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  • TallSoCal

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    Jul 08, 2011 3:36 AM GMT
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  • TallSoCal

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    Jul 08, 2011 3:37 AM GMT
    Oh yeah. And he's only 6 months older than me.
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    Jul 08, 2011 3:51 AM GMT
    You're totally falling for a drama queen.
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    Jul 08, 2011 4:17 AM GMT


    Have you met this fellow in person? You didn't say (and I can be rather dense, lol)

    -Doug
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    Jul 08, 2011 5:15 AM GMT
    PowerFade saidYou're totally falling for a drama queen.


    This.
  • trainhard2011

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    Jul 08, 2011 6:09 AM GMT
    Sounds mean
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    Jul 08, 2011 6:59 AM GMT
    PowerFade saidYou're totally falling for a drama queen.

    Yup. Even though he's everything you ever wanted, you're not what he's always wanted and he's already showed you this.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Jul 08, 2011 7:08 AM GMT
    TrevorMark said
    PowerFade saidYou're totally falling for a drama queen.

    Yup. Even though he's everything you ever wanted, you're not what he's always wanted and he's already showed you this.



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    Jul 08, 2011 7:12 AM GMT
    you can talk to people on twitter?
  • Diceroll

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    Jul 08, 2011 7:13 AM GMT
    MannCubb saidSo, I started talking to this dude on twitter. He's literally everything I've looked for in a guy. He's tall, gorgeous, perfect body, knows tons about fitness and nutrition, has his masters, has an amazing job (aside from modeling), most masculine guy I've ever met, Italian and Puerto Rican mix, knows how to be monogamous and commited, our conversations just flow so easily, we can talk about anything....As you can see, I can go on and on about him. The only bad thing is he has NO kind of patience or understanding. As of right now, he's ignoring me because he wanted to have an important talk, and I forgot that I had made plans. So, when I realized that, I canceled my plans so we could talk. But, I guess it was already too late. He said I don't respect him, and that I can't be trusted. He's new to the whole "being into guys" thing. He threatened to get back with his ex gf the first time we got in an argument, and I had to beg him to calm down and to forgive me for speaking my mind and not being able to read minds, apparently. I've already fallen deeply for him. He feels strongly for me, too, but I honestly think he's scared because this is unfamiliar to him, and he's subconsciously making excuses to back out? I honestly don't know, but I REALLY don't want him to leave me. What should I do? icon_cry.gif




    Even though nobody is perfect - you should NEVER have to beg (or even ask) someone to forgive you for speaking your mind.

    Obviously I don't know this guy , but do you think there is a chance that he is using the ex-gf thing to keep you on some kind of leash, so you'll do whatever he wants?

  • Spiritreaver

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    Jul 08, 2011 7:19 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidyou can talk to people on twitter?
    This, but then again I have never used twitter before.

    God this thread taught me that I have a lot to learn about guys. MannCubb's story has happened to me quite a few times. Need to man up, stop having a bleeding heart, and tell these guys to eff off. Better guys out there.
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    Jul 08, 2011 7:19 AM GMT
    Sounds like a bit of a control freak to me.
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    Jul 08, 2011 7:26 AM GMT
    dramatic, clingy, whiney, needy, jealous, emotional. Need I say more? RUN!!!!
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    Jul 08, 2011 7:43 AM GMT
    Sounds like a tool.
  • mynyun

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    Jul 08, 2011 8:01 AM GMT
    TrevorMark said
    PowerFade saidYou're totally falling for a drama queen.

    Yup. Even though he's everything you ever wanted, you're not what he's always wanted and he's already showed you this.




    Hmmm. What is that saying about don't make someone the most important thing in your life if you're only an option in theirs.???
    I agree with the above statement by Trevor.
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    Jul 08, 2011 8:09 AM GMT
    Tazo995 saidSounds like a tool.


    This. Hate to break it to you.
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    Jul 08, 2011 9:04 AM GMT
    Dreams can turn into nightmares rather quickly these days!!! You are old enough to know that you deserve better from anyone and young enough to not have felt love's keen scorn. All the "perfect" things he has going for him means that you are going to end up with a "perfectly" broken heart. Be careful with this guy!!!
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    Jul 08, 2011 9:22 AM GMT
    He may be 'perfect' but he's not right for you. Delete and move on.
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    Jul 08, 2011 10:13 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidThose games he's playing sound like typical male Latino bullshit. Latino Mama's boy bullshit. Trust me I know, I grew up around so many of them plus I'm half Latino myself so I am not making a racist remark. icon_cool.gif Threatening to go back to another past partner is an awful tactic to control and manipulate another person. It is downright immature. That would be enough for me to kick this so-called dream man to the curb.

    You should never have to beg a person to calm down and to forgive you. By you doing this you already made it clear that he has all the power. You basically gave it to him on a platter. It's up to you to determine whether this is the type of relationship you want.

    Good luck.


    Well I was going to try and comment, but I can't beat MuchMoreThanMuscles! He already said anything I was going to say!
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    Jul 08, 2011 10:30 AM GMT
    The mere fact that he is threatening you so early is a very big warning sign.

    Don't allow the affection to make you overlook the warning signs. I made that mistake too.

    My ex would threaten that I would never see him again before we even started officially dating. He also waited until I was getting ready to fly out for basic training and said if I didn't give him an answer NOW he wasn't going to be around when I came back. Next thing I knew he quickly bought our house, while I was away so his name would be on the mortgage and not mine. So whenever it we got into an argument, or we took a break from each other, I was the one who had to leave. And stuff like this went went on and on and on. All these sneaky tactics to maintain control of me so that he had the upper hand. I realize now our relationship went crazy south, when my deployment came up and suddenly I was our sole source of income and he needed me. thats when it became impossible for him to hide his insecurities, though he had been clearly showing it for so long anyway and I was just overlooking it out of love.

    if your guy is doing this already, its not going to stop. Its only going to get worse. and a few years down the line, if you make it that long, you'll say the same thing. I saw the warning signs, but was too into him to admit that there was a problem.
  • GQjock

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    Jul 08, 2011 11:14 AM GMT
    Warning Signs ........

    He's new to the dating men thing .... and he's threatening You by saying he'll go back to his GF?

    He gave you a specific time for an "important" Talk? ... and you agreed to it?

    This is bound to fail
    You found a man who fits into your need to be controlled .....
    Time for you to tell this Perfect guy icon_rolleyes.gif
    We talk when I WANT to talk

  • TallSoCal

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    Jul 08, 2011 8:21 PM GMT
    Thanks for the feedback, guys. He ended up ending things last night, so I guess he did me a favor. I don't really hurt like I thought I was going to. I have a really strong feeling that he's going to contact me in the near future to try and make small talk and what not. I'll talk back, but I don't think I'd put myself through that again. But eh.

    @meninlove: Yes. We were actually supposed to hang out this weekend, too.

    @AdavaKedavra: Yes. You can have conversations on twitter. Haha. Follow me! My username is @TallSoCal.
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    Jul 08, 2011 8:23 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear that man. I am pretty sure he did do you a favor...

    He probably is going to find a guy that will wait on him hand and foot and treat him like the princess he seems to be. Then that guy will end up hating his life.

    You're worth more than that.
  • TallSoCal

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    Jul 08, 2011 8:42 PM GMT
    PaintDude saidSorry to hear that man. I am pretty sure he did do you a favor...

    He probably is going to find a guy that will wait on him hand and foot and treat him like the princess he seems to be. Then that guy will end up hating his life.

    You're worth more than that.


    Thanks, man. It totally sucks, but I guess we'll see what happens in the future. This is why I don't date! Haha. But like Dan Savage always says..."All of your relationships will fail...until one doesn't."
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    Jul 08, 2011 10:33 PM GMT
    Fuck him for his body. Leave him for his attitude.