NOH8 Campaign

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    Jul 14, 2011 2:31 AM GMT
    I realize the NOH8 Campaign focuses mainly on supporting same-sex marriage, but I think there should be a similar campaign that is directed within the gay community. There is way too much "hate" and "bullying" among gay guys. Gay clubs are full of judgmental and caddy boys who like to poke fun and gossip about the out-of-shape and unattractive guys in the bar. A lot (not all) of gay guys will judge the quality of the guy based on the label of his clothes, the number of abs on his stomach, or the amount of body shots he can take. I'm not suggesting that we all form a circle with our hands and sing Kumbaya, but I think gay guys should be more conscience about what they say and do. We all talk about how immature and disgusting high school kids are when they bully, gossip, and judge other kids for being fat, ugly, or gay, but the gays who act the same are no better. Sorry, just had to rant.
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    Jul 14, 2011 2:53 AM GMT
    Relevant:http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1674191?forumpage=1

    When issues like the ones you pointed out are rampant primarily amongst Homosexual males it begs the question why the strong push for marriage?
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    Jul 14, 2011 4:37 AM GMT
    Faceless, bud you nailed it. I can't put it any better. It is such a double standard.
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    Jul 14, 2011 4:55 AM GMT
    faceless saidI realize the NOH8 Campaign focuses mainly on supporting same-sex marriage, but I think there should be a similar campaign that is directed within the gay community. There is way too much "hate" and "bullying" among gay guys. Gay clubs are full of judgmental and caddy boys who like to poke fun and gossip about the out-of-shape and unattractive guys in the bar. A lot (not all) of gay guys will judge the quality of the guy based on the label of his clothes, the number of abs on his stomach, or the amount of body shots he can take. I'm not suggesting that we all form a circle with our hands and sing Kumbaya, but I think gay guys should be more conscience about what they say and do. We all talk about how immature and disgusting high school kids are when they bully, gossip, and judge other kids for being fat, ugly, or gay, but the gays who act the same are no better. Sorry, just had to rant.


    you didnt even mention racism. is it not a big of a deal? it didnt occur to you did it? all because it doesnt happen to you, you don't see it, therefore you dont care. typical.
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    Jul 14, 2011 5:21 AM GMT
    There is a big difference between acceptance and wanting to **** someone.

    From the 501(c)(3) perspective: I have made my closest friends of all shapes, sizes, colors, nationalities, and even yes *gasp* religions from my volunteerism. If we see each other out and about at Whole Foods we acknowledge each other and catch up on things, meet the new partner, LinkedIn request them if they are anyone worth knowing etc.

    From the being gay perspective: if a really gross person (look how neutral this is, it is entirely based on your OWN perceptions of what gross is to you) starts hitting on you at a bar and offering to pay you money to massage him at the local La Quinta, then yeah, say "**** NO" unless it is a lot of money and your budget really is tight this month.

    The difference? Maybe get to know someone in a situation where it is about other things than sex, cheap compliments, and power dynamics. A lesson for the non-A&F models such as myself.

    My personal experience is that the gays who do community service are much more well-rounded than the "clubbing gays" and can understand how to segregate personal and professional issues, rather than trying to bang the "hot guy"

    Acceptance: warm happy shiny lucky go-go fun time when sex is not involved
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    Jul 14, 2011 5:26 AM GMT
    faceless saidI realize the NOH8 Campaign focuses mainly on supporting same-sex marriage, but I think there should be a similar campaign that is directed within the gay community. There is way too much "hate" and "bullying" among gay guys. Gay clubs are full of judgmental and caddy boys who like to poke fun and gossip about the out-of-shape and unattractive guys in the bar. A lot (not all) of gay guys will judge the quality of the guy based on the label of his clothes, the number of abs on his stomach, or the amount of body shots he can take. I'm not suggesting that we all form a circle with our hands and sing Kumbaya, but I think gay guys should be more conscience about what they say and do. We all talk about how immature and disgusting high school kids are when they bully, gossip, and judge other kids for being fat, ugly, or gay, but the gays who act the same are no better. Sorry, just had to rant.



    I love you....hahaha well put bud! I couldn't agree more!
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    Jul 14, 2011 5:35 AM GMT
    spaghettimonster saidThere is a big difference between acceptance and wanting to **** someone.

    From the 501(c)(3) perspective: I have made my closest friends of all shapes, sizes, colors, nationalities, and even yes *gasp* religions from my volunteerism. If we see each other out and about at Whole Foods we acknowledge each other and catch up on things, meet the new partner, LinkedIn request them if they are anyone worth knowing etc.

    From the being gay perspective: if a really gross person (look how neutral this is, it is entirely based on your OWN perceptions of what gross is to you) starts hitting on you at a bar and offering to pay you money to massage him at the local La Quinta, then yeah, say "**** NO" unless it is a lot of money and your budget really is tight this month.

    The difference? Maybe get to know someone in a situation where it is about other things than sex, cheap compliments, and power dynamics. A lesson for the non-A&F models such as myself.

    My personal experience is that the gays who do community service are much more well-rounded than the "clubbing gays" and can understand how to segregate personal and professional issues, rather than trying to bang the "hot guy"

    Acceptance: warm happy shiny lucky go-go fun time when sex is not involved


    This +100.
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    Jul 14, 2011 5:37 AM GMT
    I agree!!

    This, however, is a problem with ALL minority cultures, not just gays
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    Jul 14, 2011 10:53 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra said
    faceless saidI realize the NOH8 Campaign focuses mainly on supporting same-sex marriage, but I think there should be a similar campaign that is directed within the gay community. There is way too much "hate" and "bullying" among gay guys. Gay clubs are full of judgmental and caddy boys who like to poke fun and gossip about the out-of-shape and unattractive guys in the bar. A lot (not all) of gay guys will judge the quality of the guy based on the label of his clothes, the number of abs on his stomach, or the amount of body shots he can take. I'm not suggesting that we all form a circle with our hands and sing Kumbaya, but I think gay guys should be more conscience about what they say and do. We all talk about how immature and disgusting high school kids are when they bully, gossip, and judge other kids for being fat, ugly, or gay, but the gays who act the same are no better. Sorry, just had to rant.


    you didnt even mention racism. is it not a big of a deal? it didnt occur to you did it? all because it doesnt happen to you, you don't see it, therefore you dont care. typical.


    I think this response is a little much.. How can you expect someone who has never experienced the negative effect of racism to have that at the front of his mind at all times? Do you think if you were straight that gay rights would be a big deal to you? No, because it wouldn't be on your mind. So he forgot to mention something, that doesn't mean he doesn't care about it. Don't blow things out of proportion on what is meant to be a friendly thread.