Bottoming...being prepared & clean.

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    Jul 07, 2011 1:49 PM GMT
    Its a nasty little topic but a fact of everyday life for anal sex. Ive topped in alot of relationships & the guys were always clean, beautiful asses & had no "accidents".....even if we didnt plan for it & it was spur of the moment.

    Im dating a guy now & hes a total top which is fine because im versatile but im in a constant state of worry things will get "messy". I hv a shower attachment to clean up & use but it scares me to death.

    How is it some guys are never messy no matter what? I cnt enjoy it sometimes cuz the whole time im worried if im clean or gna have an accident.

    I know this topic is yuckey, but its a fact of life we have to deal with....any suggestions?
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    Jul 07, 2011 2:01 PM GMT
    I agree it's a fact of life - the fact being, it's not always possible to absolutely guarantee that it's going to be clean as a whistle for the duration of the sex (especially if it goes on for a while, in lots of different positions, the dick is big, the fucking is brutal).

    I guess you just have to do your best in terms of clean-up, make sure you eat plenty of fibre, and just accept the fact that sometimes shit happens icon_lol.gif

    I would like to meet these bottoms who are always clean no matter what, even for spontaneous sex... I tend to think they are incredibly rare, I've certainly never come across one, they all needed to take the time to clean themselves.

    Even a random hook-up probably isn't as spontaneous as you think, because say you meet someone online, it takes you time to get over to their place, or them to come to you - no doubt they have done all the cleaning by the time you get there, or do it before they leave. So it seems 'spontaneous' because you haven't seen or heard them doing anything, they are just there ready and willing for the pounding of their life.
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    Jul 07, 2011 2:40 PM GMT
    It's definitely comes down to diet and relieving yourself before you hook up. If I know I'm getting laid and I bottom, I tend to get nervous and my stomach kicks in and usually I have to take a dump because of the nerves which actually helps when I can't clean myself thoroughly.
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    Jul 07, 2011 4:04 PM GMT
    i dont say i have a lot of experience in sex, but i have been a bottom for quite long. I dont think you can always keep clean. yeah it's right to say that it depends of size of dicks and some positions though i always try to clean myself as much as i can.
    my tip is that for some days you dont really feel safe with it. just tell ur partner and you guys go for oral. otherwise when things get messy, both will feel so confused, esp we bottom. my bf always encourages me that just take it easy when things get a bit dirty, go and wash it. but i myself feel ashamed and i find it hard to continue
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    Jul 07, 2011 6:14 PM GMT
    Pure said

    I would like to meet these bottoms who are always clean no matter what, even for spontaneous sex... I tend to think they are incredibly rare, I've certainly never come across one, they all needed to take the time to clean themselves.


    These bottoms that are perpetually clean are also usually really really skinny. So maybe they're probably always clean because they never eat? icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 07, 2011 8:05 PM GMT
    I have considered getting a douche, but I have no idea how effective they are, nor do I know anyone I can ask about it.

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    Jul 07, 2011 8:16 PM GMT
    jim_e saidIt's definitely comes down to diet and relieving yourself before you hook up. If I know I'm getting laid and I bottom, I tend to get nervous and my stomach kicks in and usually I have to take a dump because of the nerves which actually helps when I can't clean myself thoroughly.


    You are not alone dude, LOL!

    As for the topic, guys shouldn't totally get freaked out by this. If you're a top you should be well aware where you're sticking your tool. Not exactly in a hole of soap n' suds. I'm mostly clean as a whistle with the BF, but there are rare occasions where there's a hint of "mud" and I get COMPLETELY embarrassed even though he says it's perfectly fine. :-/
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    Jul 07, 2011 11:02 PM GMT
    KRWright13 saidI have considered getting a douche, but I have no idea how effective they are, nor do I know anyone I can ask about it.



    I even got a shower attachment & do not see how its humanly possible for anythg to be left in there but sometimes it is, especially if the top gets rough, which i love, lol. But it is embarrassing as hell.
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    Jul 08, 2011 12:00 AM GMT
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    Jul 08, 2011 12:15 AM GMT
    Green_Panda said
    redbull said
    KRWright13 saidI have considered getting a douche, but I have no idea how effective they are, nor do I know anyone I can ask about it.



    I even got a shower attachment & do not see how its humanly possible for anythg to be left in there but sometimes it is, especially if the top gets rough, which i love, lol. But it is embarrassing as hell.

    Maybe a dumb question, but how does the shower attachment work? --do you 'fill up' in the shower and then hold it until you get to the toilet or do you let the sh-t hit the fan right in the shower and hope all the chunks make it down the drain? I'm almost more scared of the cure than the disease.

    Is there a danger to cleaning out too much (can you dryout the cavity by washing out protective muceous?) How 'deep' a clean is this thing getting you -are you just douching the colon or are you giving yourself a full colonic?

    I've always been interested (and came close to buying one in TO last year) but it seemed like an odd thing to have hanging around in the bathroom (my house has only one so guests who include family and straight friends might see it). And I really didn't know how to use it properly and the clerk wasn't very helpful.


    You can unscew it from the shower nozzle attachment in seconds & put it away when not in use. It works pretty well but does leave a bit of a dry cavity so lube is a necessity. Ive only used mine a few times. I would guess an enema might work pretty good but the shower thing cleans more thorouhly.

    I dont understand how my bottom bf's never douched or anything & it was never messy. My ex of 6 yrs I topped most of the time & had spur of the moment sex & there was never a mess, guess i wasnt pounding hard enough, lmao!
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    Jul 08, 2011 1:43 AM GMT
    I wondered about that too. I saw one once that looked like a thin stainless steel dildo, and they said it was meant to be spraying water in as the water came out, like a fountain in your ass.

    But that can't be very sanitary even when the rectum is empty. I guess you could crouch while doing it and soap would clean the bottom?? You'd still have to do one expel into the toilet though in case of "hidden treasures".
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    Jul 08, 2011 6:14 AM GMT
    I guess its up to u how u wanna do it, in the shower or toilet, whichever u prefer.
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    Jul 08, 2011 7:03 AM GMT
    This is why wrapping before riding was a good idea even before anyone had heard of HIV. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jul 08, 2011 8:16 AM GMT
    My shower douche is great, it's a silicone attachment that you fit to the top of the shower with two pipes coming down from it, one is for the excess water and the other ends in an attachment that you stick up your butt and fill it with water, then squeeze it all out. Do this a few times until you're totally clean, job done!