Since ones sexuality does not define one as a whole, and the fact gay has been hijacked by every Tom Dick and Harriet, as a guy who has never been with a women, and I'm secure within my sexuality, never hid, or lived a lie. The fact that I'm also secure within my gender and masculinity; guys who get hooked on being a "real man", have issues of insecurities. I'm not worried if some may feel it represents fem. But either way it does not represent one.
I was talking about my husband the other day. Had no trouble talking about my man, or our relationship. But...........One just could not use the "Gay" word, as since it's now been hijacked by every Tom, Dick, and Harriet, who may not even be gay. But then my sexuality does not defined one as a whole!