Defenseon saidGenerally (and more often lately) I find that if I hang out with someone more than two times in a public setting without any privacy I have a HARD time being anymore then their friend. That initial lusting feeling goes away quickly once we've establish something more than appearance.
Hmm... it sounds more to me like you had an initial sexual attraction to them, but after you met perhaps were not turned on by your social chemistry with them in that regards
in other words, perhaps, one of you (or both) realized you just wouldnt be compatible after meeting. You were attracted to them physically, but in other ways one or both of you did not feel that spark of attraction when you actually met...
at least, that's how it can be with me sometimes. You just don't feel that connection-