I would say there are two answers too...
If being Gay and part of the Gay Community is how you define who you are, then absolutely yes. You will be more likely to be effected by statements or actions against anyone individual or group you define as gay.
When you here that FOF states that a loving marriage between a man and a woman is the best environment to raise children, and therefore do not think gay marriages is a good thing, you think, "All Christians are Homophobic, therefore all Christians hate me." That's not Fair!"
If being Gay doesn't define you as a person, but merely a component of who you are, then no. You are more likely to understand an individual statement or action as a individual action or statement, that I may or may not need to worry about.
When you here that FOF states that a loving marriage between a man and a woman is the best environment to raise children, and therefore do not think gay marriages is a good thing, you think, "I understand there point, there may be genetic deference in males and females that result in each sex bringing specific strengths to a relationship geared to raising children successfully," however we need to educate them to understand that while some gays have or want children, most gays are looking to be treated equally and allowing gays couples to have the same rights and status as heterosexual couple is not going to FOF's goals. This will take time, for the majority of people in the country to get to the point where they understand this and the laws are changed. But we will get to that point a lot quicker than if we get in there faces and call them names and demand they think like us or else. "It's not fair, but life's not fair."