Sometimes people do change for the better

  • metta

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    Jul 13, 2011 5:13 PM GMT
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    Jul 13, 2011 5:43 PM GMT
    How easy, to beg for forgiveness. Talk is cheap.

    If I were this kid I'd have kicked his redneck ass to the curb.
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    Jul 13, 2011 5:55 PM GMT
    Tazo995 saidHow easy, to beg for forgiveness. Talk is cheap.

    If I were this kid I'd have kicked his redneck ass to the curb.


    Why? No matter what he is the father and how great of him, at the age of 72 coming to his son and apologizing and begging for forgiveness. Family is bound by blood no matter how much someone may deny. I salute the father and the son for acting the way he did and not turning his back. Bitterness and hatred are toxic for the soul. When you hate you begin to invest in something that will have no positive return. Hatred and anger will consume and corrupt you eventually
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    Jul 13, 2011 6:03 PM GMT
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    Tazo995 saidHow easy, to beg for forgiveness. Talk is cheap.

    If I were this kid I'd have kicked his redneck ass to the curb.


    Why? No matter what he is the father and how great of him, at the age of 72 coming to his son and apologizing and begging for forgiveness. Family is bound by blood no matter how much someone may deny. I salute the father and the son for acting the way he did and not turning his back. Bitterness and hatred are toxic for the soul. When you hate you begin to invest in something that will have no positive return. Hatred and anger will consume and corrupt you eventually


    Based on what I read here this isn't your run of the mill dad that had an issue with this son being gay, this guy went very far with it for many decades - now that he's getting older and nearing the end, he's probably fearing for his poor little soul.

    There are some things that are unforgivable, and where it really is a matter of "you should have thought of this 30 years ago". It's not about the close mindedness itself, it's about lacking the basic civilization to control one's behaviour.

    More power to this guy for making amends with his dad, but if it were my father I would have told him he can look for somebody else to speak at his funeral and wished him to burn in hell - this guy deserves to feel miserable. That many years of suffering needs to be punished, the same way that an old nazi still deserves to be hanged 50 years after the fact.
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    Jul 13, 2011 6:24 PM GMT
    Forgiveness is for the 'victim' and not aggressor here. The victim needs to let go of the hatred and resentment built up towards the aggressor in order to move on. Even God can forgive intense remorse. Why can't you? Even if you don't believe in God, holding and feeding that hatred is not good for your soul. It will consume you and I truly hope you realize this and let it go in order to find inner peace.

    I don't know why you'd even bring the nazis up in this topic. It is not even remotely relevant.
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    Jul 13, 2011 10:32 PM GMT
    This brought tears to my eyes.

    People do change. Sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse.

    My own Father & I reconciled at the end of his life. And damn, I do miss him so much now.

    No, this makes perfect sense to me. Sons & fathers always battle, and then... they often find each other again. I found mine. I'm glad if this guy found his.
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    Jul 14, 2011 1:05 AM GMT
    But they reached a peaceful state in their relationship. The father can live the rest of his life and die knowing that he made amends and attempted to right a wrong. The son can life a richer and more fulfilling life by demonstrating the capacity to forgive and allowing himself to love his father.

    I think it's a great story.
  • hartfan

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    Jul 16, 2011 4:05 PM GMT
    Very touching and inspiring. Thanks for sharing, metta.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jul 16, 2011 4:14 PM GMT
    Tazo995 saidHow easy, to beg for forgiveness. Talk is cheap.

    If I were this kid I'd have kicked his redneck ass to the curb.
    that is sad too because if he was your father and died the next day you would hate yourself for accepting his apology. i think it is great that his father was able to come around and see how wrong he was. anyhow, i think is great.
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    Jul 16, 2011 4:27 PM GMT
    Nice for them, but yeah 72...I see it all the time in my work. They are worried no one will take care of them; lock them in a home some where.
    I wish I could forgive; to a certain extent I have: I'll pay for the place so the grand kids, who don't know the man I do, can come see him in relative comfort, but if he died tomorrow; doubt I'd find a tear.