Date a fat guy?

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    Jul 10, 2011 1:45 AM GMT
    OK, so I was texting with this guy, and he sent a few pictures that made him look like that good amount of thickness (Not a fan of twinks here)... But u know, when a guy's got a few extra pounds, but carries it well and its almost bear cub cute... but wayy less than if you google bear cub (jesus icon_eek.gif )

    But then I see facebook and I'm like, wow, is he pushing 200lbs? (and not much muscle mind you)... Soooo

    Jesus what the fuck do I do.... I guess I'll have to see in real life? Some pics look good, others look terrible. What am I going to see in real life?
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    Jul 10, 2011 1:48 AM GMT
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    Jul 10, 2011 1:49 AM GMT
    it's more a matter of if you like the guy, i dated a fat guy, more so just a beer belly, but that's not why i never saw the guy again, i never saw him again because he had a shitty personality and projected all of his emotional issues onto me immediately.
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    Jul 10, 2011 1:50 AM GMT
    new_guyme saidOK, so I was texting with this guy, and he sent a few pictures that made him look like that good amount of thickness (Not a fan of twinks here)... But u know, when a guy's got a few extra pounds, but carries it well and its almost bear cub cute... but wayy less than if you google bear cub (jesus icon_eek.gif )

    But then I see facebook and I'm like, wow, is he pushing 200lbs? (and not much muscle mind you)... Soooo

    Jesus what the fuck do I do.... I guess I'll have to see in real life? Some pics look good, others look terrible. What am I going to see in real life?


    It's just a date, have at it!

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    Jul 10, 2011 1:54 AM GMT
    Really? Judge the book by the cover 2nd or 3rd hand, as a picture? ....Grow up and go MEET the guy in person. Be civil and courteous. If his build is an issue after a personal first-hand meeting, then just end the meeting and move along to your next conquest......Being a civil, courteous and honest guy is so rare in the gay dating world and it really shouldn't be........do the right thing and treat him the way you want to be treated.
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    Jul 10, 2011 1:58 AM GMT
    Yes yes, I'm going on the date....

    just never know whats going to turn up in Maine. Last guy was well over 100lbs more than his photo and I just had to say, listen, I cant do this... Another guy was 15 years older than he said...

    And I've had a long string of consecutive dates where I have been deceived in the last 6 months... either by age / weight / personality, etc... just so people could actually get to the date part I guess, and I'm left there with huge disappointment after so much hope and excitement. Personality is only a piece of the equation. Maybe i'm shallow, but I want to be attracted to the guy I'm going on a date with.

    Its getting fucking old! I just want someone decent, who takes decent care of their body, with a decent personality of a decent age. Is that so much to ask>??????

    Sorry to rant. Slim pickins up here.
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    Jul 10, 2011 2:05 AM GMT
    lying is a different scenario. last guy i saw lied about his age, came clean on the first date. also said he was interested in dating and our dates turned into just sex visits icon_confused.gif

    im not sure if i should've just said fuck you to the guy and been out or not... i think we're becoming good friends though, so maybe that's worth a little trouble.

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    and about the slim pickins, MA is just a state away! i know what you're talking about because i looked through the area on dating sites. maine is fuckin empty.
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    Jul 10, 2011 2:08 AM GMT
    new_guyme saidYes yes, I'm going on the date....

    just never know whats going to turn up in Maine. Last guy was well over 100lbs more than his photo and I just had to say, listen, I cant do this... Another guy was 15 years older than he said...

    And I've had a long string of consecutive dates where I have been deceived in the last 6 months... either by age / weight / personality, etc... just so people could actually get to the date part I guess, and I'm left there with huge disappointment after so much hope and excitement. Personality is only a piece of the equation. Maybe i'm shallow, but I want to be attracted to the guy I'm going on a date with.

    Its getting fucking old! I just want someone decent, who takes decent care of their body, with a decent personality of a decent age. Is that so much to ask>??????

    Sorry to rant. Slim pickins up here.


    You should always ask to see a webcam first, i learned this mistake before. That way you will know pretty much for sure if youre attracted to the guy, at least physically- or not
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    Jul 10, 2011 2:13 AM GMT
    I've dated guys my height (5'9") that weigh over 200 lbs. As long as they have the football built (i.e. muscle under the fat) then I totally dig their extra fat. I'm fine with keggers and love handles and all that. I don't prefer straight up fat guys, or skinny-fat guys. Gotta have SOME muscle in there.
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    Jul 10, 2011 2:15 AM GMT
    Sporty_g saidReally? Judge the book by the cover 2nd or 3rd hand, as a picture? ....Grow up and go MEET the guy in person. Be civil and courteous.


    Oh noooo this is not an issue of being civil and courteous. I see it as "what are the odds that I'm going to waste my time meeting someone with misleading pictures?" I see no harm in asking for a handful of pictures before making an informed decision. Would you rent out a room for a week based on one picture? Or based on a handful of pictures? Oh but you should just grow up and go rent out every room you see only one picture of because that's being civil. ;)

    I think it'd be courteous to give someone the time of day if you mistook them for someone else. But then again you can always forget courtesy and exchange it for valuable time and just be honest. Unfortunately not everyone appreciates honesty, but my time is my time and I'll admit I'm pretty fucking selfish. icon_eek.gificon_cool.gif
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    Jul 10, 2011 2:21 AM GMT
    JakeBenson saidI've dated guys my height (5'9") that weigh over 200 lbs. As long as they have the football built (i.e. muscle under the fat) then I totally dig their extra fat. I'm fine with keggers and love handles and all that. I don't prefer straight up fat guys, or skinny-fat guys. Gotta have SOME muscle in there.


    EXACTLY, you get it.
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    Jul 11, 2011 11:53 AM GMT
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    Jul 11, 2011 12:00 PM GMT
    My second bf was overweight, I don't think you should rule someone out for being overweight, they might be great for you.

    As it turns out, he wasn't right for me and now he's much fatter, but I don't regret it.
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    Jul 11, 2011 12:05 PM GMT
    Ask him to take a snapshot of himself shirtless or wearing a form-fitting shirt.
    It's funny how many people stop responding when I ask for that.
    Saves me lots of headache. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 15, 2011 3:02 PM GMT
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    Jul 16, 2011 8:43 PM GMT
    Hm it's kind of hard for me to say. I'm not really attracted to straight up fat guys really. The only type of fat guys I'm attracted to are like what JakeBenson said, with some muscle underneath it.

    But I probably would go on the date just to see what he was like in person and to be nice. But I understand where you are coming from. It sucks being lied to about age/body/height/etc. Hope the date goes okay for you.