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    Jul 11, 2011 9:52 PM GMT
    That is a stereotype that may have some basis to it. I certainly see a lot of older white guys with younger Asian guys in Toronto (Asians age better so the difference in years may not be so great). Not sure why though. Is it because Asian men are attracted to other qualities that older men usually have (e.g. more mature, established in life, etc.)? Just speculating.

    I personally have always been an equal opportunity gay man. As long as the guy had a good heart, a nice smile, and a nice butt, then I was interested. Turns out I fell in love with a Filipino man 10 years younger, which took me by surprise (I thought he was too young, but he was mature for his age).
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    Jul 11, 2011 10:32 PM GMT
    Asians age better? I was 23 when someone mistook me for a highschool student icon_eek.gif thats why I never completely shave my face. I always leave a goatee icon_surprised.gif well thank you for your reply. Appreciated it. Have a good day ahead of you icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 11, 2011 10:42 PM GMT
    LOL. Every young person, regardless of race or whether they have any pics on their profile, gets hit up by older men on dating websites. You'll do it too when you get old, unless, of course, you enter a lasting relationship soon.
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    Jul 11, 2011 10:52 PM GMT
    surreallife saidThat is a stereotype that may have some basis to it. I certainly see a lot of older white guys with younger Asian guys in Toronto (Asians age better so the difference in years may not be so great). Not sure why though. Is it because Asian men are attracted to other qualities that older men usually have (e.g. more mature, established in life, etc.)? Just speculating.


    To further expand on the stereotypes: younger gay Asian men don't normally go for other Asian men (for reasons I'll save for another thread. icon_wink.gif ), but rather try to get with white guys only. The younger white guys normally don't go for Asian guys, so they "settle" for older white men rather than date guys of other non-white races their own age. (I'm sorry if this comes off as ageist, I'm really not at all!)
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    Jul 11, 2011 11:23 PM GMT
    I think your right. After matured white men, blacks send me the most messages, i think theyre hot, but never had the privilege to hook up with one icon_neutral.gif. The third are latinos. When asians pm me I dont usually reply. Im a racist, I hate asians icon_twisted.gif
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    Jul 11, 2011 11:31 PM GMT
    covina1987 saidWhen asians pm me I dont usually reply. Im a racist, I hate asians icon_twisted.gif


    In case you aren't being sarcastic, I'm just curious...why don't you go for other Asian guys? What is it about Asian guys that turns you off? I'm not trying to reprimand you or anything, I'm just trying to understand this phenomenon because I catch myself doing it sometimes, too...icon_redface.gif
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    Jul 11, 2011 11:39 PM GMT
    Don't buy the stereotypes...they do a great disservice to the huge variety of gay and Bi men. Hot is hot according to your personal preference and intentions. If someone only wants $$$ or a "green card" to have a fast track for immigration in some places, that's what they will try to exploit. Older/more mature guys, generally, are just less inhibited and more sure of what they want....if you are so fortunate to look younger than your age, well of course you will get hit on! It is a compliment of sorts.....have some standards and enjoy the options!
    Take care.icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 11, 2011 11:54 PM GMT
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    covina1987 saidWhen asians pm me I dont usually reply. Im a racist, I hate asians icon_twisted.gif


    In case you aren't being sarcastic, I'm just curious...why don't you go for other Asian guys? What is it about Asian guys that turns you off? I'm not trying to reprimand you or anything, I'm just trying to understand this phenomenon because I catch myself doing it sometimes, too...icon_redface.gif


    Im a fourth generation filipino - american. But I grew and studied in the philippines. I had my fair share of asians already. Just migrated here 2 months ago and I want to taste something new. I only ate filipino steak for 3 long years(4 years ago I was straight) icon_cool.gif and now I want to try american food!!! I only managed to eat 1 in two months. icon_sad.gif
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    Jul 11, 2011 11:56 PM GMT
    Sporty_g saidDon't buy the stereotypes...they do a great disservice to the huge variety of gay and Bi men. Hot is hot according to your personal preference and intentions. If someone only wants $$$ or a "green card" to have a fast track for immigration in some places, that's what they will try to exploit. Older/more mature guys, generally, are just less inhibited and more sure of what they want....if you are so fortunate to look younger than your age, well of course you will get hit on! It is a compliment of sorts.....have some standards and enjoy the options!
    Take care.icon_lol.gif


    Although I cant imagine a gay asian getting a green card by marrying a white! Haha. You take care too, okay?
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    Jul 12, 2011 1:45 AM GMT
    You're a good looking guy. So maybe it's that the older guys are just better at recognizing what "hot" means while younger guys are still trying to figure out what a 401k is. It's a retirement plan, by the way....
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    Jul 12, 2011 1:51 AM GMT
    covina1987 saidI noticed this in a few dating sites, 80% of all incoming messages where from guys 40 years old and over. Why is this so?
    It's because people get brain damaged around 40 and think anything with a pulse is hot.

    /sarcasm
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    Jul 12, 2011 1:57 AM GMT
    Brownale saidYou're a good looking guy. So maybe it's that the older guys are just better at recognizing what "hot" means while younger guys are still trying to figure out what a 401k is. It's a retirement plan, by the way....



    I am? Thanks! icon_smile.gif i assure you while most guys my age are partying, i on the other hand think about mortgages (rent is better), taxes and basically anything involving the future. And im about to have two college degrees too.
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    Jul 12, 2011 2:06 AM GMT
    I'm SOOOOOOO sick of these stupid stereotypes!
    I'm attracted to men regardless of age and race. Im not looking for a sugar daddy, im not gonna be someones geisha boy and i dont always bottom.
    If you meet me in person throw these dumb stereotypes out the door, they dont apply to me.
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    Jul 12, 2011 2:09 AM GMT
    Hm, I just think it's all personal preferences that can't really be generalized. There are certainly younger white gays that go for asians and vice versa. However, I must admit, I'm attracted to outside of my race icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 12, 2011 2:13 AM GMT
    I'm old. I love hot asians. I don't like them any more than I did when I was 20. Maybe it's a demographic thing. Older white gay guys have more internet access than younger gay white guys? I have no clue.
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    Jul 12, 2011 2:16 AM GMT
    GigoloAssassin said I'm SOOOOOOO sick of these stupid stereotypes!
    I'm attracted to men regardless of age and race. Im not looking for a sugar daddy, im not gonna be someones geisha boy and i dont always bottom.
    If you meet me in person throw these dumb stereotypes out the door, they dont apply to me.


    Are you mad at me? Well I too am attracted to all, except asians (just for now, I had too much asians in the past, and some are also ILL TEMPERED). Im a 100% bottom unlike you, but got penetrated just once in my entire life icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 12, 2011 2:19 AM GMT
    GigoloAssassin said I'm SOOOOOOO sick of these stupid stereotypes!
    I'm attracted to men regardless of age and race. Im not looking for a sugar daddy, im not gonna be someones geisha boy and i dont always bottom.
    If you meet me in person throw these dumb stereotypes out the door, they dont apply to me.


    This. Well said icon_biggrin.gif

    aggiepack11 saidHm, I just think it's all personal preferences that can't really be generalized. There are certainly younger white gays that go for asians and vice versa. However, I must admit, I'm attracted to outside of my race icon_smile.gif


    I have to admit that this is true, from personal experiences. icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 12, 2011 2:19 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidI'm old. I love hot asians. I don't like them any more than I did when I was 20. Maybe it's a demographic thing. Older white gay guys have more internet access than younger gay white guys? I have no clue.



    I do not tolerate the word "old" well. I prefer mature. So please. icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 12, 2011 2:34 AM GMT
    covina1987 saidI noticed this in a few dating sites, 80% of all incoming messages where from guys 40 years old and over. Why is this so? I have nothing against them, I just find it awkward because in the Philippines young girls who date older straight guys are usually in just for the money and maybe to have a chance to get here. (Though admittedly that isnt always the case) cheers icon_biggrin.gif -francis




    There's some truth to stereotypes. Other than that I've seen everything in Toronto, and Vancouver. Asian men with white women, white men with Asian women, Asian guys with white guys of all ages and combinations.

    The guys that complain the most seem to be the ones that go for big contrasts, such as short and thin for huge or very tall. That is hard. That is small market in an already small market.
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    Jul 12, 2011 2:50 AM GMT
    The guys that complain the most are also often the ones that reject Asians themselves. OP being prime example. icon_confused.gif
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    Jul 12, 2011 2:56 AM GMT
    my friends call anyone who isnt Asian that hooks up with an Asian chick..."Asianizers" lol i just dont know if that can be applied to gay men :p
    they will produce beautiful babies tho :p
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    Jul 12, 2011 3:01 AM GMT
    howser_hunter saidmy friends call anyone who isnt Asian that hooks up with an Asian chick..."Asianizers" lol i just dont know if that can be applied to gay men :p
    they will produce beautiful babies tho :p


    LMAO we call them infected with yellow fever.

    Vancouverite2004 saidThe guys that complain the most are also often the ones that reject Asians themselves. icon_confused.gif


    I find this to be very true. I don't like guys who whine or complain. My general rule in life is that: If you can't change it, accept it. If you can, do something about it.
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    Jul 12, 2011 3:03 AM GMT
    Vancouverite2004 saidThe guys that complain the most are also often the ones that reject Asians themselves. OP being prime example. icon_confused.gif


    took the words out of my mouth , Im an asian who is in my early 20s and do not just go for older men regardless of race , and definitley do not limit to only white guys , you'll eventually learn to appreciate everybody , just have to give guys that chance , Im actually very attracted to mixed races their so godamn exoctic icon_razz.gif
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    Jul 12, 2011 3:08 AM GMT
    def not a fan of these white-only asians—they give everyone a bad rap