A friend of mine has seriously fallen for a 'straight' man. That guy is married and has 2 kids with the woman he knows for 15 years.

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    Jul 13, 2011 2:19 PM GMT
    My question for the forum is: How should he move ahead?

    That guy is straight and has politely turned down his offer; nor did he sympathize with my friend icon_sad.gificon_sad.gificon_sad.gificon_sad.gif

    Have you ever loved a straight man? How did you manage to move on. My friend and that guy happen to be neighbors icon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gif
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    Jul 13, 2011 2:21 PM GMT
    I think all gay men who are longing for a relationship should go back in the closet and pretend to be straight, because most gay men tend to crush on "straight" guys.
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    Jul 13, 2011 2:41 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI think all gay men who are longing for a relationship should go back in the closet and pretend to be straight, because most gay men tend to crush on "straight" guys.


    You are right! But that complexes the things. You can't on somebody else's man icon_razz.gificon_razz.gificon_razz.gificon_razz.gif
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    Jul 13, 2011 5:30 PM GMT
    Hard to feel sorry for someone who wants someone that's already taken.
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    Jul 13, 2011 5:32 PM GMT
    Move!
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    Jul 13, 2011 5:34 PM GMT
    dinoalexit saidMy question for the forum is: How should he move ahead?

    That guy is straight and has politely turned down his offer; nor did he sympathize with my friend icon_sad.gificon_sad.gificon_sad.gificon_sad.gif

    Have you ever loved a straight man? How did you manage to move on. My friend and that guy happen to be neighbors icon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gif



    I suspect it's you and not a "friend," but nevertheless: How can you fall for somebody who's married, with kids, and has made it clear he's not interested in you??? You manage to move on by realizing how silly the whole thing was and never put yourself in that position again. And by "you" I mean your "friend."



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    Jul 13, 2011 6:30 PM GMT
    Even though I never want to judge others, I feel nothing but pity for your friend. The guy is married and has two kids. Even if he didn't have kids and was miserable, he is still married. Your friend needs to back off and think why is he attracted to an unavailable man. What will he gain from this investing in something that will bear no fruit? Only heartache and disappointment awaits this path if he decides to walk it.
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    Jul 13, 2011 7:01 PM GMT
    i've had the same thing in the past, i found when i started exploring more of the gay culture i lost most of my interest in straight guys. go somewhere with lots of gay people and keep an open mind. at this point, having had relations with someone who's really open about being gay, i can't imagine letting someone disrespect me for my sexuality again.


    also, regardless of sexuality, he's married, you have to learn how to recognize that while it looks great it's not an opportunity.
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    Jul 13, 2011 9:28 PM GMT
    You just have to let it go. It is the road to nowhere.
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    Jul 13, 2011 10:01 PM GMT
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    maxjf saidHard to feel sorry for someone who wants someone that's already taken.


    Well said. And these two guys were already friends for fifteen years? Or just acquaintances? If they were friends and the gay guy violated the friendship after so long by throwing himself at a married man he really crossed a boundary by doing so.


    Agreed. Why should the straight guy sympathize with your friend. He didn't do anything wrong.
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    Jul 13, 2011 10:14 PM GMT
    dinoalexit saidMy question for the forum is: How should he move ahead?

    That guy is straight and has politely turned down his offer; nor did he sympathize with my friend icon_sad.gificon_sad.gificon_sad.gificon_sad.gif

    Have you ever loved a straight man? How did you manage to move on. My friend and that guy happen to be neighbors icon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gif

    Let me recast this scenario. Let's assume we're all straight (horrors) and the object of our attention is the wife. What would you say then?

    Is she taken? Is she happy with her husband? Should we try to bust-up the marriage? I think most of us would agree it's hands-off.

    Well, he's hands-off, too. Nor would I ever dream of trying to break-up the many gay couples we know. When 2 people are together, they are together; end of story. Next topic...
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    Jul 22, 2011 7:29 AM GMT
    heheheicon_lol.gificon_lol.gif:
    That HE is here and reading the thread icon_redface.gificon_redface.gificon_redface.gificon_redface.gif

    And that HE is not ME icon_razz.gificon_razz.gificon_razz.gif

    But I agree to what you just said icon_smile.gificon_smile.gificon_smile.gif
    DJBoston said
    dinoalexit saidMy question for the forum is: How should he move ahead?

    That guy is straight and has politely turned down his offer; nor did he sympathize with my friend icon_sad.gificon_sad.gificon_sad.gificon_sad.gif

    Have you ever loved a straight man? How did you manage to move on. My friend and that guy happen to be neighbors icon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gif



    I suspect it's you and not a "friend," but nevertheless: How can you fall for somebody who's married, with kids, and has made it clear he's not interested in you??? You manage to move on by realizing how silly the whole thing was and never put yourself in that position again. And by "you" I mean your "friend."



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    Jul 22, 2011 7:40 AM GMT
    Well said icon_razz.gificon_razz.gif

    mayBbignow said"has politely turned down his offer; nor did he sympathize with my friend"

    So did he sympathize?

    Anyway, out of all the queers out there he chooses a straight guy?
    Not a good look my gay brothers....
    While its ok at and up until college- after that.. It really has to taper off

    There is nothing ok after crushing over and following guys who naturally have no interest in you.
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    Jul 22, 2011 7:42 AM GMT
    Very well said! I hope it makes sense to him....

    Art_Deco said
    dinoalexit saidMy question for the forum is: How should he move ahead?

    That guy is straight and has politely turned down his offer; nor did he sympathize with my friend icon_sad.gificon_sad.gificon_sad.gificon_sad.gif

    Have you ever loved a straight man? How did you manage to move on. My friend and that guy happen to be neighbors icon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gif

    Let me recast this scenario. Let's assume we're all straight (horrors) and the object of our attention is the wife. What would you say then?

    Is she taken? Is she happy with her husband? Should we try to bust-up the marriage? I think most of us would agree it's hands-off.

    Well, he's hands-off, too. Nor would I ever dream of trying to break-up the many gay couples we know. When 2 people are together, they are together; end of story. Next topic...