Dilemma-getting rid of stuff parents made for you

  • Profire

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    Jul 13, 2011 3:58 AM GMT
    I am really stressing about something now.
    I have a dilemma and not sure the right answer.

    My mom, who died several years ago, whom I loved dearly, was a tenacious quilter. I have wall hangings, pillows that turn into blankets, short cover quilts, large quilts, XXL size quilts. I have probably 20 in total.

    Here is my dilemma. I have nowhere to keep them.
    I have moved from a 3 story townhouse to a 2 bedroom apartment and now I live in a loft apartment and I don't know where to store them. Plus, my decorating is not "country chic" so I wouldn't use or display them.

    I will never have kids, my only sister will most likely never have kids (even if they would want them), so not sure there is a reason to hold onto them. Plus, if I held onto them until I died, they would probably be thrown out or donated.

    So, do I keep them and find a space for them somewhere in the apartment or is is ok to donate them to a needy charity where I know they will use them?
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    Jul 13, 2011 4:00 AM GMT
    donate! better to donate them than to have them sit in storage.
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    Jul 13, 2011 4:17 AM GMT
    Donate! They should be used and by donating them you will make someone very happy.
  • JP85257

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    Jul 13, 2011 4:26 AM GMT
    I would die before I gave any of my hand made quilts away. My granny made me so many of them for me.

    I am, however giving my first baby quilt to my brother's first child that should be here any time.
  • Orias

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    Jul 13, 2011 5:13 AM GMT
    If you get a vaccuum bag you can seal them all and they'll take up the space of just 1-2. You'll just have to revaccuum them once a month.
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    Jul 13, 2011 5:33 AM GMT
    Keep like five of your favorites (forever), and gift the others away to people you want to have them. Don't let all of them go though. You'll regret it when you're older.
  • ohioguy12

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    Jul 13, 2011 5:41 AM GMT
    There are several things that I keep around strictly for sentimental value. I won't use them at all, but I keep them around just for the memories they represent. If I did get rid of them, I think I will regret it down the road. So I'd get a cedar chest or something to store them in.
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    Jul 13, 2011 5:59 AM GMT
    Charities will sell them to be shred up and used as filler.
  • JP85257

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    Jul 13, 2011 6:04 AM GMT
    I have the chair I used to sit in as a kid at granny's dinner table. its falling apart and I cant wait to fix it. I also have my granny's vacuum cleaner. I refuse to get a new one lol
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    Jul 13, 2011 6:22 AM GMT
    Give items to friends. Make sure the friends really want the items. I've given most of my worldly possessions to my friends and they still have and use the stuff. I experience great joy seeing my friends enjoying what was my stuff.

    Give the rest to Women's and Children's Shelters. They always need comfortable stuff made out of love.

    Know that your mother's love will continue to live on and bless others as you give her crafts to those who will appreciate them.

    The one thing I personally wouldn't do is "sell" any of them. That would cheapen their memory and the love that your mother put into each item.
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    Jul 13, 2011 12:06 PM GMT
    wow my Mom is prolific when it comes to making stuff - quilts, knitting etc etc - you really made me think about what's going to eventually happen because I don't even have room to keep the stuff she's given me let alone whatever she might have planned.
    There's nothing wrong with donating of course - maybe something that was a special interest of hers? Mine is really into all kinds of charities, missions, animals rights - so it should be pretty easy.
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    Jul 13, 2011 12:29 PM GMT
    Do you have pictures of them? If you have a lot of them, I also wouldn't mind paying for shipping for one if you're looking to get rid of them.
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    Jul 13, 2011 12:33 PM GMT
    I think you got some good advice here. You'll feel better about getting rid of these things if you know they are going someplace where they will be valued. Even if you sell them modestly on Ebay, you can take some comfort in knowing that the people who bought them really wanted them.
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    Jul 13, 2011 12:35 PM GMT
    Take pieces from each quilt & make one big quilt...
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    Jul 13, 2011 12:46 PM GMT
    I have numerous quilts that were my mother's. However, they were given to her by her mother. Most of them were made between 1900 and into the 1940's. There is one that my great-grandmother made, my grandmother added to, and my mother also added to.

    I have a cedar chest that they are stored in and I rotate them, using them just to decorate the 125 year old bow bed I have. There are only a couple that I actually use during the winter.

    I would never part with mine since I'm the third generation. l will save them for other family members later on.

    I, too, fear that you will come to regret (in later years) letting them go. I think people that are sentimental, tend to get more sentimental as the years pass. I could be wrong. In time, your sister may decide she wants some.

    If for some reason I had to part with most of mine and no family members wanted them, I would be more likely to give them to friends that would want them rather than charity. Too many of the recipients of "charity" will not treasure something like the quilts. Gift them to friends or friends on here that have expressed an interest. At least, like someone else stated, you'll know they were wanted....

  • rnch

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    Jul 13, 2011 12:46 PM GMT
    i'd be Pleased and Proud to have a couple of the quilts!



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    my Grandmother made some wonderfull quilts...but my Selfish Sister won't let go of even one of 'em.


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  • Profire

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    Jul 16, 2011 6:49 PM GMT
    I took everybody's opinion and kept the quilts.

    I rented a small storage unit and put more stuff in along with the quilts.

    Thanks for everybody's opinion.