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So, I'm looking at the mysinglefriend website and it seems that almost all the men in their 30s are looking for someone between the ages of 25 and 40 but not above. Hohum, what's that all about? Does something mysterious happen to us once we hit 40?

People live past the age of 40???

Who knew?

This is a kind of question one encounters on a Monday morning.. during a full moon.

I've mentioned this on another thread. I had a dating profile on another site, and I literally stopped getting replies on the day I turned forty.

Dont do 40....do 39one, 39two, 39three, etc

that would make me 39seventeen ... ah, seventeen again! ....

GEEEEEEEE 40 ?

You guys must think anyone over 40 is out of the dating pool !


Our society categorizes people in groups according to age and 40 seems to b a major wall for many to date even those OVER 40 !

We should ALL endeavor to break these stereotypes when we are younger so that we hit that wall, WE are not the "ugly, unattractive over the hill, not in the dating pool types"

Fortunately not everybody thinks that stereotypical way....

The guy I have been dating for a while is himself 40 but does not like or dislike guys based on age, but rather who that individual is.

I am the same way and luckily always have been,

Has no one seen Logan's Run? We are all supposed to go to carousel.

Thing is I get hit on by men of all sorts of age but when you go to these dating websites it's 28-38, and this is from men who are 36, 37, 38.

Well even twinkies have a shelf life.

This is such bullshit. There are sooo many hot guys over 30 and over 40 on this site.

Many of them are hotter than the guys under 25.

Age shouldn't matter much.

Would you want to date someone who descrimiates against age? Maybe it's a good way for you to weed out those unworthy!

redheadguy said Does something mysterious happen to us once we hit 40?

You die. Didn't you know that? See, you're not actually typing right now. This is all just a figment of our imaginations.

True. I have been renewed. I've come back as Chizzad's underwear. Can u imagine that?

redheadguy saidSo, I'm looking at the mysinglefriend website and it seems that almost all the men in their 30s are looking for someone between the ages of 25 and 40 but not above. Hohum, what's that all about? Does something mysterious happen to us once we hit 40?

Some men in their late 40's look very young.

redheadguy saidTrue. I have been renewed. I've come back as Chizzad's underwear. Can u imagine that?

*jealous*

I was 37 for about five years.

I think it's a sad commentary when men over 40 are already being considered undesirable, especially by those peers within, or close to, their age range.

Sure, guys in their 20s have the energy, spunk, drive, and good-looks, but that doesn't mean some men in their magnificent 40s can't be the 20-something equivalent. Considering that I'll be the BIG four-oh in a couple of years, I've always been attracted to guys closer to my age range for generational and maturity purposes with each passing year. When I was 22, I always preferred someone plus or minus 3 years. So now that I'm 38, my range is 35 to 41. Of course, being a gym-goer factors in importantly, too, but for the most part, it's a shame someone over 40 can now be "considered" a no-no to many gay guys.

Just goes to show what a bad, shallow face the gay community continues to project to the rest of society.

men over 40 are horrible to date.

Can you elaborate please.

redheadguy saidTrue. I have been renewed. I've come back as Chizzad's underwear. Can u imagine that?

The Buddha has been on the reincarnation waiting list for his undies for years! You lucky bastard.

As someone still new to my 40s, I have one things to say -- I'll get you, my pretty! You and your little dog, too!

ursamajor saidHas no one seen Logan's Run? We are all supposed to go to carousel.

Show us your palm usramajor! Runner!

RedHeadGuy askedAre men over 40 too scary to date?

Yes.

Hmmm...well I admit I am one of those guys who puts there upper limit of potential candidates at 40. It seems that in general that 40ish seems to be the age that...how do I put this...their years of experience begin to show on the outside. Granted there are always exceptions to the rule but in general I don't find guys in their 40s as attractive as guys under 40. Call me shallow, call me whatever you want but thats me. I have also found that guys in their 40s seem to be ready to pick out china patterns after the 2nd date. I don't know if thats a sign that they are getting desperate to settle down and seeing the dating pool shrink before their eyes, or if their years of experience has shown them what they like and they just know it when they see it.
I admit I am not that far off from the big 4-0 and yes it makes me a little nervous. I find now that my lower age limit for dating has come up. Generally I have always dated guys significantly younger than me ( my last ex just turned 24) but am seeing guys closer to my age as more appealing for dating now.

Again, just my opinion. I have several friends who are 40 and older who I care about deeply, but I just have no interest in dating them.

"Guys are like parking spaces, they are either taken or handicapped"

TallGWMvballer saidGEEEEEEEE 40 ?

You guys must think anyone over 40 is out of the dating pool !


Our society categorizes people in groups according to age and 40 seems to b a major wall for many to date even those OVER 40 !

We should ALL endeavor to break these stereotypes when we are younger so that we hit that wall, WE are not the "ugly, unattractive over the hill, not in the dating pool types"

Fortunately not everybody thinks that stereotypical way....

The guy I have been dating for a while is himself 40 but does not like or dislike guys based on age, but rather who that individual is.

I am the same way and luckily always have been,

"Ewww." Is all I think about dating guys that are 40 years old. Besides not having ANYTHING in common with a generation that far past, the creepiness facter would be off the charts.

Like the time my uncle tried to put the moves on me when I was 12. Wasn't cool then and it isn't cool now.

Besides my personal experiences/observations, i'm sure 40+ guys aren't all bad

Hot looks does not a good mate make.

Rhodielifter saidHmmm...well I admit I am one of those guys who puts there upper limit of potential candidates at 40. It seems that in general that 40ish seems to be the age that...how do I put this...their years of experience begin to show on the outside.

I actually think that makes guys even hotter. I sometimes find the pseudo-perfection of the hot 20s set to be a tad dull.

I will raise my hand and say that I totally dig guys in their 40s.

I dig Chewey. I'm over 40.

NNJfitandbi saidI dig Chewey. I'm over 40.

Rawr. The feeling is mutual.

Rhodielifter said
"Guys are like parking spaces, they are either taken or handicapped"

Hey there are some of us that are "unoccupied"! Seriously though, while it might be true that some older guys skew towards the LTR, I've met some younger guys that are hungry for it too. I'm not sure what the rush is for either age since it's not like anyone's baby clock is ticking.
I think it has more to do with ageism in general. the gay community is simply a reflection of the straight community in that sense.

I think it's difficult for the older/younger thing to work. Younger guys don't tend to have the same resources (disposable income, standard of living) or the same perspective as older guys.

What's wrong with dating in your age range? You shouldn't expect some guy 10 years younger to find you attractive enough (personality wise and physically) if you don't find guys in your own age range attractive? Does that make sense?

More sense than my ramble of a last post, anyway...

When I was in my 20s I dated a few guys in their 40s. Nothing long-temr ever came of them (more's the pity), but I did enjoy their company and, well, they were incredibly hot.

Just another anecdotal data point for this discussion.

RyanOji saidWhat's wrong with dating in your age range? You shouldn't expect some guy 10 years younger to find you attractive enough (personality wise and physically) if you don't find guys in your own age range attractive? Does that make sense?

More sense than my ramble of a last post, anyway...

Nothing wrong with one's own age range. In fact, it's excellent. Nothing wrong with looking outside it either for some variation.

redheadguy saidSo, I'm looking at the mysinglefriend website and it seems that almost all the men in their 30s are looking for someone between the ages of 25 and 40 but not above. Hohum, what's that all about? Does something mysterious happen to us once we hit 40?

Boy, I'm really not interested in dating guys under 40. I want someone around my age. I figure if I got rejected by the youngin's, that just save me from rejecting them.

I'm sorry, but this is NOT a dig at 20somethings being creeped out by lechorous fortysomethings this is more aimed at guys in their late 30s who have 40 as their cut-off date.

That's all.

Yeah... a few creep past that fortieth line

.... I'm livin' proof

redheadguy, I'll date men in their 40s now I'm 35 too!

Playing Doctor Phil here guys have this thing about 40 because their Dad's had something about over 40.His Mistresses had to be under 40. Yeah but Dad's under 40 rule might have had a meaning he want you to have half brothers and sisters. Sad fact is that gay guys can not have kids. So 40 yo rule makes no sense.

it's the number, nothing more. it probably makes them feel older, which, of course, gay men fear like commitment.

For me it's preference, nothing to do with ageism. Why do people always seem to try to make more out of something than it really is usually.

I've always been most attracted to my age and younger, didn't plan it that way, just how I'm wired. I have some good friends that are 40+, none that I would date though. There are exceptions and if I did happen to meet a guy that I clicked well with and thought there was more, I'd date them, 40 or not, I've yet to meet that person though. I certainly don't close off my mind to the possibility though.

I did not give you permission to use my photo. I'll sue, Smithers, release the hounds.

MikeOnMain said[quote][cite]RedHeadGuy asked[/cite]Are men over 40 too scary to date?

Yes.



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I consider myself to have died from old age at 30, and this is my heaven! And if they think I'm to old to do, I can always pimp somebody else out and watch (heh, heh)! Black don't crack.

I don't understand why guys in their 40's would only look for guys between 25 and 40. There are a lot of good-looking, intelligent and fit guys in their 40's, 50's and beyond.

I must admit one problem I see is a significant number of guys let themselves go physically as they get older. Grossly out of shape guys of any age are not an attraction to me, but maybe that is just my peculiar taste IDK. After all "bears" seem to do quite well in the gay community.

One consideration for me is that, on average, guys close to my age haven't kept themselves in the greatest of shape and can't keep up physically. That's not so true on this site, but proves out in the general dating pool. That said, I'd much rather date a hot guy close to my age than significantly younger, for the simple fact that our life experiences will be less dissimilar. But I've found guys anywhere from 25 to 60 attractive, so there isn't a set-in-stone age range for me.

Oh, I have a long ways to go before I know.

Yeh, you might as well just forget about life once you get past 40. No more fun, no more sex, you suddenly turn ugly & no one will even talk to you anymore, it all just suddenly ends on that fateful last day of the 39th year.

I think anyone age 30 and beyond is a worthless drain on society. These people need to immediately be dipped in trans-fats and fed to hungry lesbians.

Oh, wait...nevermind.

But really, I think maybe it's because people looove to generalize. "Nobody beyond 25...beyond 30...beyond 40..." It's easier by far for guys to claim an arbitrary limit and then make case-by-case exceptions, I suppose. I think it's a bit silly, but, well...so are a lot of people.

zdrew saidI think anyone age 30 and beyond is a worthless drain on society. These people need to immediately be dipped in trans-fats and fed to hungry lesbians.

shouldn't we be dipped in batter first and then deep fried?
oh, and don't forget to marinade first.
marinading is very important. the lesbians like a good marinade.

I personally think one should stay within an age bracket around one's own age.

As you go thru life, you change both in personality and experience. The chances for forming a real and lasting relationship is best with folks closer in age to you.

Now this doesnt mean you cant have friends that are of any age.

Staying within your own age bracket is laudable, but it gets kind of lonely when you find yourself in that post-99 category & you're still horny!

Well I still think this whole discussion really is kind of funny. It is not in my experience (in any way, at any time) that I (or most guys I know over 40) would be excluded because of age.

Most would never think I was 40. The whole idea of exclusion or "being scarey" makes no sense to me at all. I would think it would be "less scarey"....

I think the people that put limits on the age of a guy to date are REALLY missing out on some quality guys. When I met my bf, I knew he was older than me..but thought by only a few years. We never discussed it and I never asked. All I knew is that we enjoyed each others company and just clicked. Funny thing... I new what day his birthday was on...never asked how old tho. After we'd been together a few years..I found out he was actually 16 yrs older. HAHAHAH.. I never asked his age...nor did it matter. All I knew is that I met a great guy and I was happy. So after almost 11 yrs...people still think we're about the same age and when people card him at clubs and such they say, Wow..I would have guessed you were in your 30's.

SO, you never really know how old that guy that you've been eyeing at the gym really is... give it a chance, you never know how it will turn out.

May you all get to my stage. My limits are they must be ambulatory and not use a walker. As we used to say in the military, if it moves I salute it.

I think when many guys who are under 40 meet a single guy who is over 40, the first thing they think is "What's wrong with him?"

Timberoo saidI think when many guys who are under 40 meet a single guy who is over 40, the first thing they think is "What's wrong with him?"

Some of us simply choose to be single...

Interesting comments, there is a definite agism issue in the gay community. However, I go the other way, I often think anyone under 40 is only interested becasue of my money. And who wants to train a chippy? LOL

eh? what's that sonny? i can't hear a thing since I am over 40--speak into my earpiece here...

swimbikerun said[quote][cite]Timberoo said[/cite]I think when many guys who are under 40 meet a single guy who is over 40, the first thing they think is "What's wrong with him?"

Some of us simply choose to be single...[/quote]

I'm not saying it, I think it's just part of our culture. Even though we are gay, we still are conditioned to think there is a time when you are supposed to settle down.

seventeenth said However, I go the other way, I often think anyone under 40 is only interested becasue of my money. And who wants to train a chippy? LOL

Um..thats like the issue in reverse and what the hell is a "chippy" ?

seventeenth saidInteresting comments, there is a definite agism issue in the gay community. However, I go the other way, I often think anyone under 40 is only interested becasue of my money. And who wants to train a chippy? LOL

I'll soon turn 70. I figure that perhaps that's getting old enough so that I may get an increasing number of LTR offers each year (since the probable waiting time will be shrinking).

Timberoo said
I'm not saying it, I think it's just part of our culture. Even though we are gay, we still are conditioned to think there is a time when you are supposed to settle down.

Ahh, yeah I see. I personally have played house twice and have no desire (at least for now!) to do so again.
I agree that people are conditioned to think that simply "settling down" in and of itself is a desirable goal.

I've found it much easier to get a, um, "date" with someone under 40 than over.

Many men over 40 -- straight and gay -- think it's some kinda positive reflection on their virility and appearance if they can seduce a young thing. "It's flattering," they invariably say.

The effect is that many older men exclude one another.

There are exceptions.

After viewing the above posting, I think the impossible has happened, I have become straight. I need to break the bad news to my partner tonight.

OMG!

swimbikerun said[quote][cite]Timberoo said[/cite]
I'm not saying it, I think it's just part of our culture. Even though we are gay, we still are conditioned to think there is a time when you are supposed to settle down.

Ahh, yeah I see. I personally have played house twice and have no desire (at least for now!) to do so again.
I agree that people are conditioned to think that simply "settling down" in and of itself is a desirable goal.[/quote] ------------------------------------------------------------------------- in reference to "a time when you are supposed to settle down" do you mean a time to "GROW UP". I don't think anyone should do what people generally think we are "SUPPOSED" to do, Everyone has to satisfy their own lives in their own way, and if your aim in life is to please others by doing what your "SUPPOSED" to do by "SETTLING DOWN", you do yourself disservice at any age, let alone over 40. In some peoples eyes Swimbikerun should settledown and stop exerting himself on his swim/bike/runs, some would tell a 90 year old man he shouldn't go dancing every saturday night (I know a man 103 who still goes dancing) mayber he should "SETTLE DOWN" ya think !!!! he's old enough to isn't he ? at any age anyone can be an adult, a "GROWN UP" "MATURE" acting person, but fit in any kind of activity. The question of "WHAT IS NORMAL" for different age groups, whether your in your 20/30/40/50/60/70's, I've come to the conclusion that normal is whats right for the individual, so don't put these age groups into some class where it is (whatever it is means-lol) Ok to do this or that up to age____ but "YOUR SUPPOSED TO SETTLE DOWN" if your over this age___ Just live men !!! Just live !!!! Don't put yourselves into these classes of ages where you cannot abide someone over this age___ or that age___ cause inveriably everyone will not fall into the catagories that people set for different age brackets. At avery age we are alive, we should LIVE IN A WAY THATS COMFORTABLE FOR OURSELVES !!!!!!!!!

redheadguy: your headline is a guaranteed threadstarter.

From my 49 year-old point of view, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I consider myself lucky for being attracted mostly to guys in the 45-60 range.

I also hope, for the sake of those guys who don't get turned on to older guys, that their tastes change with time.

I'm not disgusted by older men that go after 20-somethings. I just hope they manage to get some every couple of years.

If anyone is offended by anything I wrote, that was not my intent.

Sorry for these double posts, but I just had to say,

right on, RealLifeDad!!!!!

I must admit one problem I see is a significant number of guys let themselves go physically as they get older.

Sweeping generalisation alert, there are plenty of obese 20somethings who've left themselves go.

To be fair, I think it's the fault of the website I was looking at which makes members state an age that they are interested in rather than have it as an optional feature so it does give the impression that everyone is in some sort of Logan's Run conspiracy.

as far as i am concerned guys over 40 move to the FRONT OF THE LINE!!

I think people use 40 as the age cut off because people over 40 generally "look their age". And not to sound shallow, but we all know looks matter. I'm not here to hate though, I was in a relationship with a man over 40 for several years and he was great.

Lets make a twist on this how many of those 20's something guys Who sets the age limit at 40 woudl change that if the "right" guy that is a man with 8 or more figures in the bank came along?

obscenewish saidI've found it much easier to get a, um, "date" with someone under 40 than over.

Many men over 40 -- straight and gay -- think it's some kinda positive reflection on their virility and appearance if they can seduce a young thing. "It's flattering," they invariably say.

The effect is that many older men exclude one another.

There are exceptions.

I wonder what the families of victims of 911, or the thousands of people who lived through 911 (like me) would think of your cartoon?

The cartoon doesn't work for me.

swimbikerun said[quote][cite]ursamajor said[/cite]Has no one seen Logan's Run? We are all supposed to go to carousel.

Show us your palm usramajor! Runner![/quote]

Renew! Renew! Renew!

joeindallas saidLets make a twist on this how many of those 20's something guys Who sets the age limit at 40 woudl change that if the "right" guy that is a man with 8 or more figures in the bank came along?

EXCELLENT POST

Not at all! i find that men over 40 are WAY better to date then men around my age and even in the 30's. The guy im dating now is 42 and he is a great great guy.

I often hear cries of racism and ageism when it comes to the sort of guys people will or won't date. As someone who is pushing 40, I still think this is a bogus argument. What our hormones want for us is not subject to political correctness! Get over it guys.

XRuggerATX saidI often hear cries of racism and ageism when it comes to the sort of guys people will or won't date. As someone who is pushing 40, I still think this is a bogus argument. What our hormones want for us is not subject to political correctness! Get over it guys.

I've never felt sexier, fitter and more on top of my game. I rock the socks off anyone (under or over 40) and open up a whole new world for them. Us older guys have skills........

KissingPro said
I wonder what the families of victims of 911, or the thousands of people who lived through 911 (like me) would think of your cartoon?

The cartoon doesn't work for me.

I was living in Manhattan on 9/11, was downtown during the collapse, and had friends that died. So since you asked, I think the cartoon is funny. Altho it did turn me straight.

K

XRuggerATX saidWhat our hormones want for us is not subject to political correctness!

What our hormones want is balance. I think you may be personally attracted to a (younger) type, but your hormones aren't doing all of that. Put you naked in bed with a muscular 60-year-old who smells good and your hormones will achieve balance, one way or another.

Guess I'm not much of an endocrinologist. Let me rephrase...horny penises are not subject to political correctness! ;-)

...and yours is a compass needle pointing toward relieving the boner. Your penis is way less discriminating than you are.

mickeytopogigio said...and yours is a compass needle pointing toward relieving the boner. Your penis is way less discriminating than you are.

Mine's blind. And very sensitive.

OK fine I'm wrong about all this.

Hey Redheadguy- as per previous thread - Not only are we better over 40 - we are WISER

i posted something about this on another forum ... anyway, i'll post it again ... for emphasis ... here it is ...

well, my boyfriend is 52 ...

and i realized that age does not matter ...

what matters to me is ...

let me count the ways ...

me & my boyfriend have chemistry ...

me & my boyfriend are compatible ... even if we belong to different cultures and nationalities (my boyfriend is white and i'm a pacific islander) ...

me & my boyfriend understand one another ...

my boyfriend loves me and care about me ...

i also love my boyfriend and i care about him ...

me & my boyfriend always have fun together ... whether watching a movie ... doing our errands ... or going to gay bars to dance (i don't drink except water but my boyfriend drinks but he does not get drunk but he gets horny when we are together) ...

and of course, me & my boyfriend always have "pornstar" sex ... we always have sex for more than an hour ...

and after sex, we still kiss ... hug ... cuddle ...

in other words, im happy with my boyfriend ... and my boyfriend is happy with me ...

so, who says that men over 50 (or over 40) are too scary to date?

i guess it depends on the person ... everyone is different, ya know ...

maybe i'm lucky ... because it just so happened that i found my boyfriend (again, he's 52) who i have been looking or searching for in my entire life ...

cheers !!!

XRuggerATX saidI'm wrong about all this.

No, Rugger, I'm just trying to goad you into a mercy fuck so that I can be properly rejected. I'm confident I'll disappoint you somewhere along the exchange; I just thought your rejection was awfully premature.

redheadguy saidSo, I'm looking at the mysinglefriend website and it seems that almost all the men in their 30s are looking for someone between the ages of 25 and 40 but not above. Hohum, what's that all about? Does something mysterious happen to us once we hit 40?

I agree with everyone who says age is just a number and it's really a "fit" that is important.

On the other hand if feeling too old is an issue for you don't go to those websites. Try bigmuscle.com or bigmusclebear.com, they have tons of hot guys over 40. But maybe you think "ewwww I'm not a bear!" Can you really consider yourself a "jock" either? Gay.com has chat rooms for people 40 or older or places like yahoo that has groups for people over 40. You may be surprised how many guys in their 20s and 30s are looking for older wiser guys who aren't necessarily "ready to settle down" but maybe guys who are over the bars and club scene. And if you think going to a club or bar is the indicator of how much fun your life is well then you probably have some other issues you need to deal with.

Pick the places you look for potential partners or FBs or friends wisely.

GESSSHSHH guys WHY do we make our attractions about AGE alone?

When you put limits on age (high, low or wherever) we exclude the chances of meeting someone that might just be the love of your life.

To the guys who said they are only attracted to younger than themselves, I have known many like you when they were young and they nearly always turn into bitter, self loathing, lonely guys as they themselves age, Pity.
To DingDong, GOOD FOR you two! You describe an Ideal, wonderful, fulfilling love relationship.... when I read it, I smiled and almost cried at the same time.

BRAVO!

Hey Redheadguy- as per previous thread - Not only are we better over 40 - we are WISER

I'm not sure about this one in my case, I still make crappy decisions.

Hmm...according to an urban legend, women over age 40 have a better chance of being killed by a terrorist than of getting married.

Would a heterophilic marriage equate a gay date?

i love men over 40.

well, most of the guys I have dated have been...67 or more....

...inches tall...

- David

your 30s is the end of our youth. it "tis all gone by 40. We are now middle aged. Middle aged is not young, unless you are 90.

One is 46, and proud of it, I've walked ever step of those years. Survived my mom, the 1970s, and 80s, and 90s, and soon the norty's.

Funny when one turned 40. I kept getting: you don't look 40, or you don't act 40. Now how is a 40 yo meant to act.

So for you guys in your 30s. remember you are in the last days of your youth. Once you tune 40, you are old in gay years, but middle aged in str8 years.

Well, I just turned 50 on Saturday and I'm still date-able...aren't I? AREN'T I????

Hello? Is there an echo in here????







(trudges off with cane to play bridge at the Senior Citizens Center)

redheadguy saidSo, I'm looking at the mysinglefriend website and it seems that almost all the men in their 30s are looking for someone between the ages of 25 and 40 but not above. Hohum, what's that all about? Does something mysterious happen to us once we hit 40?

Don't sweat it. When I personally say an age preference usually it's not in stone and it's more about over all appearance. For example, I'm personally attracted to guys who appear around the ages of 27-42. They could actually be 18-50 in reality. If there are people who are anti a certain age you might be missing out. The best sex I've ever had was with men in their mid 30's to 45. At least he said he was 45 but looked about 35. He had all the passion I desire when it comes to intimacy. Could have taught a class on it. Even when I was in my 20's I wasn't really attracted to that twink look. Yes! We dig the 40somethings!!!

l have neve dated over 35 ever? But if Richard Gere or William Baldwin showd up maybe or look alikes?

CuriousJockAZ saidWell, I just turned 50 on Saturday and I'm still date-able...aren't I? AREN'T I????

Hello? Is there an echo in here????







(trudges off with cane to play bridge at the Senior Citizens Center)

happy B'day. Your gay seniors card is in the mail.

Thank you...I've already received some mail from hearing aid companies and the AARP

redheadguy saidSo, I'm looking at the mysinglefriend website and it seems that almost all the men in their 30s are looking for someone between the ages of 25 and 40 but not above. Hohum, what's that all about? Does something mysterious happen to us once we hit 40?

I hit 40 over 22 years ago. Do I feel my age?--a few sore joints. Do I look my age?--the wrinkles show. But--inside--I don't know what it all means in that I am unable to tell the difference between 26 or 62 in my--soul? Anyway--those who set limits are limited. If they so choose--then so be it. For me--that just helps weed out those with whom I would be wasting my time. drfrank

There is an ad on RealJock:


That is hilarious

No, they are yummy to date!!

It's all about the attraction.
I'll admit I'd prefer someone closer to my age rather then to my parents but if the chemistry is there and the feeling is mutual then it's game on.

Besides some things are better with age

Well, I must say I use to think dating a guy over 40 was undersirable. But as I have gotten older I have changed with my age bracket. Not so much into the young guys I use to like so much.
I think about the time I hit 31 I was ok with dating a guy in his early 40's. I think for me I will go as much as 5 years younger and up to 10 years older.

Yes, I am Godzilla and I wear Depends

Men over 40 ARE scary to date. Frequently, they are in fantastic shape without looking like gym bunnies. Often, their voices are sexier and deeper than a younger guy's voice. To make matters worse, they are more confident, assertive and financially stable.......and they have the nerve to pick up the check more often than a younger guy. To top it all off, experience in the sac frequently puts the younger guy in a state of bliss and satisfacion.

Doesn't all of that sound horrible?

The question should be are men under 30 too scary to date? I think I am much less neurotic, happier, more confident and in better shape then when I was 29.

Sure I have some grey hair, and a few wrinkles around the eyes when I smile, but I can run 3 miles a day in the morning and not be out of breath, and I still have the libido of a guy in his twenties.

Plus I can treat you to a nice dinner at a good restaurant and not bat an eye at the prices.

The forties are great guys, trust me.

We're like certain great varieties of wine - we're better with age. Most intelligent, hot guys have found that out. My friends and I who are past 40 and not partnered have as many dates as we did in our 20s. We just take care of ourselves, live clean, work out, stay smart and safe - its all good!

Scary may not be the word... but intimidating. Some guys on here I've expressed it to them first hand (y'all know who you are)... but right now I am just so fascinated by fellow RJ-er smalltownboy
http://www.realjock.com/profile/?id=9698
...he's 46???
Now I wanna be like him when I hit 46! 60 even.

There are guys in their 40's who won't date guys over 40 so it works both ways.

On this site, BM, DudesNude and many others the hottest guys are over 40.

You are right Zimster smalltownboy is 46 going on 30!

Wysiwyg60 saidYou are right Zimster smalltownboy is 46 going on 30!

You mean 27.

redheadguy saidSo, I'm looking at the mysinglefriend website and it seems that almost all the men in their 30s are looking for someone between the ages of 25 and 40 but not above. Hohum, what's that all about? Does something mysterious happen to us once we hit 40?

It's a huge turn-off to me when a 40 year old places their age range for dating at 18-39. It's like...you're perfectly comfortable dating someone young enough to be your son, but a guy 1 year older than you is scary in some way?

And while we're on the topic and venting..
It bugs me when guys say "you look great for your age." FOR YOUR AGE.. WTF? You mean, if I were 30 I wouldn't look great? It's a back-handed compliment at best.
And another thing that bugs me is when guys say, I don't normally date guys your age, but I'll make an exception for you. Oh really? I have several degrees, a great job, a beautiful home, financial stability, and I'm extremely active. And you're going to make an exception based upon whether or not I may or may not appear a few years younger than my chronological age... please don't bother.
Ok, I'm done. Thanks for indulging my rant.

Next time some twink says, "You look great for 46!" I'm going to answer, "So do you!"

Shouldn't you have reported to Carousel by now for "Deep Sleep"? Should I call the Sandmen?