Should i take him back or get rid ???

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    Jul 15, 2011 1:44 AM GMT
    Been dating a guy for two months now and the other night we had an argument an he was being sooo nasty with me, it's unreal. And when i tried talking about it he tried turning it on me ect... Anyway i stormed out an went home, an i was that pissed off i decided to have nose on his fb an found out he had been messagin other guys throughout our whole relationship! We broke up last week and the day we broke up (i found this message on fb) he had gone messagin other gay guys saying 'im single again' ect and saying how much of a prick i am to them :O if he cared about our relationship you wouldn't do that the day we broke up? ) but after we first broke up he begged to get back with me. And i also found a message from one of his friends on fb an he told her he was going to meet his ex bf so he can help him do a cv (this was the night he was supposed to meet me, but didn't cause he was "tired" and i called him out on this one an he said they didn't meet (yeah but they were planning to) ! I'm so pissed off, he's literally been begging me to take him back all night an he said i want you, and only you an that those messages ment nothing because he wasn't gonna do anything with them. But correct me if i'm wrong, that's not the point, when your in a relationship it's not ok to go messaging an chatting other guys up behind your partners back. I think it's so dissrespectful to go around doing that. Fair enough he might have not of on cheated me (whos knows tho?) but how do i know he wont? He's broke my trust. I really did like this guy but i've always said if someone cheats on me no second chances, but i cant trust him anymore! Should i break it off for good?


    I've also noticed during sex (i'm a top) that he never wants to take it anymore cause it hurts? does this sound dodgey to anyone?
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    Jul 15, 2011 2:05 AM GMT
    For you to even consider going back with him is a sign of codependency and desperation.
  • mybud

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    Jul 15, 2011 4:17 AM GMT
    So you're saying you NEVER flirt on this site with another guys...come on....flirting is harmless.....Listen.....he's telling ya he's sorry and wants ya back....if love still exists...get past this petty bullshit and take him back....Simple as that.....BUD
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jul 15, 2011 4:24 AM GMT
    if you can not trust the person than you should not be in a relationship with that person
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    Jul 15, 2011 4:24 AM GMT
    Flirting with other guys while in a relationship still seems wrong to me O.o
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    Jul 15, 2011 4:28 AM GMT
    you've just answered your question. you don't trust him.....then say your goodbyes.
  • Rawrdo

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    Jul 15, 2011 7:04 AM GMT
    Hate to be a negative Nancy over here but just because a guy begs you to go back doesn't necessarily mean much. I should know, it has happened to me and on one occasion the guy changed his tune in 1 week.That aside, personally, I'm the kind of guy that does believe in second chances, I mean nobody is perfect. Having said that, I also believe a person has to EARN that second chance. I wouldn't just give it out the moment they say I'm sorry, actions do speak louder than words, and they are valued much more by their frequency. If I were in a similar situation, and if I really liked the guy (not just desperate for having any guy as a boyfriend) then I'd sit down with the guy and most likely tell him I'd like to put reverse on the relationship and try going back to just dating to see if there's anything worth the salvage. Like other people have said trust is important, and if it's no longer there then the relationship is doomed unless you and your significant other try to work through it. Just remember though that some people see through things differently. I know that some people see no harm in flirting while in a relationship, while others do not think that's the right behavior. Neither side is right, as it is an opinion, but a compromise needs to be reached between the mismatches as to avoid hurting each other later on.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Jul 15, 2011 7:19 AM GMT
    Fair enough he might have not of on cheated me (whos knows tho?) but how do i know he wont? He's broke my trust. I really did like this guy but i've always said if someone cheats on me no second chances, but i cant trust him anymore! Should i break it off for good?

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    Jul 15, 2011 1:53 PM GMT
    I would think you should just drop him, obviously if has time DURING your relationship to chat it up with other guys he can find the time to do it outside of your relationship. Don't let him get to you when he is begging, its better to just back out now then to get caught up in something you will regret later.

    In his defense, going by what you said at the bottom of your post, "im a top" maybe he's just tired of literally getting fucked all the time. Certainly it couldn't hurt to switch it up a little bit. Its not fair to your partner if your a designated pitcher. Seriously...
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    Jul 15, 2011 2:40 PM GMT
    You broke up. Why are you reading his FB? That borders on stalking man. Make a clean break and move on. In other words, grow a pair and stop checking on your ex BF thru FB. He's a grown man and entitled to do and say what he pleases.
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    Jul 15, 2011 2:41 PM GMT
    don't do it... you'll be sorry. only way I can describe it for you is like taking a bite out of the same turd twice.
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    Jul 15, 2011 2:48 PM GMT
    Why did u fall in love with him? Is it still kicking? If no move on mate.
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    Jul 15, 2011 2:53 PM GMT
    There is no way, you should take him back UNLESS you want to repeat that whole scenario again. YOU ARE BETTER than all of that, move on!!
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    Jul 15, 2011 3:02 PM GMT
    Throw that twat under a damned bus and say ooops!



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    Jul 15, 2011 6:18 PM GMT
    There's nothing more vital in a relationship than trust. Once the trust is broken, the relationship itself is irretrievably broken.