GMT
    hey blisss,

    i'm gay. i won't break your heart. come here and gimme a kiss icon_biggrin.gif
  • TallSoCal

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    Apr 24, 2008 6:05 PM GMT
    blisss saidwell my definition for a bi guy is an asshole who just cares about his dick



    Hahahahahahahaha. That's my definition of 80% of the guys in LA!
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    Apr 29, 2008 2:44 AM GMT
    well I am 100% fag! yet lots of people think I am bi. I never would say I am, bi, as I am a fag! Yet people seem to want to put One under the label of Bi. Think it has to do with not really being gay acting, and have more in common with str8 men than most gay men.

    Yet I love bi men. Well the non gay acting ones. As I like their str8 manerisims. The fact we can go drink in any pub, and be one of the boys.

    But there are a lot of gay men out there whom will break your heart too. Only want you for sex, then next!

    Hay I once had a bi guy, with a wife and kids. Whom wanted to make house with me. leave his wife, for me. Oh no. His daughter would make a great drag queen, full of bad attitude.

    No there is hope, of meeting a guy whom is bi, and want to settle with you. There just may be times, when he has a need to go and munch on carpet.

    You just have not meet the right one yet....
  • kjm1990

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    Apr 29, 2008 8:08 AM GMT
    i no it sux hey hugs.i think you will find love.

    i'd quite happy spend tha rest of my life with u icon_redface.gif
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    Apr 29, 2008 8:16 AM GMT
    All bis I know of whether male or female are selfish. They could not decide what they want 'cos they want it all from both sides and middle. They end up hurting people who don't deserve to be (case in point: blisss) and always rationalizes that it takes two to tango.
    Stay away from them.
  • UWMGuy917

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    May 08, 2008 11:22 PM GMT
    I'm bisexual and I don't think I would call myself an "asshole". Actually, sex is usually the last thing on my mind when it comes to having a relationship. You can have all the sex you want, but if there's no emotional or mental connection, the sex is going to be worthless.
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    May 08, 2008 11:31 PM GMT
    Bliss you must have been hurt by somebody who is BI What hurts you more he can not committ to you completly or if he can nto you do not know how to compete against the other one A WOMAN. Bliss the BI guy who might commit to you 100% might be more loyal, than most other guys, sharing his affection with only one other rather than dozens.

    If it was over one guy, give it a chance.
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    May 08, 2008 11:33 PM GMT
    I started off totally gay and I mean totally.. women where icky..

    I'd perhaps still probably maybe consider my self gay but damn, I like women too, I just don't wanna date any of them.

    Never lump everyone under the same flag, to do so is bad for you and them, you've just met a lot of undesirable number 1's icon_razz.gif

    pluck dear, you'll find him eventually, but for now, have fun and enjoy life, a relationship is not all this world has to offer.