...Am I doing something wrong?

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    Jul 14, 2011 3:01 PM GMT
    I have been on this site for a few months now and I feel like when i message some guys, even to just say hi, I get ignored. I like to think I am decently handsome and thought that more guys were more friendly to just want to chat. I mean I have been in the chat rooms and have turned on my cam to flex a little from time to time because I feel that that is the only way to attract a guy to talk to them on this site. Is there something else I am missing?
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    Jul 14, 2011 3:52 PM GMT
    I'd suggest that you you could try to participate in more discussions. Building up a 'identity' so guys get to know you might help get you responses and verifying your profile might not hurt either. I don't see any reason why they wouldn't want to talk to you though. What messages do you send to guys? A lot of guys hate the 'Hi, how are you?' kind of messages. They're tedious and go nowhere.
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    Jul 14, 2011 4:01 PM GMT
    miznew201 saidIs there something else I am missing?
    Me. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 14, 2011 11:06 PM GMT
    Item one: Ditch the Hollister shirt.
    Item two: Fill out your profile with something substantive about your likes/dislikes rather than conclusory and self-serving statements that you are "pretty nice" and have a "good sense of humor" -- two things that are impossible to tell until we know your personality you choose to express on the forum and in private messages.
    Item three: Seriously, get rid of the Hollister shirt.
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    Jul 14, 2011 11:08 PM GMT
    your here to chat but only have 4 posts on the forum.

    Perhaps you need to participate in the forum more.
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    Jul 14, 2011 11:13 PM GMT
    That's the gay community for ya. Put out, sell out, or be ignored.

    Hold on to that integrity for it's worth more than the attention!
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    Jul 27, 2011 3:44 AM GMT
    ok i changed stuff up on my profile...any better?
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    Jul 28, 2011 12:37 AM GMT
    My advice is to say more than "hi". Being ignored is part of this whole online thing so don't take it too seriously. It's pretty much the same drill on any online site really. Just keep trying. I find that writing something more substantial on your profile might help.

    miznew201 saidI have been on this site for a few months now and I feel like when i message some guys, even to just say hi, I get ignored. I like to think I am decently handsome and thought that more guys were more friendly to just want to chat. I mean I have been in the chat rooms and have turned on my cam to flex a little from time to time because I feel that that is the only way to attract a guy to talk to them on this site. Is there something else I am missing?

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    Jul 28, 2011 7:46 AM GMT
    spaghettimonster saidItem one: Ditch the Hollister shirt.

    Item three: Seriously, get rid of the Hollister shirt.


    Superficiality like this is rife online, and nowhere more than on the Gay sites. icon_rolleyes.gif I know for damn sure I'd get 1000 times more attention if I were half my age and had twenty pics of myself at my "ideal" weight in a designer jockstrap. Guess what, I don't care! Making friends online is fun, but my everyday social life is A-OK. (I have gotten some good connections with nice guys on RJ - lil' ol' 52 y/o private-pic-only me - so if this is important I can tell you it IS possible. icon_smile.gif )
    Get out in the real world some more, without a smartphone or laptop or iPod. Before you know it you'll wonder why you spent so much time putting on cam shows to get somebody to say hi.
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    Jul 29, 2011 12:53 AM GMT
    Its easy to be impolite online... don't take it personal... even though it feels personal. (Easier said that done...)